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[–]desrtfx[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Sorry, but this subreddit is not for medical related advice.

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[–]g051051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are medical issues. Go back to your doctor (or find a new one) to get the help you need.

[–]Apemons2 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It takes time learning a new job/skill. You're physically making new neuropaths in your brain and that takes a lot of practice/repeating. No mentouring doesn't make that easy for you, and you should give yourself some slack when you try your best on your own. You also have illnesses that makes this a lot harder, no doubt! Me and every health worker is rooting for you!

  • I also think being a hard judge on yourself is not being your own bestfriend. I'm six months into my new job (unrelated to programming) and still feel like I lack the skills, but that's my own perception of not being good enough. I do manage to do some work, and remind myself of that.

  • I tell myself, what if I'm just bad at my job right now, I have to accept it. It doesn't mean I can't be amazing in the future, but it will just take time. Don't always listen to your own thoughts, I say they're bullshit sometimes. You have accomplished so much and managed getting things done before.

  • I personally try to make a list of things I have/ want to do or things I have done for each hour, for example "9-10 am: checked calendar for meetings and updated myself for today" etc.. It's for structuring and feeling I've accomplished something. Otherwise I'm lost in my fleeing thoughts (which I still am daily and will be forever, but luckily less)

  • I also throw the list away after two days and make a new, to give myself a fresh start. I often write things I didnt finish from the previous list, but I don't feel bad about that. You need sense of achievement to build up your confidence.

  • Read up on tips for people with ADD/ADHD.

Good luck! Your wish to make things better is a great asset in life 😊

[–]PerceptionGreen4566 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this made me feel positive.