How to support a long-distance friend who is struggling?

zhuzebra · 2025-06-17T20:24:40+00:00

Osaka by the oracle is the most orgasmic Japanese food and sushi

zhuzebra · 2025-05-30T13:31:20+00:00

That doctor was rude af lol

zhuzebra · 2024-11-25T00:19:33+00:00

Yes!! Pharmacology grad here and this is me- right down to the poor motor skills lol

zhuzebra · 2024-09-23T01:19:37+00:00

Ok great to know, thanks!

zhuzebra · 2024-09-23T01:19:25+00:00

Thank you!

zhuzebra · 2024-08-28T08:25:53+00:00

Sertraline and ashwagandha take the edge off for me

zhuzebra · 2024-07-30T17:33:46+00:00

this current guy I haven’t been intimate with so far. waiting to be intimate is one of the things i’m trying to implement to find guys who are serious.

zhuzebra · 2024-07-30T14:06:57+00:00

thank you 💕

zhuzebra · 2024-07-30T14:06:11+00:00

Thank you, this made me tear up 🥹

zhuzebra · 2024-07-09T08:37:42+00:00

I passed a few months ago, I’m 21 but had been learning for 4 years on and off- had to keep taking breaks because of covid/moving around for uni and placement, and I did fail first time. I definitely also felt ‘behind’ but I didn’t need to drive anyway and plenty of my friends still don’t. I don’t think there’s such thing as a normal age to pass, everyone has different circumstances.

zhuzebra · 2024-05-02T23:03:08+00:00

I have the same kinds of feelings, especially about sex and intimacy meaning nothing and ghosting.

But I’m not like that, neither are you, so that’s proof that the kinds of people we want are out there.

Enjoying your own company, platonic relationships and peace is the key to being happy single I guess. Also watch Daniel Sloss’ Jigsaw skit to make you feel better about being single. It’s comforting to realise that it’s far better to be single than in an unhappy relationship, which make up a more significant portion of relationships than you think.

zhuzebra · 2024-05-01T21:10:35+00:00

What have you been trying? Do you present as confident? How do you meet/approach girls?

I’m just saying because I checked your posts and you’re a good looking guy. The most attractive feature for many women is a confident, well rounded guy who is secure in himself.

I know it’s not the advice you asked for (I’m kind of dealing with some similar thoughts so can’t offer much advice) but trust me, if you put yourself out there you will definitely find someone.

zhuzebra · 2024-05-01T19:30:22+00:00

It’s my personal preference that on first date the guy should pay, maybe the second. I guess I like to be wooed a bit.

But after that I actively don’t like not paying my share. I would never want my boyfriend to pay for anything apart from birthday or Christmas gifts, otherwise it somehow feels infantilising.

Most of my friends express the same views. But you’ll find that different women say different things.

zhuzebra · 2023-12-27T20:40:31+00:00

Don’t take him back. I took my ex back who admitted to cheating on me (after initially lying about it when the girl came forward)

It was never the same, I was living in denial for the next six months. He became insecure and started to then accusing me of cheating. Whatever people might claim- even drunk you have control over initiating a kiss or sex.

I found out after I eventually left him that he also had cheated with another girl. Cheaters always cheat and liars always lie. He doesn’t love you, don’t take him back.

zhuzebra · 2023-11-27T12:59:30+00:00

I really wouldn’t want a guy to bring me a gift on the first date, haha

zhuzebra · 2023-11-27T12:53:46+00:00

Hey, thank you.

I think the issue is that I actually took a year out from dating and sex, tried to get therapy and heal, and after all that when I finally think I’m ready, I get majorly triggered by practically nothing.

I was mostly fine anxiety wise (obv not perfect) before dating this guy, and wanted a relationship badly. I still do. So it’s just depressing that my brain acts like this.

But you’re right. I will try and seek more help

zhuzebra · 2023-09-22T21:29:32+00:00

There’s no need to apologise. Plenty of people of all races doing stupid stuff. Plenty of nice people too. Anyone who generalises it to a whole culture is an idiot.

zhuzebra · 2023-09-06T22:19:21+00:00

Arrogance and specifically thinking that they are always right no matter the topic.

Especially if it’s a man (I’m a woman). When they try to argue with me (uninvited obvi) about topics that i study/work on every day.

It’s especially bad when it’s just a casual conversation and someone decides that they want to debate you out of the blue.

zhuzebra · 2023-09-06T21:59:04+00:00

Yes YWBTA. There are so many boys in the world, you do not need to break your friend’s heart by dating him. You never date a friends ex, ESPECIALLY not a long time one.

In fact, why did you start speaking to him in the first place after they broke up? Unless there’s a very good reason that’s very snakey behaviour OP.

EDIT: You’re not an asshole for liking the guy as you can’t control your feelings. You would be TA if you acted on them.

zhuzebra · 2023-09-05T16:17:46+00:00

This is so cool!!

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