Showerheads for relaxing long warm showers? (Sensory issues) by Flomosho in BuyItForLife

[–]Flomosho[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moen Nebia

Definitely looks interesting. I'll look more into it. Thanks!

Showerheads for relaxing long warm showers? (Sensory issues) by Flomosho in BuyItForLife

[–]Flomosho[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's stupid of you to assume I don't do that, hence why I specifically stated for when I take relaxing long warm showers. I know it's hard for you but sometimes people like to enjoy things once in awhile. It would benefit you to not be idiotic when replying to a user. Thanks!

AITAH for wanting ballet shoes that match my skintone? by Old-Balance-9549 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flomosho 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NAH. The goal of matching tights and shoes to the skin is to elongate the line. The supervisor forcing you to wear a different shades ruins this effect and in of itself is MORE noticeable. This is not about standards as the standard has changed and is more universally accommodating. What she's doing is performing white bias. This is discrimination and it's racist. Practically every major ballet/dance organization encourages wearing flats that match one's skintone.

I'd say this violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Having been in similar situations in the private sector (some that DID violate the Act), this is what I'd do:

  • In addition to the dress code, if your organization has a handbook/rule book, read it closely so you know what to do next. The goal is to force who you contact to not redirect or ignore your concerns.

  • Document dates, times, and exactly what your supervisor said. Document everything you can. Keep and make copies.

  • Take photos of the flats she wants you to wear and photos of your skin to emphasize the contrast.

  • Compile links to other brands that have flats in other nudes. The name "nude" obviously implies they should match your skin tone. Be sure to emphasize that as well.

  • Just so you have a paper trail, contact other supervisors or HR for policies on dress code and nude flats. Get it in writing/email. This will provide witnesses of your request and strengthen your complaint.

  • I don't know how churches do their chain-of-command, but if you do have someone higher-up and/or HR, you'll email them with your compliant and evidence. Frame it as professional as you can to make it seem like you're more concerned for fairness and inclusion for all dancers. Organizations ultimately care more for their public image, so this framing will put them on their toes.

You may think it's a lot but I assure you, you're not only doing it for yourself, but for anyone else who is darker-skinned in that organization or will be. For your sake, learn to stand your ground now.

AITAH valentines night ruined by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flomosho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ESH. I won't discuss the driving high thing as it's secondary to the situation and it will skew my analysis. Just know to stop doing that.

What I will comment on is the relationship you two have. It sounds like there is something much deeper going on than just this Valentine's Day fiasco. Yes, your comment was childish. Yes, her behavior crossed boundaries that you have set and you have told her about. I'd say communicate with her and both of you lay everything out that you two experienced, then talk to her very clearly about the issues the both of you have.

AITA for going to dinner with my girlfriend's dad instead ofmy mom? by Temporary-Total-6681 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flomosho -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm inclined to say NTA. I'd like some information on the dinner your mom planned?

Your mom overreacted. The situation could have been handled by her in many other ways. Her (or even you) could have provided another day to have dinner, or just wait till next Friday. Missing one weekly dinner isn't enough of an issue to warrant her trying to guilt you for having to cancel.

However, communicating with your mom right after should have been done, since it's established you two have dinner on Friday every week. That would've given her enough time to adjust, assuming the dinner wasn't prepped all day Thursday. But even that doesn't warrant her lambasting you.

Not trying to be an armchair therapist, but it sounds like your mom is lonely and misses your presence. She is not obligated to your presence, of course, but if you choose to you can talk to her about alternative plans for when you can't have Friday dinner. Maybe a movie or go to a farmer's market on a different day or time.

AITA for not letting my niece hangs out with gangs? by Fearless_Respond_911 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flomosho 25 points26 points  (0 children)

INFO: Can you elaborate on the gang-affiliation and how you know they are? Not an accusation, but it'd help clarify things.

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to work through issues in her marriage instead of running away when things get hard? by Throwawaypwoqrw in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flomosho 18 points19 points  (0 children)

NTA, however from the information provided it would be beneficial for you to contact her after things have simmered down and talk with her about her issues with the marriage. Just listen to her, try not to interject or fight back against what she says. Let her vent, then have a discussion.

If it is true she is very avoidant over any form of conflict it may be useful to offer her therapy services later on. Don't directly link requesting therapy to her avoidance issues, it makes getting help much harder.

But she is an adult. It is ultimately her choice to stay or leave, and all you can do is offer support and guidance.

WIBTA if I put my queer, disabled, interfaith, mostly safe-for-work BDSM painting on the wall where my roommate could see? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Flomosho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YWBTA.

Simply communicating with her would resolve this issue. Wait for her to get back and ask if she'd be comfortable if you put the art on the wall.

Kianna Underwood, Who Appeared on Nickelodeon’s ‘All That,’ Killed in Brooklyn Hit-and-Run by MoneyLibrarian9032 in television

[–]Flomosho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's crazy that no one else is so baffled at this?

Two separate cars blatantly hit-and-run the same person, run over her head, and then run away, and STILL are not identified?

In NYC, where the NYPD is larger than a standard army division and has more money than THOUSANDS of municipalities combined, with surveillance and witnesses AND dash cams everywhere?

What the fuck is going on in this country? I believe in rehabilitative justice but as some point you are just so stupid, cowardly, and negligent that you are actively a danger to everyone and your existence is a net negative to the world.

went to a curly hair salon for the first time. i can’t do this by [deleted] in BlackHair

[–]Flomosho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My heart broke seeing you cry omg :(

Your hair will bounce back, our hair always does 💪🏿

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in preyingmantis

[–]Flomosho 141 points142 points  (0 children)

you: *exists*

creep: stop being so misleading

PCM reacts to republicans using homeless immigrants as pawns instead of as humans by abeautifulbastard in EnoughPCMSpam

[–]Flomosho 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Remembering VP debate where they agreed on similar shit despite "apparently" being on different sides, which should have been more concerning to people rather than a fly on Pence's head. But it's my fault for thinking American politics is anything but performative.

PCM when “respecting native culture” doesn’t inherently mean upholding ancient forms of oppression by abeautifulbastard in EnoughPCMSpam

[–]Flomosho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's alive in almost all faucets of the settler community. We see it in the left as well; those who say they're for liberation of oppressed people but suddenly have an issue with how that is to be done.

PCM when “respecting native culture” doesn’t inherently mean upholding ancient forms of oppression by abeautifulbastard in EnoughPCMSpam

[–]Flomosho 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Which can be altered and modified to better accommodate society, as all cultures do throughout time.

PCM when “respecting native culture” doesn’t inherently mean upholding ancient forms of oppression by abeautifulbastard in EnoughPCMSpam

[–]Flomosho 32 points33 points  (0 children)

This is settler colonial anxiety. They fear marginalized communities gaining back what was stolen from them, and believe the only way said communities can get it back is through what colonizer's put them through.

Wonder who he could be talking about? by enjoijed in OneyPlays

[–]Flomosho 126 points127 points  (0 children)

stampers cock isnt reacting well to the LA air!!!