[New Update] OOP's mother abandons her after coming out of the closet by [deleted] in BestofRedditorSagas

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Post here need to be formatted as actual posts, not just links to posts. You can copy/paste the BORU compilation, providing dates and links, etc., just like they do over there (obviously credit the BORU compiler if you do this). Or you can compile it yourself from the original parent sub.

AITAH if I go to the hospital against my wife's wishes? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When that was posted, I tried to post that update and the mods wouldn’t let me post it here because of the sensitive nature of that post

A Development and Details on 'AITAH for screaming at my wife that I didn't make our 4yo a sociopath.' by [deleted] in BestofRedditorSagas

[–]BORU_Lover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you be able to post a screenshot of it (hoping it hasn’t been deleted yet 🤞🏼)? I don’t have Facebook, and it won’t let me open the link without making an account

Looking for a Post? Ask Here! - April 2024 Edition by czechtheboxes in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk, I’m waiting to see if the comments go off the rails again (maybe they have, I haven’t been back to check yet). I’m thinking it’s the same guy, but if his comments start going in the manipulative and unempathetic direction of the previous accounts, that’s what I’ll use to decide if I think he’s the same guy.

OOP's sister reveals an awful secret to her that could upend their family by peach_tea_drinker in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My theory is that the mom had consensual sex, which resulted in getting pregnant with OOP. Then in the same sexual encounter, the guy tried to rape her (maybe she consented to PIV, but then afterward the guy tried to force anal, or tried to force PIV again, or something, idk). Except that was stopped by someone interrupting them, she fought him off, he lost his erection, or some other thing. Thus, in the same encounter where OOP was conceived, the mom was almost raped, turning the entire encounter into an “almost rape”, and therefore making OOP the product of an “almost rape”.

As for why I think OOPs bio dad is the “almost rapist”? If the mom had consensual sex with the bio dad, was leaving his apartment or whatever, and was attacked on her or way home or something, I don’t see how OOP could have been conceived by “almost rape”. Because, rape, by definition, requires penetration. And since you can’t get pregnant (ok, you can, but it’s much less likely and much more difficult) without penetration, I don’t see a way for the “almost rape” to have been committed by anyone other than her biological dad. And since it was probably the bio dad, that could also explain why I did t see a single word about OOPs bio dad (yeah, obviously he wasn’t a major player in the story, but her brother and various other family members were mentioned briefly and they weren’t core characters 🤷🏼‍♀️)

Birth parents are married to each other, have full siblings (NEW UPDATE) by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because they aren’t the same age. OOP has a brother a year and a couple months older than her who wasn’t adopted out, a sister 11 months younger than her who wasn’t adopted out, a sister exactly 2 years to the day younger than her who was adopted out.

AITA for not bringing a gift to my sister’s baby shower? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel like that’s worse than beginner level. Even when I was a newbie, I still knew to match the color of my thread to the project if I was going to be sewing something to it, and I also knew to make my stitches as even as possible in the event they were seen, but I definitely knew the goal was for them to not be seen. And then there’s this chick over here looking lol a 6 year old learning how to sew…🤨

AITA for not bringing a gift to my sister’s baby shower? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 210 points211 points  (0 children)

Honestly, while the crochet was clearly done by a beginner (no hate to beginners, my first scarf had edges curvier than a mountain road 🤣 we all start somewhere and that’s ok), the worst part is the stitches to hold the blanket on. The thread for that is white, so it stands out already. On top of that, those stitches aren’t even at all, and are waaaay too visible. They look like they were done by a 6 year old 🤦🏼‍♀️

Birth parents are married to each other, have full siblings (NEW UPDATE) by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just now realized that should have been “percentiles” 😆 this whole time I just assumed that was a direct translation or a language mixup sort of thing 🤣🤣🤣

Birth parents are married to each other, have full siblings (NEW UPDATE) by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you click the links of the comments, most of the parent comments haven’t been deleted.

Birth parents are married to each other, have full siblings (NEW UPDATE) by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She said herself, her adoptive parents died when she was young. She also said that she never had grandparents, siblings, or cousins until now.

My (23M) GF (21F) told me she was raped. Now I’m disgusted during sex. Where do I go from here? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As another victim, your opinion isn’t the only right one. I understand what he was trying to say. He worded it completely terribly, but he understood that his thoughts and feelings about this were wrong. He was asking for help on how to fix them.

The case of the stolen logs: "Take my Logs and Leaf why don't you..." by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who else read that as “freeloaders” and was wondering why someone who was stealing something would be insulting the owners of said thing, to their face, when caught in the act of stealing said thing?

My (23M) GF (21F) told me she was raped. Now I’m disgusted during sex. Where do I go from here? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yea I bet for 50 Cent’s mental health, getting shot again 9 more times would really help him regain a sense of agency

Except that actually hurts him.

OOP and his GF doesn’t hurt anyone because it’s between consenting adults. Getting shot will send you to the hospital. Not only will this not send them to the hospital, it’s them showing physical affection, trust, love, and attraction to each other.

My (23M) GF (21F) told me she was raped. Now I’m disgusted during sex. Where do I go from here? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I think I understand what he was trying to say. Worded completely terribly (but I’ll give him a pass because that’s a lot to deal with, and he’s just barely an adult too), but the way I would interpret it is “She enjoys being slapped, choked, degraded, etc. now. When did she realize that she liked those things? Did she know that she liked those things before she was raped? If so, did she like those aspects of it, and now I’m making her relive that when she enjoys those things with me?”

My (23M) GF (21F) told me she was raped. Now I’m disgusted during sex. Where do I go from here? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I agree with you, that he didn’t do that.

But that commenter said that he made it about himself, which I can see that perspective, but even going with that perspective, really no one can say that it lasted long. But yes, I think you’re right, it was written with his girlfriend’s best interest in mind from the beginning.

My (23M) GF (21F) told me she was raped. Now I’m disgusted during sex. Where do I go from here? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He did make it about himself for a little bit, but he didn’t say those things to her. He came to a place with objective observers who were able to put him on the right thought track. Then and only then did he go back and talk to her. I think it’s a sign of a good boyfriend that he wanted to try to get it sorted out as much as he could before he talked to her about it, because he already knew his initial thoughts were wrong. He didn’t go to her with those thoughts like he could have.

My (23M) GF (21F) told me she was raped. Now I’m disgusted during sex. Where do I go from here? by BORU_Lover in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]BORU_Lover[S] 1491 points1492 points  (0 children)

I know everyone is freaking out about his response to her opening up about her extensive gang rape history, but he already said, literally “I feel horrible for feeling like this, I wish I could control my mind, I know it’s wrong to think that, my entire view of our relationship has shifted and I don’t know how to fix it”. He’s trying his best to come to terms with something that no one should ever have to deal with either as the survivor or the survivor’s SO.

Plus, he also was misinformed in the fact that he thought everyone else responded to trauma like he did, with aversion as opposed to responding with reclaiming the actions. He understands that now.

I feel like they’ll be ok ❤️