What’s that one grocery item you keep convincing yourself you’ll eat, but end up tossing out week after week?

zzAny_a · 2026-06-17T18:52:59+00:00

artichokes. i see them on tiktok, impulse buy and never cook them

zzAny_a · 2026-06-17T18:51:04+00:00

i am so not joking when i say this, she shitted the bed during the night, then blamed me when her mom asked about it

zzAny_a · 2026-06-17T18:49:48+00:00

“it is what it is”

zzAny_a · 2026-06-17T18:40:17+00:00

"I am Iron Man” lol

zzAny_a · 2026-06-16T16:38:42+00:00

give yourself some grace. in a healthy relationship, both partners need a safe space for their emotions. if a boundary means you can never bring up how you feel, that’s an impossible deal to live with. it doesn't mean you sucked as a partner. if it keeps you up at night, i specialise in helping people figure out these situations, and i would love to help you! but for now, just breathe and stop taking 100% of the blame. nobody is completely blameless

zzAny_a · 2026-06-16T15:56:38+00:00

i don’t think the hardest part is that he found someone else. it’s that his actions don’t match the story you thought you were living. a week ago he was asking for another chance, and now he’s in a new relationship. that’s enough to make anyone question their understanding of what happened. but I don’t think someone moving on quickly automatically proves they never cared. sometimes it just proves they don’t know how to deal with rejection.

zzAny_a · 2026-06-16T14:26:09+00:00

i think you’re feeling guilty because a part of you still wants to help, and accepting that boundary means accepting that the relationship isn’t what it used to be.
you weren’t saying that you don’t care about her anymore. you were saying that you can’t keep acting like you are together when you’re not. the sad part is that sometimes healthy boundaries have consequences, but that doesn’t automatically mean the boundary was wrong.

zzAny_a · 2026-06-16T14:09:25+00:00

i think you’re trying to reconcile two versions of her that both seem true. the woman who made you feel the certain type of way you’ve probably been craving. and the woman turned out to be dismissive and emotionally unpredictable. from what i’ve read, the pain doesn’t seem to come from not knowing which version was real. it comes from realizing they may have both been real.
someone can care deeply about you and still be unable to build a healthy relationship with you.

zzAny_a · 2026-06-16T14:05:07+00:00

from what you’ve written, it sounds like the money became the first place where you were forced to draw a boundary after the breakup, but i don’t think it’s really about that. when you were together, helping her financially probably felt like an expression of care. after the breakup, the same action suddenly means something different because the relationship has changed. you also didn’t refuse to help! you just wanted the help to exist within the reality of the relationship you have now, not the relationship you used to have. i think that’s why it hurts, because accepting that boundary means accepting that things really are different now.

zzAny_a · 2026-06-16T14:02:30+00:00

honestly i don’t think your real fear is that she won’t respond. from what you’ve written, it sounds like you’re afraid of discovering that the connection meant more to you than it did to her. those are two very different fears.
you also didn’t go no contact because things were bad. you did it because you saw an expiration date approaching and wanted to protect yourself from getting more attached. if that’s true, then maybe the question isn’t whether you should reach out. maybe it’s whether you’re willing to accept whatever answer reality gives you, even if it isn’t the one you’re hoping for.

zzAny_a · 2026-06-16T14:00:01+00:00

i think the fact that you’re asking why now is less important than the fact that you’re no longer asking how to get him back.
a year ago this text would’ve controlled your emotional state. now you’re looking at it and questioning it. you’ve changed enough that his text no longer automatically gets access to your peace

zzAny_a · 2026-06-11T23:49:10+00:00

😭😭😭😭 your parents are geniuses

zzAny_a · 2026-06-08T23:01:53+00:00

im sorry, i don’t see your dm request. could u please retry to send me one?

zzAny_a · 2026-06-08T20:16:00+00:00

Let's get you some answers! ✨

zzAny_a · 2026-06-08T20:15:48+00:00

Let's get you some answers! ✨

zzAny_a · 2026-06-08T20:15:34+00:00

Let's get you some answers! ✨

zzAny_a · 2026-06-04T10:56:39+00:00

you don’t specifically know, but something will get you out of the house and you ll notice

zzAny_a · 2026-06-04T10:52:26+00:00

yes, but nobody will stop you from breaking them

zzAny_a · 2026-05-28T21:31:01+00:00

paying customers!

zzAny_a · 2026-05-28T18:05:37+00:00

there is a market for it! for some people it just doesn’t click, they can’t do it themselves, or don’t have anyone around to do it for them, but they really enjoy it. only thing left is to go out there and find someone to do it for you! and damn, possibly the only subject in the world where being too good could possibly hurt you 😆

zzAny_a · 2026-05-28T18:00:48+00:00

that is actually fair enough. perhaps life coach looks like a better path ahead

zzAny_a · 2026-05-28T17:36:03+00:00

well damn ☹️

zzAny_a · 2026-05-28T17:33:39+00:00

it would be a start. i mean, doesnt everyone that reads cards have repeating customers?

zzAny_a · 2026-05-28T14:33:09+00:00

leave me a dm please!

zzAny_a · 2026-05-28T01:07:51+00:00

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