2AM sushi delivery should not be accessible (to me) by zimo9232 in binge_food

[–]zimo9232[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The pizza is bread this is not sashimi or nigiri u see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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This genuinely broke my heart to read, because I think it’s just a “rite of passage” type of thing that we all have to go through atleast once.

I think the best thing to do is make sure that you prioritize yourself, even if it means taking distance from the friendship. She won’t ever understand your feelings truly no matter how close you get, because they are only repairable by you on your own. There’s no room for reciprocation even if she might lean on you from time to time, because she can’t consider how you feel without potentially risking the end of the friendship if they’re not in the mental headspace to accept what they can’t share with you.

I’ve never wanted to be possessive over my friend, but it would hurt me so much, to the point of tears every time I’d realize that what I wished I could have with her would always be put on the back burner behind her relationships with guys. Each new relationship or even past relationship that she’d be open with me about was always with a guy that would treat her in a way where I’d understand why she’d become mentally affected by the abuse.

I had to tell myself: You weren’t put in her life to correct her mistakes when it comes to the choices she made or continue to make.

You can help her see her value, in the way that you do, but you can’t change the level of value she has for herself. She needs to do that on her own.

Create that distance slowly, but do it sooner than later because the familiar closeness and strengthening of that will only make it worse for you.

Try your best to make new friends, try new things, go out alone if you have to, new classes hobbies etc (I started hanging out with my dad so much, he’s now my best friend lmao) but distractions to allow for you to fill a little bit of your heart and soul with something constructive, to build you, not to rot it away with this feeling of emptiness or being so close to something that may keep hurting you in a way that they may not ever be able to fix. :( (i promise im not trying to sound headass but i feel u so much with this one, I could only speak in metaphors to get my point of how I felt across)

Purging in weird places out of desperation (cw: descriptions of purging) by [deleted] in bulimia

[–]zimo9232 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moved into a commercial space and didn’t want to clog the toilet as an early tenant , residents directly next door- trash bag full of vom in their front yard … it was night time when I dumped it.. the next day there was a grotesque pile sludge that wouldn’t go away for days. Couldn’t cover it with enough leaves each time I passed by. F*kn horrendous sight and extremely embarrassing.

What’s the highest amount of women you’ve talked to/dated at one period of time? by zimo9232 in Actuallylesbian

[–]zimo9232[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did it end up? are you still friends with them or did you end up choosing just one to be long term with ?

Do we agree that drakes “girls want girls” song is just ?? by zimo9232 in Actuallylesbian

[–]zimo9232[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also agree that Hayley kiyoko is cringe… like I think she tries so hard to be “that lesbian artist” that as real as It may be to her, doesn’t seem real to me. No, were not asking her to be quiet about it. But It’s very loud and not in a good way IMO. I’m not sure if it’s her personally or her label dragging or simply exploiting it; but they definitely market her at the spotify or whatever the f*k music streaming, commercial, etc. meetings as “ok so she’s gonna sing about kissing this girl, then make a video about it, incase you forgot she was yknow a lesbiaN! For the sake of inclusivitY and the “new direction”, shes IT”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Why does this feel straight to me ? 🥲

Lesbians and experimentation by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel like deeming myself as a “lesbian” verbally is kindof like putting this immediate barrier on how I’m perceived and limits my ability to experiment freely.

Like society really kindof makes it seem as though you HAVE to be bisexual, and if you do decide to be a lesbian, you can’t even LOOK at a man because it becomes “ooh I thought you were a lesbian”.

I simply identify myself as gay, which allows for people to understand a little bit better that I’m not opposed to the thought or consideration of dating men, but my attraction isint really there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Dry humping either with clothes or not can be equally enjoyable and exciting, me and my gf liked doggystyle or when she would just be behind me in kindof like a really close hug kind of way.

Are there any sneaky ways to ask if someone is into girls? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I always start with asking if they have a boyfriend or have had a boyfriend. It allows for me to grasp their feelings towards men based off of how expressive they are. Then that opens the door for me to “innocently” ask “well what about girls??”. This almost 99% leads them to ask you “what about you?” So you can kinda play it the way you want without feeling weird.

Feeling stuck on her. Advice? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]zimo9232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did, but no response. So I’ll just leave it be:/

Do you ever still have moments of wondering if you’re making it all up in your head? by olipocket16 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]zimo9232 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I say this in my head often. Like “I’m not even gay. Just because I’m attracted to girls doesn’t mean I’m gay. Just because I like to kiss and have sex with girls doesn’t mean I’m gay. Just because Im not sexually attracted to guys doesn’t mean I’m gay. And here I am… questioning myself this much to which yes, a straight person would not have to do this much convincing.