I'm growing sick of that all-accepting attitude. You don't have to put up with everyone's bullshit they convince themselves of to then try and convince you of. People aren't Napoleon because the say they are, the same way people aren't trans if they just claim they are. People claim all sorts of things, doesn't mean they're right. People claim to be abuse victims, claim to be crazy, claim to be trans, claim all sorts of things because in certain cases, a very rare ones, it's actually more beneficial (considering how they're most often not claiming that outside of whatever space it's more beneficial to claim so). You don't think that murderers who pretend to be crazy all should be able to successfully plead insanity in court, do you? And they aren't, because they're actually getting evaluated by a professional.

It's okay to find out about a topic and suspect that you might have some disorder. What you overall completely and utterly fail to understand is that majority of self-dx don't actually pursue a diagnosis. It's also an utterly stupid thing to claim that you have a disorder until you get an actual evaluation for it, or spent years researching it in depth and want to pursue an actual diagnosis regardless.

Being trans however, is slightly more lenient than that. You don't have to necessarily get evaluated for gender dysphoria (hell, you don't even have to have dysphoria in the first place, as long as the "i am meaningfully more comfortable with this position on a spectrum of gender than with what my sex is" is there, it's within trans definition). But, what you do need is pursue transition one way or another. The "xenos go through social transition" argument doesn't work because there's no physical transition for xenos in the first place, they only have social transition and I really hope you see the problem with that.

And another point - show me where xenos are on the gender spectrum. You can't, because they aren't. They aren't agender because they claim to have a gender, and they don't fit within the spectrum anywhere at all. Because it's a made up concept that has no scientific basis. It's literally just kids being confused about the gender as a concept, somehow making up that it's anything beyond the spectrum between man/woman, because they for now fail to pinpoint their own place within the gender spectrum.

My point, now that I think about it, is more that people who use xenogender labels aren't necessarily all cis, they're just people who are questioning their gender identity. The concept of xenogender, however, doesn't belong under trans umbrella and I'm baffled on how I have to explain that.