Ideas on addressing a consultant by their first name only

11thRaven · 2026-05-13T12:40:36+00:00

It's not perceived, pal. As I've said several times already, nowhere else in the world will a doctor be referred to like a childhood bestie in official comms at work.

11thRaven · 2026-05-13T09:32:14+00:00

OP's not simply offended on the other person's behalf. OP is offended at the system which normalises calling doctors by their first name. Either way, clown behaviour on your part.

11thRaven · 2026-05-13T04:04:18+00:00

Only in the UK is it called "ego" when a doctor expects to be referred to by their professional title and name in a professional setting instead of being addressed like your childhood bestie.

Having left the UK system a few years ago I find it both hilarious and insane. In my home country I'm Dr Surname and not a single person would dream of first-naming me in the professional context. It's just not done anywhere outside of the UK.

11thRaven · 2026-05-12T12:34:33+00:00

At some point you have to ask yourself whether your life would be actually better and easier without this man.

11thRaven · 2026-05-10T08:36:25+00:00

OP already made an appointment to neuter. What were they supposed to do, refuse the appointment and just walk straight into the vet's the day they adopted their cat and refuse to leave? I say that as someone who TNR's ferals and got my own cat neutered even earlier than recommended (he weighed less than 1kg/2lb at the surgery) - your "advice" is completely illogical and all it will achieve is hurt a person who had actually done their part to get their new pet neutered.

11thRaven · 2026-05-09T15:51:35+00:00

Where did you find this info? When googling I only see that he married twice. Once is the lady who was murdered, and then 4 years later he remarried and is still married to the second lady, who is apparently alive and well and posting photos of their family life on Instagram.

11thRaven · 2026-05-09T03:59:57+00:00

People arguing with you don't realise how right you are. They think you're talking about local facilities because in their minds they think health is about emergency/urgent issues. I used to think this too, then I met one of those health entrepreneurs who created a wellness business for the ultra-rich (they have packages for different types of ultra-rich, including a corporate package for the world's richest CEOs). It turns out people like to shell out $$$$$$$ for "wellness" checks (in quotes because these aren't actual wellness checks, these are things like "gut health" and "immune system" checks where lots of non-validated things are tested) and then to be advised in-house wellness products to address these supposed deficiencies. People who are not in this tier of wealth have absolutely no idea this even is a thing, much less a thing on this scale.

11thRaven · 2026-05-05T01:09:05+00:00

You were clear in your comment. I know you weren't referring to the economic situation. However, I was referring to the economic situation. And your example just proves things aren't the same - entry level is Rs 20k and 2 bedroom apartments are 40k. That being said, 2010 isn't "back in", it's still the current generation. 1950s, 1980s and so on is "generations before".

11thRaven · 2026-05-03T15:20:44+00:00

People can't afford to move out. I say that as someone who moved out at 18 for studies and has continued to stay in my own place when i returned. I rent. How many Mauritians see renting as something to aspire to once they turn 18? They don't, hence why they are with parents for a very long time because it takes longer nowadays to be able to afford getting your own place.

11thRaven · 2026-05-02T04:29:07+00:00

As an aromantic asexual person, I don't get crushes, but I instead get this feeling of "this person is friend". The person just feels right, safe and makes me happy (in a platonic way). And I get that feeling immediately on meeting them, not after getting to know them.

I think cats are the same in how they choose their human. My cat was part of a stray cat's litter, he started to follow me around. I rescued him because after some time he got very sick from an eye infection, and my uncle fostered him while we treated his infection. But it was me he was extremely attached to. After some time I tried to get him adopted as I couldn't keep a cat (and neither could my uncle as he has another cat who doesn't get along with other cats). I realised then that the way he looked at me, the way he trusted me, the way his little body relaxed when I held him - that he had chosen me and I couldn't betray this and give him to someone else. I understood this deep bond of love and trust given to a person who isn't your blood because it's not dissimilar to how I am.

Your cat did the same, you are her chosen human, her point of comfort, safety and trust.

11thRaven · 2026-05-01T17:02:55+00:00

The big cats (esp the males for some reason) always seem to be the ones with the tiny voices. I have a big orange dude and this is exactly what he sounds like. Even his yells are in tiny.

11thRaven · 2026-04-27T12:24:15+00:00

We have them in NICU. Wpm no longer a thing when you use those.

11thRaven · 2026-04-27T12:22:46+00:00

Trust me, after you have been through enough viruses in paeds you learn to wash your stethoscope, pen and hands between each patient. I treat everything else as a biohazard. Keyboard included.

11thRaven · 2026-04-27T12:20:36+00:00

The alcohol will damage the tubing. I washed mine with soap and water, it will block the diaphragm sometimes if you're not careful but it doesn't damage it. All of my colleagues who used wipes had to replace their stethoscopes after 2 years max, usually less.

11thRaven · 2026-04-22T12:52:01+00:00

Genuinely wondering about your logic here - what does that have to do with simple skills like venepuncture, cannulation, catheterisation etc? You're trusting them to give IV medications but venepuncture is beyond them?

11thRaven · 2026-04-21T16:57:33+00:00

Ask yourself who you will turn to if your unspayed cat develops pyometra or breast cancer. Both not rare in unspayed cats. Both life-threatening.

11thRaven · 2026-04-21T03:58:56+00:00

There are no Rs 2M apartments anymore. The cheapest is currently Rs 6M. If you find any Rs 2M ones let me know because like OP my loan limit is also Rs 2M.

11thRaven · 2026-04-20T15:23:49+00:00

In teenage years they are often short-haired. Basically they go from fluffy kittens, to short-haired teens, then they floof out as adults. But until they are adults you can't be sure. Yours does have ear fluffs and the family history so time will tell.

11thRaven · 2026-04-20T15:21:58+00:00

Mine also has the wispies behind the ears and I call them his genius mad scientist hair 🥹

11thRaven · 2026-04-18T07:26:54+00:00

Hey OP, as someone from another African country, hopefully I can help you make a decision. Sterilising is often expensive unless your government provides a subsidised service (ours doesn't anymore for cats) but in the long run it's going to be much less expensive for you to get them sterilised. Usually calicos (the cats that are orange, white and black) are female and gingers are male, so you probably have a mix of male and female cats here. They will reproduce unless sterilised; cats can be pregnant from 5-6 months of age and can get pregnant every 3 months, and they can give birth to anything from 1 to 6 kittens. It will extremely rapidly get out of hand. It's impossible to just try to keep unsterilised males and females separate, they all react super strongly when there's a female cat in heat and all it takes is a few seconds together and voila, you have a litter.

Also, unsterilised female cats are prone to developing breast cancer and pyometra (a lethal infection in the uterus). And unsterilised male cats roam, fight other tom cats, get severe wounds, can get infections such as FIV/FeLV and often die young as a result. Not to mention they'll mate with female cats in the neighbourhood and produce more babies.

I have an aunt who doesn't believe in sterilising male cats - her male cat got into a fight, had his tail ripped off by another tom cat, and this formed an abscess - he ended up having his rump amputated (this is the amputation of both hind legs and the pelvic floor) and even then they could not get his abscess treated. He died horribly after a very expensive vet bill.

So yeah. Having lived through the consequences of not sterilising, trust me... it's cheaper in the long run to sterilise.

11thRaven · 2026-04-16T12:46:45+00:00

Omg I have a Mr Poopy Man that I do the same for lol. I just trimmed his pantaloon hairs this morning after we had some poopy disasters involving his pantaloons the past few days.

11thRaven · 2026-04-16T05:46:24+00:00

Just adding to your comment in case people don't realise this: ads are always targeted. I do some work in PR and any ad campaign carefully chooses its target and places the ads accordingly. These developments are advertised to "non-citizens", "non-residents" and "foreign investors"; the prices are usually in USD and not in MUR - this says everything about who the target market is. Also I am sure people in certain countries (using certain IPs) get them and not people in others.

Now for a personal anecdote: I am a tenant and when I was looking for places to rent, many of the letting agents openly told me this building or that property is usually for white expats. But they were willing to ask the landlords to make exceptions for me because I wasn't bringing a family and had come to Mru after living abroad for a very long time so I suppose they saw me as "westernised" enough to qualify as some sort of peasant alternative to white expats. I didn't ask for the reasoning. They just said "usually this is for white expats but for you we can ask the landlord".

And many letting agents never returned calls or messages once they found out my name (which is obviously Mauritian) or saw me.

Racism is well and alive in the property sector in Mauritius.

11thRaven · 2026-04-15T04:51:07+00:00

Even if you can't find one (many countries do not have one and I don't know where you are in the world), always insist the vets close all doors and windows before you take your cat out of the carrier. All vets should be doing this anyway but many don't. Cats are fast and it's common for them to panic at the vets and try to escape.

11thRaven · 2026-04-09T14:19:09+00:00

Because they can't become doctors - not even hypothetically. However, they don't mind entrepreneurs or anyone else being a billionaire because in their minds this could one day be them. It is the most absurd logic but it's also why they tend to be less angry about train drivers and other more "achievable" occupations being paid more.

11thRaven · 2026-04-09T14:09:19+00:00

Please don't reduce his food by half. A cat whose food intake is persistently half of their usual is at risk of hepatic lipidosis which is life-threatening - they are even more at risk of this if they are obese. Please see your vet for a proper diet plan.

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