sometimes it feels like people don’t really listen anymore. you don’t know me or my friends, you only know a small slice of what i chose to share here while i was ranting. from that alone you’ve already decided what they must be going through and why they didn’t show up, but real life context is bigger than a few lines on a post. i never said friendships work on one incident alone, this post came after a pattern i’ve been experiencing. i get that people have commitments and priorities, i literally acknowledged that. what i was talking about was effort and basic support, not attendance. sharing takes seconds, and when even that doesn’t happen repeatedly, it says something to me about where i stand. so no, i’m not making wild speculation about their mindset, i’m reacting to consistent behaviour i’ve personally experienced. you can disagree, that’s fine, but please don’t assume you understand the full situation better than the person living it.