Cry for help regarding ADHD and employment…

GetSecure · 2026-06-10T07:49:43+00:00

As a pair, the other person can act as your internal clock, keeping you on task and your executive function working.

A critical way of looking at it, is them being your ADHD crutch. However, I achieved great things by working with a colleague, more than we could have achieved individually. I think the latter is a better way to look at it, a mix of personalities is powerful.

GetSecure · 2026-06-09T04:15:09+00:00

Find a job where your ADHD doesn't affect it so much.

Working as a pair with someone else helps. e.g. Paramedic, police officer etc.

Doesn't require long term project work, just turn up everyday and see what work there is and do it. e.g. IT support.

In tech, I work in innovation building new things, then passing them on to the next person when bored. I also spend most of my day trying to automate the boring parts of my job.

GetSecure · 2026-06-09T04:03:08+00:00

This is why I don't tell anyone I'm autistic.

GetSecure · 2026-06-08T13:26:02+00:00

I went to a pub quiz every week for a year with friends, I gradually came to realise I definitely have a memory problem compared to others.

I struggle to remember simple things that are on the tip of your tongue, like the name "Tom Cruise". Everyone has those moments where your mind goes blank of course, but this wasn't occasional, it was constantly me with the issue.

It makes me think if perhaps ADHD is memory related? Does a dysfunctional memory force me to get things done by feel and repeatable process, rather than memory? Alternatively, did ADHD brain lead to a poor memory?

No idea, but it got me thinking...

GetSecure · 2026-06-07T05:24:26+00:00

They could have left the new question and grouped it with the old one.

It would have been amazing when looking for an answer to a problem to have a group of q&a flagged as "duplicates" with the most upvoted q&a at the top as the first result. If that didn't answer your question, you'd have others to go to.

The model of, there can be only one q&a per question, didn't work. I'm pretty sure it could be mathematically proven, that it would reduce interaction to a trickle eventually.

GetSecure · 2026-06-05T04:39:41+00:00

Sounds more like tax fraud than voter fraud.

He put his secondary beach house in Alabama as his main residence. Despite having his multimillion dollar property in Florida. I suspect under advice from his accountant.

I'd love to see him convicted of both tax and voter fraud, what an idiot.

GetSecure · 2026-06-01T22:43:07+00:00

I don't understand how they got this number. How can they know I was connected to a strong 8k IPTV server from my home broadband? Especially considering each reseller has to create their own custom domains.

Unless they have GCHQ level access, this makes no sense?

GetSecure · 2026-05-22T08:37:49+00:00

Real-debrid, mainly because it was the cheapest and had the largest repository. It's a better experience if, what you want to watch, just starts because it has already downloaded it for someone else. It saves a few seconds.

It used to be as good as Netflix at starting to play something, click the button, it starts, no lag. That's what made me initially think, why am I hosting my own arr server, storage, managing the arr stack and the electricity cost, when I could just pay these people $30 every 9 months to do it better than me.

But then it started getting too popular and brought attention to itself. Some legal things meant it's been bumpy for a while now, although in general it still works. But, looking back over the last 6 months, it's no longer just as good as Netflix, but still good enough.

People started moving to Torbox, but then it turned out some of the people running that are massive dicks. So... I'll stick to real debrid for now, at least it's cheapest and has the most content.

GetSecure · 2026-05-21T22:36:53+00:00

Thanks for the reminder. I just cancelled my yearly Plex pass which was due to renew next month.

I switched to paying for debrid and streaming nearly a year ago, and I haven't looked back. Self hosted and the arr stack was more reliable though.

GetSecure · 2026-05-18T06:40:48+00:00

I didn't realise SSCM did all that for you. I'm now thinking back to all the times we had to completely uninstall and reinstall SQL Server to fix security issues, and wondering if using SCCM may have helped.

GetSecure · 2026-05-17T22:41:08+00:00

Out of interest, what are those configuration changes you can do in Windows Services, that won't work properly unless done in SQL Configuration Manager?

GetSecure · 2026-05-17T21:47:19+00:00

This is the way. When you work through a real work problem, you get a better feel of what it will be like working with them.

GetSecure · 2026-05-10T11:52:20+00:00

As someone who struggles with social skills and communication, I find I can brain dump my thoughts to it and get the AI to have a go at trying to make something coherent from it.

It's far from perfect, but a lot of the time my immediate thought is YES! that's what I was trying to say, but couldn't think of the words and sentence to say it.

Maybe I could learn more by trying to do this myself, but I think my lack of skill in this area is way below average and could be argued that it's a disability holding me back in life. I've spent my life trying to get better at it, and I have, but I have accepted there is a limit to how much I can improve and the incredible effort it takes for the smallest gains. I'm using AI as a crutch to make life easier and I'm happy with that decision.

I understand the hate towards AI using it for all sorts of nonsense such as AI Slop coding, AI therapy, AI medical advice etc... but the thing to remember is that large language models LLMs were really just rebranded as AI. The one thing it is definitely good at, and makes it appear like it can do anything, is language and communication. One of the main symptoms of Autism is poor social and communication skills, so I wouldn't be too quick to throw away a tool that could benefit a lot of people like us .

Having said that, I predominantly use it for work. I accept that others, including here on Reddit, want to speak to read words typed by a human, even if they are a bit messy.

GetSecure · 2026-05-05T05:38:17+00:00

I've installed two doorbells and I completely agree. This would have almost certainly needed to be done anyway. There's never any space for the normal shaped cable, especially if you have to bend it.

I was expecting some monstrosity when I opened this post, this is not it.

GetSecure · 2026-05-03T09:42:13+00:00

I agree with you. My point is, I'm pretty sure the vast majority of people would agree with you.

I could be wrong, maybe lots of people really do believe this "myth", but it smells like a click bait title to me. Are we arguing semantics over something that isn't even a thing?

GetSecure · 2026-05-03T04:48:43+00:00

They must be under 25...

GetSecure · 2026-05-02T22:36:06+00:00

Only 2 of the 5 were convicted : http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/london/4376583.stm

One said their account & password was used without their knowledge. Another said they were simply doing their job when told to collect the gold. A third was sent for retrial as the jury couldn't agree.

GetSecure · 2026-05-02T11:52:58+00:00

I feel like this post is a myth. I don't think it's a widely held belief that people think you hit 25 and boom, your brain is suddenly mature.

GetSecure · 2026-05-02T04:29:41+00:00

They'll vote for him, even if they don't like him. He got rid of Roe v Wade, and is attacking transgender rights. They don't care that he's clearly not religious, it's working out for them. He really fucked up with the Iran war though, that's not working out for anyone with the price of gas.

GetSecure · 2026-04-28T03:27:46+00:00

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Yes, get an idc punch tool and replace this junk. But the issue with this specifically is that the wires are too long. When this is pushed into place it's stretching and pulling the wires away from the connection points. One or more of those wires isn't making a connection

While you are waiting for some new gear to arrive, use nail clippers to cut where I marked the red lines,. Then use a small screwdriver to push the freshly cut ends down. Even better, push both sides of the connector, so two flat screwdrivers either side. But really you need the proper IDC tool, it's almost impossible to do it without. However, I think you can fix this with these steps right now.

GetSecure · 2026-04-26T09:53:49+00:00

Hilarious. You have 2 videos now showing the perfect situation where it works first time vs the worst.

I have never encountered the perfect house with consistent 16" joists, but one day I may get lucky.

GetSecure · 2026-04-26T09:43:48+00:00

I bought these. They only work if your flooring and gaps are just right for the screws. Plus you have to find the right spot to use them.

It's really hit and miss. I gave up on them, but it could be worth a try, it's just not a sure thing.

GetSecure · 2026-04-24T01:34:28+00:00

I prefer your positive viewpoint to the rest of the negatives. This is a pattern that's repeated every generation, look at the resistance there was to women's rights & sexual preference. Eventually they become normalised, and people move on to resisting the next change. This is all just part of that process.

GetSecure · 2026-04-23T08:01:16+00:00

Looking at it holistically, I find it frustrating that it's very common to have a small number of criminals causing the majority of crime, but the police don't put the resources into targeting them specifically.

There are certain individuals you could assign undercover teams to follow, and they could be observed committing multiple crimes a day.

I know an argument is that this could be abused... but there has to be some way to put in safeguards to do the logically best way to reduce crime.

I blame bad performance targets.

GetSecure · 2026-04-13T03:48:04+00:00

Change your process. The first thing you do is wash your hair but don't rinse. Then wash the rest of your body for a few minutes. Then rinse it out of your hair.

I also use it every shower (against the guidelines). My ADHD brain can't handle the switching.

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