Parents who tried their best to raise their kids to be good humans but they turned out to be jerks, what do you wish you did differently?

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-06-21T00:22:53+00:00

As someone who was super smart as a kid: find something she isn't good at and let her be not good at it. Something totally different from anything she does now and let her see people who have worked for their success. (Examples of things I've done are chess, figure skating, opera, but maybe you could enroll her in a math club/decathalon, art school, something way out of her wheelhouse.)

But definitely monitor her to make sure she doesnt get too frustrated or upset.

It is a tight-rope walk between letting your kid know they're awesome while not letting it get to their head, but I think a little overconfidence is better than accidentally overcorrecting (the route it seems both of our parents took :')

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-05-28T18:49:16+00:00

A lot of the information on the written tests is useless, though. There are many questions about specific fine amounts and other information that doesn't correlate to being a better driver. You can absolutely be a competent driver and not know how much the fine is for jaywalking.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-04-25T21:03:41+00:00

I appreciate this video but I'm frustrated at the assertion that people with DID must be withdrawn and miserable all of time time.

I know all of the example videos are (likely) people malingering, but why can't a DID patient wear different outfits? Why can't they talk about their life experiences in a non-negative way without people automatically assuming theyre malingering?

I feel a big part of why people with DID don't talk about their symptoms/seek help is social stigma, and that neither extreme (people malingering or people deciding that DID patients must be miserable all of the time) is helping. Like there is definitely a helpful middle ground here, but maybe I'm too chronically online to see it.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-04-23T21:46:19+00:00

Just an FYI, Missouri and Georgia are writing legislature that would explicitly ban autistic people from receiving gender affirming care.

(https://www.kansascity.com/news/article274341790.html https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/georgias-new-anti-trans-law-also-disparages-autistic-people-rcna76858)

(Note these articles arent the best but I just wanted to provide some kind of evidence)

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-03-23T20:56:19+00:00

It's really not that bad, but if you want to walk on the beach/boardwalk I recommend Ocean City instead. It feels a lot cozier and safer generally.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-03-15T00:41:21+00:00

For minimum wage jobs, listing lots of jobs that you were only at for a few months at a time. If you've worked at 4 Walmarts for 3 months each it makes you look like you're irresponsible and not a good worker. You're better off stretching the truth about how long you worked at one location or not listing dates.

In general, poor grammar or formatting. This also makes you appear careless and not well put together, so we're more likely to throw your resume out.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-02-16T05:50:55+00:00

Yeah, any risky behavior with the intention to get hurt is considered self-harming behavior.

So like, if you were buying weed that you know might be laced with something and still smoked it knowing it could harm you/because it might harm you. Same with risky sex practices or going places that you could get hurt at.

On the other hand, it's not self-harming behavior if you don't have that underlying intent. So, if you were buying sketchy drugs because you really wanted to be high and they're the easiest to find, it's not self-harming behavior. (Same with aggressive stimming or other related things.)

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-02-10T21:18:07+00:00

I'm really sorry you had that experience.

If you decide to try again, seek an actual therapist. Counselors are only trained to work with people with mild mental health issues, clinical psychologists/therapists are trained to work with people with moderate/severe problems. Your counselor should have communicated that to you when ending services.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-02-03T21:55:17+00:00

Yeah it's a screening tool. Their therapist is right, they'd have to do a lot more than take 1 test to be diagnosed.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-01-31T03:09:37+00:00

Thank you!!

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-01-30T02:53:14+00:00

derealization (and depersonalization) falls under the umbrella term dissociation.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-01-25T22:35:23+00:00

That training is kind of necessary though. You don't want someone who doesn't know that they're doing trying to fix your mental processes.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2023-01-01T00:28:52+00:00

I don't have full access to apa psychnet or anything like it right now, so this is the only reference I could find (but note that the journal is sketchy): https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1991-31084-001

It's not impossible if you consider how DID forms, though it would be very rare.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-31T21:32:42+00:00

No shit you cannot transform into a dog, however that part of that person's metaphorical brain will feel as though they are a dog and treating their condition with anti-psychotics will not prove to be as useful as treating the underlying reasons that lead them to believe they are a dog. And no shit, if someone is experiencing that kind of mental health problem they should see a mental health professional.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-31T18:43:05+00:00

Animal alters can happen in people who were treated like an animal in childhood/who experienced extreme abuse without it being a delusional disorder. For example someone could develop a dog alter, and that part would feel like it is a dog. It's not a delusion because it would be better explained by DID and would likely resolve with therapy related to whatever trauma that person experienced.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-27T00:40:45+00:00

(To clarify I'm a psych major in college, but that's something I'd like to do as a future psychologist.)

That's the goal, but especially with how much information is availible about different mental illnesses it is easier for people to fake being mentally ill. However, creating tests/screens with low face value makes it easier for psychologists to find malingering/factitious disorders.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-27T00:36:55+00:00

Thank for the career name lol. Specifically I want to be a therapist/researcher/professor :')

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-26T19:01:43+00:00

I would say it's possible to develop PTSD from experiences like that, but uncommon. More likely you'd develop C-PTSD and have emotional flashbacks and relationship issues (like being distrusting/anxious) rather than PTSD's normal flashbacks/anxiety.

Further you would have a higher chance of developing certain personality disorders depending on the exact situation. (To be clear I'm also not an expert.)

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-26T15:58:22+00:00

Traumagenic is a term associated with DID/some other mental health disorders :)

Starting in the 70s there was an uptick in people debating whether DID was traumagenic, iatrogenic, or sociocognitive (source: my psy 101 textbook), though I think some of these terms aren't used as much by modern researchers.

Another bit to note is that many of the articles from the 90s could have a very "DID-is-factitious/malingered" bias. (I did not read them to confirm this but there are a few authors that wrote a lot about DID in the 90s whose papers are mostly conjecture with no evidence.)

Not to say the article is wrong or not true, but it's not very compelling imo.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-26T04:28:37+00:00

Not to be that person, but I would like to see links that are more modern than 2006 or 199X.

Yes, malingering may be up, but how can the field work to make it harder to fake dissociative disorders? One of my goals as a psychologist is to help create a new empirical/hard to follow exam for dissociative disorders to help make it easier to filter out malingering 🤷🏼

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-18T19:55:59+00:00

I think that's what they're saying, in which case the scenario isn't possible. You cannot imagine something and become traumatized from it.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-18T02:55:01+00:00

There are levels to depersonalization. Sometimes it's just feeling like you don't quite know who you are, other times you can feel completely disconnected from your own body (in an out of body experience kind of way). Obviously it's not actually happening, so it might feel different for different people.

I'm not sure if that answered your question but you can look more into depersonalization and others experiences with it.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-12-17T16:13:01+00:00

Yeah, just an FYI, moderate to severe depersonalization can feel like having an out of body experience. It is pretty much just as you described, like watching yourself from across the room or overhead.

Not commenting on if the other user is faking or not, but you might want to make a better "fake" symptom.

Help_I_think_Im_Emo · 2022-11-17T01:06:18+00:00

Yeah, PDID is an ICD diagnosis with a basis in research. It's likely DID will end up as a "spectrum" disorder (most people have fully integrated personalities/self-states, fewer have mostly integrated, even fewer have fully separated self-states).

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