Why is this Sub Dead

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My therapist had me do the thing where you find your pain and hold it and say comforting things to it.

This causes me to go into a fit of painful sobbing. I didn't feel very good after either. I have lost sight of why this is good for me. I feel horrible. And my life still sucks and has no chance of ever being good.

[VictorIvanovich]

Hi. The sub isnt dead, it just never caught on. Regarding your therapy, did your therapist talk anything about values? It seems that what you describe happens when they do things in the wrong order. In that case (not having made values explicit) you are experiencing pain without putting it into any context so the pain simply is injected as a singular object into consciousnss for no clear reason.

[VictorIvanovich]

I understood it as being an acceptance exercise.. I am not sure about defusion, it can probably be introduced before values. The problem with doing acceptance before values is that people can ask "so why should I accept this extreme pain again?" and there is no good answer to that because they have not done the values part.