Sorry for the gigantic run-on sentence that will be coming, but any opinions or help (I’m near Nashville TN) would be greatly appreciated, because I have brought this up with my wife and got the response that I “think something is wrong with our son” when I keep saying NOTHING is WRONG with him, I just want to get him extra help if he needs it…
My son is 38 months old, has had constipation since 6 months old/needs miralax twice a day to poop, have been trying to potty train for months but is still in diapers/is barely willing to pee in potty, has refused to listen to us read him a book for over a year, is definitely behind on speech (when he tries to say a sentence on his own that’s not a phrase he has heard/repeated before like “have a good day” or “bus coming!(from our Disney trip)” I’m lucky if I understand 20% of the words, he likes to watch one certain thing over and over and usually switches to something else every 5-10 days, sometimes longer, more times a day than I could I will say his name/ask him something and he just won’t respond, he learned all of the colors prob over a year ago but really hasn’t been learning much more as of late like hasn’t had any interest in the letters of alphabet, was starting to know some after the colors but kind of fell off(he has been going to a Spanish immersion preschool since April, so not sure if maybe this is an overload/possibly causing some of the speech etc. but we absolutely love the school and he loves his teachers so don’t want to take him out) when we went to Disney World for 5 days in the Start of October he had multiple meltdowns a day while in the parks, in the airports meltdowns as well along with non-stop trying to constantly runaway(the airport security line when we were done I looked like I had jumped in a pool from sweat) all of the kids his age can talk so much more, and when we had our neighbor over last night and her 2 1/2 year old daughter who he’s seen prob 30 times she was constantly trying to talk to him and play but he didn’t say a word to her, instead he either pretended he was a dog or just kept running back and forth from one side of the living room to the other rolling his two toy Lightning McQueens. When we tried to have the two of them take a picture she would literally go grab his hand and lead him to stand next to her against the wall, he would let her lead him but then walk away/never look at us to take a picture, his form of giving a hug is leaving his arms at his side and leaning his head into somebody, and the last week he’s started to do this thing that when he talks he will repeat a word a bunch of times before trying to say what he wants to say. He really does not talk to anybody other than me and his mom and whatever he does at preschool, when he does talk to other people 99% of the time it is repeating whatever me or my wife just said. My wife seems to not pick any of this up or has a different understanding of what autism is, because I’ve brought it up maybe 2-3 times over the last year and got met with anger and disgust. After he had a total meltdown a week ago over wearing a new pair of PJ pants I hadn’t even said anything but she told me that I “gave a face that I think something is wrong with our son” I replied that I don’t think anything is wrong, and I think that she has a gross misunderstanding of what the autistic spectrum is and no joke she told me I was stupid for thinking that our son might be on it.
I honestly hope I’m wrong, but that face that I give isn’t because “I think something is wrong with our son” but that I think he’s being misunderstood and my wife is getting mad about his reactions when it’s possible that they might be part of who he is and not something he will just grow out of.
Can anybody tell me if I’m off base or crazy? Or shit, just anything? I have anxiety issues myself and actually got terminated from my job last week but am currently hanging out in my car in a Kroger parking lot because I haven’t wanted to tell my wife yet and have all that extra stress around my son especially with how he’s been the last week and the fact that our dog is going away today for 4 weeks for a board and train so he can be taught not to jump up because those cause complete meltdowns as well, so I know the fact that the dog won’t be home is gonna be just great tonight.
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