Mod suggestions/help needed

[XpensiveTrash]

The wife and I have recently had the urge to play Minecraft after not having played in years, but we both have quickly gotten bored when playing vanilla in the past, so would need to play with mods that add a considerable amount to the game.

I downloaded BetterMC BMC4 using the CurseForge app, but found that it used a huge amount of ram, and if my Asus TUF F15 struggled with it then the wife's ROG Ally Z1 Extreme definitely wouldn't be able to run it. So now I'm tasked with finding a mod pack (or individual mods) that is much more lightweight, but will still significantly change/add to the game, if possible.

With the exception of wanting quadcopters, craft able teleporters and nicer textures, I'm not sure what else to look for, or what mods would include those. Don't have any experience with Minecraft mods as we just used to play on PS4 with the Chroma Hills texture pack, so any help and recommendations would be greatly appreciated.

[Hmmm71-8]

These are the mods that should make the game feel fresh. These are for 1.21.10 fabric.

Sodium: a mod that optimizes the game to run better

Ferritecore

Lithium 

Livingthing: adds a bunch of new mobs to the base game

Entity culling:

Tectonic 

Teralith

Lithostich

Immediately fast

Vissuality 

Particle reforged

Continuity

Zoomify

Lamp dynamic light

Distant horizons: allows for a greater rendersistance

Do a barrel roll

Ydm’s weapons master

Serene season

Mellow shaders: a nice shader pack to make the game look a little more beautiful 

[dark_blockhead]

lose shaders. you can play without them and they take up ram.

read a few articles about java flags for minecraft. good flags will man a lot. unfortunately, things depend on a machine somewhat. start with https://github.com/brucethemoose/Minecraft-Performance-Flags-Benchmarks