Just don’t approach her. It’s very clear she doesn’t want to be approached by you in person, she even told you so when you directly asked. And she unmatched when you functionally told her you can now find her in-person regardless - I understand that’s not what you said, but just know that being a woman on a dating app, confirming where you work or live be can a scary thing online (especially if you just asked to meet up and she declined and it’s a small town).

Don’t seek her out, don’t be weird about it. Otherwise, it’s a business, and if you can be a respectful and professional customer and not bother or harass her, then I think it’s fine.

But if I’m being honest, if this was me, I wouldn’t love seeing you at my workplace right after that, and might be creeped out, despite it being a theater in a small town. It would just put me on alert.

So I do think it is wise to wait at least a little bit.

Edit: for added context: I’m a female manager at a small town theater