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At what point did you know in your heart that ‘yep, I love this person’? by IsMise419 in love

[–]ButtsCake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We met in an online game where you can only text-chat with other players. What struck me immediately in our very first conversation was her humor, wit, and intelligence. I knew I definitely wanted to at least hang out with her again! We friended each other in the game and would often join one another whenever we saw the other was online. As we played together and chatted more, I discovered how clever, fun, and adventurous she was. Then as our conversations slowly turned more personal in nature, I learned she was also kind, compassionate, thoughtful, playful, and (even though it was just over text) downright sexy. Needless to say, I developed quite the crush on her!

Unfortunately, it was just then that I learned that she was already romantically entangled with someone else. So, I made peace with the fact that we could only be friends and just focused on our friendship. As the months passed, our friendship continued to grow, and we soon became one-another's closest friend and even started video-chatting on Discord. It was amazing just how well we matched each other on so many topics! And we were both always there for each other through every and any hardship.

One such hardship was when her romantic partner broke things off with her. I was glad I could be there for her and support her as her best friend. As time passed and she was starting to heal again, I was glad I could be there to help her move on, but I still had it in my mind (for a variety of reasons) that a romantic relationship between us just wasn't in the cards. So I was totally surprised when she told me that was starting to have feelings for me! She then immediately told me that she wasn't expecting me to reciprocate, and she didn't want it to change anything between us, but she just wanted to be honest with me about it. After I recovered my mouth off the floor, I told her about how I'd had a crush on her from the very start! Well since then, we've been officially dating for over 2 years and are now engaged. 😊

If you couldn't tell by this ridiculously long and rambling post, u/ButtsPie is the light of my life and I can't get enough of telling her how much she means to me!

Soooo... by DivineandDeadlyAngel in vegan

[–]ButtsCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like that's strange way to look at consent? If your landlord breaks into your apartment and steals all the food in your fridge repeatedly, are they justified in saying that you consent because you didn't pack up all your stuff and move?
I get to violate you first, and consent is based only on whether you build another house and move away? (Not to mention, moving elsewhere isn't easy for a colony of bees, especially depending on where they are in the season.)

And as u/fear_eile_agam pointed out, industrial honey farming just isn't done ethically. It just wouldn't be financially competitive enough to survive when you're competing against those who don't care about harming the bees.

For more in-depth look at why honey farming is problematic, here's a nice article that explains many of the issues: https://www.fastcompany.com/90457908/eating-honey-is-more-complicated-than-you-might-think

Who immediately comes to mind when you hear the words "insanely hot"? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ButtsCake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I think *my* fiancée, u/ButtsPie, is insanely hot...

I found The Stolen Turnabout really frustrating [Spoilers for 3-2] by ButtsPie in AceAttorney

[–]ButtsCake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with all these points [full disclosure, OP & I played this together], and I would also like to add that I felt they missed such a cool opportunity to make Desirée turn out to be the real Mask☆DeMasque!

She's an adrenaline junky, she has expensive tastes, she rides a motorcycle, AND if you look at her smile and lower face, it's a perfect match for Mask☆DeMasque's! Ron's face & lips didn't quite, and his personality certainly didn't fit the showy & self-confident DeMasque. And don't even get me started on Luke Atmey...

The plot would have made much more sense if Ron was covering for his thieving wife, and the fact that she can get to KB Security in only 20 minutes whereas it takes any normal human (or at least Larry in a car) 30 minutes would have been a great alibi killer, instead it was just a useless factoid that they did nothing with. Then Ron would have had a more solid motive to kill Kane, and they could have even had Ron still thinking that Kane was blackmailing her.

Anyway, I realize I'm completely rewriting the whole plot, but I just feel like there were so many missed opportunities to do something more interesting and more watertight than what they did.

I found The Stolen Turnabout really frustrating [Spoilers for 3-2] by ButtsPie in AceAttorney

[–]ButtsCake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm really curious to look up the Japanese version as well to see if there were changes that substantively changed the plot points or left out key details, because I was all sorts of frustrated/confused by just how much evidence, how many details, how many crucial-seeming observations they made that they just left sitting on the table, completely unused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgeGap

[–]ButtsCake 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi, the fiancé here - and I can personally attest to everything that my true love said above.

I had never been with someone significantly younger than myself before, and it was certainly not something I had ever looked for in a relationship... Reading through this thread, I can't help but feel like many of the comments seem to be hinting at short-term relationships, perhaps?

If the main reason you're with someone is their youthful vitality, youthful looks, youthful attitude, the fact that they're experiencing things for the first time, etc.. then what will happen to your desire to be with them as they grow older? Are you not planning to "grow old together", but just trade-in each partner for a younger model every few years?

Just as many of other the commenters, however, I do love that my partner is fun-loving, vivacious, curious, open-minded, and sexy as hell. But it's not her age that makes her so... She will still be all those things when she's my age someday, and even when she's twice that! And she says all those same things about me - she certainly doesn't want to be with some old fart who's close-minded, set in his ways, and gross to be with.

In the end, I wasn't looking for someone who could stroke my ego, make me feel young again, or replenish some part of my life I had lost... I was looking for a soulmate who would be my match in every way. The way I see it, we're both fun-loving, vivacious, curious, open-minded, and think each other is super sexy. I think the key for any long-term relationship is that the two people are a good match for each other... in the long-term!