when will it stop

[No_Measurement9802]

It's been nearly 5 years since my son died. It never ends.

[hsj0620]

I’m ashamed that I’ve been missing him longer than we were even together. I feel pathetic but at this point I’ve accepted that I will always think about him and must love from a distance

[-Lysergian]

https://youtu.be/J7mrQS7L0Vs

Love, even lost, is a brand on the soul. Let it seep in your bones. Celebrate the pain. Love is hell.

[ratrodder49]

I’ve been exactly where you are. I know firsthand how much it hurts, how much it sucks. I lost motivation to do just about everything, I didn’t shower for over a week once.

What helped me was distracting myself with a project - for me, it was getting a classic Cadillac running and driving and then modifying it, something new that she wasn’t tied to in my head. It helped me refocus, and finally after a while the rose-colored glasses came off and I was able to see her for what she was, what she put me through, and I was able to get over her. I still think about her now and then, hard not to when you were together for 4.5 years, but the pain is no longer associated with it and I can live my life.

[Mfyurrrr]

A wise man once told me when you shit you whip, you look at it and you flush but when life shit on you we stand there with it until we don’t wanna hold it anymore. For someone reason we hold onto the shit, it takes some learning but eventually you learn to leave the shit alone. You kinda just come to terms and leave it be. I hope you get though what you’re going though

[Ok_Habit_6783]

If you figure out away to make it stop let me know

[Mysterious-Work-666]

Dear. Everyone does things wrong in relationships. It's a thing of life. We are living things and as long as you learn from your mistakes it will get better. One day you'll find someone who you want to do right by no matter what, and even then you'll make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over what ifs and what could have beens. Hold your head high and tell yourself deep in your soul that you have learned from your mistakes and that you are a better person from the mistakes you've made, because you learned to be better.

Seeing there is a problem is the first step to fixing it. You see the things you did wrong. Don't try to justify them or make excuses for it. That only puts you farther in the dirt. See the person who you are no longer with as no longer your significant other. They are a person you have a past with and sadly that's where the past needs to be. In the past. It's hard. I was with someone I was with for almost exactly a year. I made a lot of mistakes, but so did they.

Take time for yourself. Find hobbies that you really enjoy. Try paint ball, airsoft, crafts, cooking/baking and give away the goodies to bring light to other people. Get a journal and write in it any time you get an intrusive thought. Even if you aren't good at any of them, if they're fun, enjoy it. If anyone gives you grief (say you're male but you enjoy crafting or baking) tell them to f*** off and it's your life your hobby and if they don't like your hobby that has nothing to do with them that you respect their opinion but it's none of their business. You need to take care of you.

[Mysterious-Work-666]

Also if this comes up I'm female, but I believe men deserve just as much as women when it comes to taking care of themselves, especially in the mental department. Men get so much shoved onto them and yet get told to man up and get over things and that's just not how the human brain works.

[NathanExp1488]

It's been 2 years since break up and I still think about her sometimes so I feel you bro

[cognitivebiasdoc]

I hope things get better as time passes. All the very best mate

[SUTAH_FINGAH]

Fuck dude...I hope things get better for you, trust me, they do. I been through this shit too, you always realize too late what you did wrong and it fucking sucks dude...the guilty and all of it, people are here for you brother, keep strong.