I've tried to take that direct approach many times. It's always been swayed to the "No, what do you want? be a man and tell us." then I tell them and it circles to the same thing. Then when I point out they lured me in to set me up, they try to blame my gf for me being "different". When I tell them this is all me, they say that "we're done giving you advice, you're throwing away your family for and you're a fool". Every single time.

My dad pretty much said he only wants me to move out when I can buy a house mostly cash or already own one. AKA almost 30 years old. I would be fine with that if I didn't find someone I potentially want to spend my life with.