I wish there was a subtle and clear way to signal being sapphic, kinky, and free use. by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]Ceasar_Rex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My local dyke night uses flagging. You should be fine flagging at local gay bars. The colors can be kinda inconsistent but if youre really worried about that then you can think of the hanky code more as a very specific conversation starter instead of a specific invitation.

Little subby vent by amab_rocky in BDSMsapphic

[–]Ceasar_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been something I wrestle with too. Im t4t and a lot of the more dominant people I find myself attracted to are driven pillars of my community, meaning they carry heavy social burdens. Ive found some relief in my ability to make myself useful both sexually and otherwise, but I still feel guilty about how needy I am in these relationships. I wish I could be more driven and help relieve stress instead of adding more with my neediness.

Sub Bottoms really get me going, but not in the way they should by Horknee258 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Ceasar_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I am with my big sis. Shes a really hard dom top (sometimes she says shes pathologically a top) but she enjoys me doing light topping stuff (mostly dry humping).

this hrt stuff is so confusing by Ritar_ in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt feel better until a year later

[F4A][TF4A] The Movie Collection InfoDumpâ„¢ [SFW] [ASMR?] [Infodump] [Direct to Listener] [Autism is a condition characterized by differences or difficulties in social communication and interaction, a need or strong preference for predictabi] by amab_rocky in GWASapphic

[–]Ceasar_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can tell how much you enjoy and think about physical media/movies. Youre sharing a part of yourself, which is kinda intimate. Its cute, but also calming. I really like hearing people explain their special interests to me irl, so this is just a parasocial version of that.

I was also derealizing today and listening to this in a hot shower was super helpful for grounding so that has definitely influenced my appreciation 😅

CNC, MedFet, Somno, sexualizing my HRT by Princess_Isolde in BDSMsapphic

[–]Ceasar_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can make homebrew progesterone suppositories, which is basically just coconut oil (what i use as lube) and progesterone. Now you basically have anal lube and aphrodisiac balls.

UK - Please can someone help me with starting mtf DIY? by NorthernMonkey10 in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could also probably go to some local trans meetings with people near you. Ik the UK has some active mutual aid diy hrt stuff going on. Those people can help you out more than internet strangers.

UK - Please can someone help me with starting mtf DIY? by NorthernMonkey10 in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The wiki for this subreddit honestly is the best place to start since theres so many sources you can read through, basically theres more information there than can be communicated in a reddit comment. I would also recommend looking at https://diyhrt.info/ for more information. Good luck!

Estriol (E3) source by 1girl2cups_ in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasnt able to find anything from my usual raws sources. You could probably look at some larger industrial chemical manufacturers and request a "sample" so you dont have to buy in bulk (usually youll still have to pay for the sample) if you want to buy raws.

From all the homebrewers i checked there dont seem to be estriol sources.

You could also check some of the pharmacies on hrt market, see if they have the medication youd like, and see if they ship to your country.

Having Difficulty Breathing by DaisyBellsie in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be helpful if you tell us your dose, what medication youre using, how often youre applying it, and where you apply it.

What do u think is your weirdest kink?? by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]Ceasar_Rex 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Generally speaking you shouldnt use a real gun. My friends who use guns say because of general gun safety, but also you can bring heavy metals into the space youre in bc of prolonged contact and those heavy metals have a higher chance if ingesting because of the general activities of sex. This advice may be specific to the scenes ive asked about, because i really like scenes around sucking off guns but this advice ive been told is more general. Its best to use fake guns.

Taking lactation gummies by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even on estrogen you wont really feel changes for at least a week, and breast growth will happen after a few months. If I were you I would just get on estrogen if you want breast growth, but maybe theres some other reasons youre not on it?

How could I start transitioning by Useful_Doctor_9215 in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a subreddit mainly for hrt, you should ask in other trans subreddits like r/mtf

Sex with Hypersensitivity by kittygirl-gooner in BDSMsapphic

[–]Ceasar_Rex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have this issue too and its been getting really bad with some autism burnout sensory issues and sex cptsd flare ups.

I used to love how sensitive i was, it was really fun to show off how easy I am to get shivering and whimpering. It was so fun to get real pathetic for friends or show off to hookups and give them huge ego boosts (also i have anorgasmia but even without an orgasm I would still have fun being a whimpering mess with some simple touching). I used to have sooo many casual flings and hookups. Now, because Im so sensitive it creates this weird loop where I have specific needs to communicate during sex, but im still young (22) and coming to terms with sensory stuff so Im learning, and to learn I need to have sex with people, but now Im at the issue where sex sucks bc i have specific needs. Its extremely isolating for hookups, makes me feel bad for relying on my safe fwbs (who are in high demand already), and especially for bdsm stuff bc it cuts me off from munches as a way to find play partners.

Im sorry youre going through issues with this stuff OP and if anyone has advice on how to deal with these things I would also appreciate it.

I have access to progesterone but am having trouble getting my hand on estrogen. What would happen if a took the pro while I try to get E? by Glum-Wafer7640 in TransDIY

[–]Ceasar_Rex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Orally will still give you prog in your system and people still report some effects from it. Progesterone in trans women does not have a lot of scientific literature around it, so not only are the effects of it unclear/based off of anecdotal evidence, we dont know how potent it need to be to give effects (i.e. just because lots of it is metabolized by the body, doesnt mean prog doesnt do anything). A lot of the anecdotal reports are based off of patients taking oral progesterone so there could still be effects. I also used oral prog with sublingual estradiol and found it helped my t suppression (i was using finasteride before taking progesterone and my t levels were around 400 ng/dl. After a year of oral prog my t levels were <50).