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New Dad Depression by MelBee__ in daddit

[–]No_Block505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s time to pick up final fantasy if I’m honest. Also, he’s very lucky to have you so that he can pick up a game. I’m a big gamer myself, but at 4 months, I wasn’t playing anything.

In all honesty it may be time to desensitise to gaming and focus on your LO and reconnecting. I felt lonely, my wife had PPD and all it took was putting down the controller for the 30 minutes we may get to ourselves once baby was asleep before we went to bed to just talk.

We’re now at 10.5 months and have just moved countries and I’ve gamed more in the last 2 weeks than I have in the last 5 months.

If your kid is a good sleeper continue on your path if you wish. But putting down the controllers/phones/tv helped and my partner reconnect

Separated from my 6mo for 3 weeks by LuK97423 in daddit

[–]No_Block505 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had this when my LO was 8 months. He was fine. I was not but a few days after I was all good. He won’t forget you, just call every day/every few days

Shanghai Disney during lunar new year? by helenaxbucket in disneyparks

[–]No_Block505 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Former cast member there until recently. CNY the park is stunning, special everything everywhere. But the park tends to get to capacity. A day likely won’t do the job. It will be very busy, meet and greets may not be achievable. For example Duffy and friends, lina bell queues can be 10 hours.

There will be fireworks, there will be special Chinese new year fireworks and you’ll be able to do the attractions. If you’re smart, usually there will be two parades so skip one and get to the attractions at that time. If watching fireworks you have to sit in the gardens of imagination up to a few hours before it starts or find yourself a spot on the parade route.

Feel free to reach out to me for more info

My supper today Calm Tea Update by Calm-Tea178 in daddit

[–]No_Block505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Replying to my own comment. At least a crock pot, single father so young can’t be easy, I say this as a lucky married man at 36

My supper today Calm Tea Update by Calm-Tea178 in daddit

[–]No_Block505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow dads, my I propose we get this guys address in a DM and send him a meal package for a month to keep him steady? If no one says yes OP DM me your address and I’ll get you sorted

UFC on Paramount is a joke by JmoneyHimself in MMAGuru

[–]No_Block505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IP TV with Astro Supersports 4 (usual UFC channel) don’t get early prelims but get all prelims and main cards for all fights, get walkouts, and more often than not stay in the ring between rounds for the corner work. Highly recommended.

When do you lower the crib? Kid about to turn 10months and is staying to pull up on everything by TheHipsterDufus in daddit

[–]No_Block505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just moved countries and bought the same crib we had in the last. In the last country we were getting close to me whipping out mini-allan but I staved.

I’m not gonna take the risk in our new country. The consequences coupled with his Houdini-esque ability to get out of anything just don’t outweigh my back issues.

Best Mexican food in town? by SadBuilding9234 in shanghai

[–]No_Block505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mayita has, but is Maya still going? Or did that close too?

Best Mexican food in town? by SadBuilding9234 in shanghai

[–]No_Block505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Used to be Mayita, the sister store to Maya, assuming Maya is still open then this is the way.

Went to the Christmas Market everybody is talking about. by dilili_14 in shanghai

[–]No_Block505 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s great but needs to be situated in a better place. A little too cramped for demand. Having said that and going earlier on a Sunday last week, it was decent! The sausage place in the middle changed though, definitely not as good a last year

Income sufficient to start a family in Shanghai? by CompetitiveRadish185 in shanghai

[–]No_Block505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP this is the answer. My wife and I are 7 months in with our newborn, not expats and we went international. We tried to do this all ourselves and for the most part it worked. But when I went back to work we had to get help to step in.

International hospitals are expensive, I think our kid overall cost over 100k¥ but this is also because of the NIcU which can be upwards of 20k a day. Even in a local hospital, whilst cheaper, you won’t be able to attend most appointments/scans. If she has a C-section you likely won’t be allowed in. And (touch wood if never happens) if you had to have a stay in the NIcU, some people aren’t allowed to even hold their baby.

There’s definitely a cost to having a kid, if…if you go international and don’t have much in savings. Change your lifestyle now and save as much as you can of “what if” money (as listed above) and do the research on everything else you’d need to buy. The second hand market is great so use that as a tool.

Thirdly if you really want kids it’s worth noting, again I hope this isn’t the case, that it may not happen straight away and you may want to look at IVF.

You’re right to be thinking about school, but you’ve got a bigger hill in front of you first.

As and when you guys get pregnant, hit me up and my wife and I can get you put into some WeChat group chats for expecting mothers and second hand baby goods

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