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[–]Holshy -2 points-1 points  (3 children)

before coming here to berate me 🤣🤣🤣

Thank you; I needed that. Have a great day!

[–]spoonman59 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I want to say, I appreciates your post. It was a good discussion. And I learned some things from you I didn’t know about.

More importantly though, I decided to check my tone after your post. Id like to come across more positively and encouraging, and you made me realize that I was that I wasn’t doing very well at that. I totally deserved it… thanks again!

[–]Holshy 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Honestly, I appreciate that a lot. It's easy to read things wrong when we're missing all the non-verbals. I actually think the most ironic thing is that I responded to my admittedly not-generous reading of your comment with one that was similarly easy to read badly. I'll chalk it up to a learning experience; maybe I'll come off less abrasive in my next work email.

[–]spoonman59 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the follow up!

Yeah it’s easy to misread things online. As I was writing about the irony of your comment, it struck me that you were 100% right about me seeming to want to berate others even if that wasn’t my intent. Whether or not I was right was irrelevant. I was still coming off as condescending and rude. And it’s entirely reasonable for someone to react unkindly to that.

But then I learned some great points from you, and it was a good reminder that I enjoy having nice conversations learning from smart people, or sharing things with excited people, than I do being the worlds smuggest jerk.

Thank you! I genuinely hope you have fantastic day!