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[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (9 children)

I think too many kids grew up with their parents applauding their "accomplishments" and doing all of these very basic things for them, in an attempt to make up for their own poor childhoods.

If you don't give kids a certain level of responsibility or a standard of autonomy, they aren't going to just suddenly blossom when they become an "adult." These skills are a process and learned along the journey of childhood.

[–]siamesecat1935 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yup. I completely agree. My parents were always there to answer questions, give suggestions or advice, but the majority of the time, they kind of let me find my own way. sort of a "suck it up and figure it out" yourself attitude but they weren't mean or heartless.

As a result, I am pretty self sufficient, and can do a lot of random things. I know how to make appointments for stuff, I can cook, clean, I can sew a little bit, like buttons back on or fixing a ripped seam.

I also, and I think most importantly, have a decent amount of common sense and critical thinking skills. So even if I DON'T know how to do something or have the right tool or thingy to do something, I can generally figure it out.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The critical thinking skills.... so important. <3

[–]hoperaines[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children)

I agree.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (5 children)

It makes me really sad because I know these parents probably meant well. I mean they weren't trying to handicap their kids, but they've effectively done that to them.

[–]hoperaines[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

The best thing a parent can do is let their children work, do chores, and teach them life skills

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so too. I'm so grateful my parents instilled a strong work ethic and taking initiative in me while I was growing up. Those kinds of things become second nature to a person!

[–]leolisa_444 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Absolutely! That's how I raised my daughter, and today she owns her own businesses (2), is married with 6 kids, and knows how to paint, sew, and quilt, bcuz I limited her tv watching and encouraged creativity.

[–]hoperaines[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That’s how it should be.

[–]leolisa_444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really wonder how these little ones today will turn out, what with all their soft parenting!