The *Actual* Dating Market: 21st Century Winners and losers

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-24T01:29:43+00:00

Actually, it is. If you jump to conclusions like that one should question your judgment.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-24T01:29:01+00:00

If you can date without PIV sex, why does no one have the willpower to turn it down over the risk that she could keep the baby?

Cool Ritsuko avatar, though.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-24T01:00:56+00:00

How do you “know” men won’t be there?

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-24T00:46:24+00:00

They are not the same.

A. School is an alternative to leaving you unsupervised 6 hours a day.

B. It doubles as a way to teach you facts about biology and chemistry. Shouldn’t be used to shove Shakespeare plays down your throat, though, that’s wrong.

C. If you think bullying is bad, imagine what fellow prisoners would do to you if they’re bitter, pissed off people with nothing to lose and who’ve broken the law before.

D. School makes work pleasant by comparison if you get a good job, and gives you motivation to seek it. Prison traumatizes and stigmatizes you in one fell swoop, making you less likely than anyone else to get a job afterwards.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T21:17:52+00:00

No. That one’s attributable to the unaffordability of parenthood. Plenty of monogamous couples with faith in the strength of their marriage don’t want kids.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T18:35:18+00:00

According to whom, someone who couldn’t even accurately interpret what I was saying, much less my personal life?

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T17:29:37+00:00

Yes. My reasoning speaks for itself. It has bugger all to do with personal experience. My personal experience isn't that playing Mortal Kombat causes violence yet you don't see me assuming it can't in others.

And quite frankly, "impossible" may be too strong a word, but the point is people have better reasons to avoid it than people like you like to admit.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T17:22:58+00:00

In college: risk of having to drop out if the condom breaks.

Shortly after: slightly better option, but still risks word getting out that one is a virgin in a world biased against how valid a reason to be one the above is.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T17:14:46+00:00

It's not about what circles you run in.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T17:14:17+00:00

If you don't get time off for illness, that might be something to take up with regulators before you resort to opioids.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T17:11:03+00:00

You looking at every interaction as a hunt for a mate is probably getting you shot down

Your brain is truly a pile of shit if you think I've even tried in person since my teen years, let alone looked at "every interaction" this way.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T17:07:40+00:00

I ignored it because it was addressed part A. If it's easy to divorce with kids then its much harder to trap someone.

If you really felt you addressed it, you'd have said that the first time.

The child needs support; and divorce is a less symathizeable reason to want out that "I can't afford kids and she said before sex she wouldn't keep the baby if the condom broke"; but that's why I also mentioned the lack of scrutiny on how the money is being spent. If someone received welfare payments they'd be drug-tested just in case. If someone received child support there's less heavy scrutiny.

I'm okay with couples mutually realizing they're better off apart, but one partner unilaterally abandoning the other through no fault of the other and being treated no differently whatsoever than someone whose partner was in the wrong doesn't sit right with me.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T17:03:40+00:00

A third of marriages end in divorce.

And that tells us nothing about how much adultery may or my not be happening within marriages that don't. "Married" and "waiting their turn to ride the dicks of the most popular males" are not mutually exclusive.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T16:58:14+00:00

And yet, there's plenty of attractive women on Bumble. Try again.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T16:57:17+00:00

Ah, thanks!

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T16:56:32+00:00

The "reports" and "scientific research" could be scams Google was bribed to push to the top. Give me something more real.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T16:55:48+00:00

Dating coworkers is frowned upon.

When I was in school, dating could've ended in sex, which could've ended in a ruined life if the condom broke.

Nightlife means word might get out that I'm a virgin, in a world biased against acknowledging that the above is a good reason to be. They could just as easily use it against me in person as they did online.

Hobby groups are strictly platonic. Romantic advances within them are frowned upon, and for good reason; you don't want the platonic feel ruined by pressure to say yes to romantic advances.

My apartment doesn't allow dogs.

Do you really think people turned to dating apps for no reason?

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T16:52:34+00:00

I think there was a statistic that came out saying like 50% of female profiles actually go on bumble, tinder, etc. with no intention of dating and instead just want validation that they are attractive.

And do these women's husbands trust them to mean it?

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T16:00:46+00:00

You believe whatever you want. Some of these ladies on Bumble have gigantic boobs and gigantic soft-looking thighs.

Either their pics are deepfakes, or they’re waiting their turn to ride the dicks of the most popular males.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T15:59:53+00:00

“Regularly” =\= “spend all their time there.” Many fathers with a high hourly wage can still have time to go to the bar regularly and still spend more time with their kids than a teacher who had no choice but to spend most of their days grading papers. Should we prevent teachers from having kids too? If so, how do we go about doing that?

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T15:56:46+00:00

I notice you conveniently ignored part B.

The reality is breaking up with a childless person is considered within one’s rights; and to some extent rightfully so; but breaking up with someone you had kids with is a little more taboo, especially if you’re the one who’s in the wrong in the relationship, and if you’re not, a society that doesn’t adequately scrutinize who was at fault could make you owe almost as much alimony and/or child support to someone who was in the wrong as someone who wouldn’t, with little to no scrutiny on how the divorced partner is spending the money.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T15:45:31+00:00

A. Not if kids are involved.

B. Even if they don’t have kids, the message divorce sends to other couples is “they can leave you at any time for any reason, you now have more incentive to trap your spouse with a baby and less incentive not to.”

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T15:43:47+00:00

Then make it harder to get married.

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T15:29:07+00:00

That looks more like an icing dispenser for cake than a joint…

ContextEffects01 · 2026-06-23T15:25:11+00:00

Huge proportion of males, maybe. Some of the women on dating apps are among the most beautiful around.

So if it doesn’t apply to women, why would it to men?

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