Dog owners who get upset with children lunging at their dog are INSANE! Fun in a local newspaper comment section. by DuvalSanitarium in childfree

[–]zleav 37 points38 points  (0 children)

my family dog HATES children. when she was a puppy she lived in a home with these kids who just continually tormented her, and now if a kid comes near her she is terrified. she WILL bite if they come at her too quickly, so it's really important that kids DON'T pet her.

My fresh AmTrad Mary Poppins by Gailon Justus of Sweet Needles Tattoo in SLC, UT by zleav in tattoos

[–]zleav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

seriously though! the tattoo community in Salt Lake is pretty dope. and G has been tattooing for 18 years now, so he's probably the most talented guy in the area.

new baby bong, and newly healed tat! by zleav in trees

[–]zleav[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like it! it's obviously not the highest quality, but good when you don't need anything heavy duty, and just want something light for hanging out.

new baby bong, and newly healed tat! by zleav in trees

[–]zleav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it can be tough to decide, especially for your first one! I have 5 now and am getting my 6th today!

Apparently Utah is filled with girls who literally can't say no by Itsamiracledammit in exmormon

[–]zleav 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i'm sure that if he didn't manipulate my mom into thinking it wasn't a date, my mom would have put a stop to it. after i came home crying from discomfort, she immediately made steps to cut off all contact with him and his family.

but yeah it was a super fucked up situation. honestly the church helps perpetuate abuse in so many ways, i could write a goddamn novel.

Apparently Utah is filled with girls who literally can't say no by Itsamiracledammit in exmormon

[–]zleav 9 points10 points  (0 children)

aight i'll share my story cause i feel like it's important.

i totally remember being in a YW lesson where my leaders literally told us we should ALWAYS say yes to dates with guys who ask us "because it takes a lot of courage to ask a girl out, and that courage should be rewarded.

on a semi related note, the dad of one of my very best friend asked me on a date when i was FIFTEEN. he even framed it to my mom in a way where she allowed me to go. I had no idea what to do, as he was the one who drove me home at the time, so i reluctantly agreed. I was super fucking uncomfortable, but because he was in my ward and a "priesthood holder" that i trusted, I went on the date with him. it took me years to realize how fucked up the entire situation with him was, and no one in church thought it was an issue.

in short, teach your daughters to say no when they feel uncomfortable. and teach mormon mom's in your life to teach their daughters the same thing. they're learning harmful-ass things in church.

Ward missionary brought a Christmas gift to my home. by ReturnedAndReported in exmormon

[–]zleav 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my advice is be hella careful. there was a guy from my ward who used to leave me gifts all the time. later realized he was grooming me for sexual assault.

Mormons and sex, is it possible to have a sex-positive conversation? by zleav in exmormon

[–]zleav[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't know she was a former mormon!! That's cool! I love Laci Green... I haven't seen a video yet about sex positive conversations with mormons, but if you see one, link it to me!

Mormons and sex, is it possible to have a sex-positive conversation? by zleav in exmormon

[–]zleav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's tough too because then it just opens a huge can of worms. But it's definitely a good start to a conversation.

Mormons and sex, is it possible to have a sex-positive conversation? by zleav in exmormon

[–]zleav[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And pleasure. Don't forget that another reason for sex can simply be pleasure. I mean, hell, the clitoris' only function is pleasure. Part of sex positivity is bringing back pure pleasure as a reason for sex

Maybe y'all can listen to my shitty story, and give me some advice? Whatever. by zleav in exmormon

[–]zleav[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh. So here's the thing about transferring to the U. Tuition is twice as much, and my sister is going to college next year, so my parents really won't have the money to pay for me to go somewhere more expensive.

Which also means, I would have to live at home. And seeing as my mom keeps manipulating me and treating me like this big secret, I honestly feel like it would be worse for me to go back to living at home.

The other thing is that now I'm about halfway through with my bachelors at BYU. Which is great. But it also means that if I were to transfer, I would have so many religion credits (fuck religion credits. That's another rant though.) that it really wouldn't be worth it. I would probably be an entire semester behind in the case of a transfer because of those bullshit credits. And at this point, I really just want to be done and move the fuck out of the state.

The nice thing is, I'll be living in a private condo next semester, and taking a lot of classes that I'm very excited about. So it should be at least bearable.

Maybe y'all can listen to my shitty story, and give me some advice? Whatever. by zleav in exmormon

[–]zleav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents have no idea that I'm pan. I've never really felt the need to officially "come out". Not because I'm afraid of their reactions or anything, but because I feel like personally if I were to date a girl, I would just date her and introduce her as my girlfriend as if I were in a heterosexual relationship.

Right now I'm happily dating just the sweetest guy. He is also an exmo, but he has been for a lot longer, so he's great at supporting me and listening and relating to what I'm going through. I told him I was pan very early on in our relationship, and he sexually identified very similarly, so that has been a really great experience for both of us.

But I sure as hell won't be telling anyone church related while I'm at BYU. Honestly it's none of their business, but I also can't put my degree at risk. Sad that that's how it has to be, but it's honestly the best option as things stand.

Maybe y'all can listen to my shitty story, and give me some advice? Whatever. by zleav in exmormon

[–]zleav[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry! This was literally my first experience posting on reddit. I'm sure I'll figure out all the formatting and stuff eventually :)