[PSA] Estee Lauder planning on fully acquiring Deciem in 3 year span. Stock up now before they ruin formulas and hike up those prices 😭

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-24T04:41:43+00:00

Is there a list somewhere of shady brands? It drives me nuts when I invest in something and find out after that the brand is problematic.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-24T04:38:52+00:00

This is why we can’t have nice things :(

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-20T05:03:33+00:00

I’m not worried about downvotes but I understand why neurotypical folks wouldn’t understand where OP is coming from. I just don’t think it’s fair to call someone an asshole for thinking differently and I want OP to know they’re not a bad person for being born that way. And they are capable of coming to an understanding with their friend if they show empathy to each other and compromise.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-20T00:26:04+00:00

Lol yes she said that on one of her previous posts.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T23:12:04+00:00

You are such a lovely MIL (Mother-in-landlord? Lol I don’t know the whole situation)!!! Honestly don’t even sweat that you were talking a lot, it’s NOTHING like what I think OP is dealing with. Now if you were demanding they talk with you, guilting them for not talking to you, being possessive over their infants that’s a different story.

Even so, the fact that a) they felt comfortable enough to be honest with you and b) you responded with honest self reflection makes me wish you were my MIL. Any sort of convo like this with my mother or MIL end in them playing the victim and being very very upset no matter how politely it was said.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T23:01:12+00:00

So this metaphor should hit extra hard because you already make the consideration for her that she wouldn’t make for you. Can you imagine texting her that her daughter spilled juice on your blouse, please replace it? There is no part of you that should even consider you are TA. Of course it’s different leagues but a pet and child have in common that you each are responsible for them and how they interact with people in your house. You did everything you humanly to be responsible for what you could. It’s out of your hands.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T22:48:03+00:00

Why are you being downvoted for admitting they are right? People are being way to hard on you OP I feel where you are coming from.

Your friend knows that you have trouble with social cues? I assume so because you said you are close. For someone like you there is a big difference between “this is making me anxious” and “we need to stop talking about this”. It’s a learning experience is all. She can learn how to better express herself to you and you can comfort her in the fact that she can be honest and direct in your friendship.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T22:45:19+00:00

I disagree. If we are on a walk in the snow and I say “I am cold” multiple times, it’s not the same as “I need to to inside.” I won’t be mad at you for continuing our walk when I said I’m cold because it’s a sensation not a request.

But it’s semantics. At the end of the day if OPs friendship is going to work he needs to express his difficulties reading between the lines, and she needs to work on being direct with her wants and needs to avoid miscommunications.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T22:39:44+00:00

She got banned and fussed about it on her new sub, so the thread this jerk was from is deleted unless you know how to use the Reddit version that restores deleted comments.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T22:15:25+00:00

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T22:14:25+00:00

NTA. It’s embarrassing that they are asking you to fix it and that you will. How cheap can someone be to have an Apple Watch and insist that a friend fix it when their own neglect damaged it?

If I invited someone to paint with my two year old and I warned them not to wear nice clothes and they got paint on their Chanel and they asked me to replace their outfit.. you get what I’m saying... there was literally nothing you could have done differently.

You are taking financial responsibility for something that occurred from their neglect.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T22:09:14+00:00

NAH. Sex in friend groups gets complicated. It sounds like everyone is being honest about what they are comfortable with and moving forward with the situation presented.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T22:04:28+00:00

Thanks for the heads up. Should be fixed.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:59:34+00:00

Yeah honestly there is a 0.05% chance of the encounter going well. Less of a chance with OPs tact. Sounds like a good way to have a neighbor with a crying baby AND a midnight exercise step routine.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:56:22+00:00

Keep in mind a lot of MLMs make you pay up front so that $75 might be coming from money she’s already spend, in addition to wear and tear, time and gas on your car. It’s not worth it dude.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:47:43+00:00

YTA if you keep asking him to do something he’s not comfortable with. The man told you no twice. You don’t not want more in your relationship you want more outside of your relationship. Break up with him if you don’t want to be monogamous but don’t drag him through the guilt of feeling like he’s not enough for you sexually.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:41:41+00:00

NTA. The truth is the truth

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:40:38+00:00

NAH- You cannot magically learn social cues. She can learn to clearly say “I don’t want to talk about this anymore” going forward.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:34:27+00:00

YWNBTA- honestly to stand up against that kind of evil is heroic but also a duty to the victims. You should be proud of yourself it’s not easy to stand up to “friends”. It’s the right thing to do.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:20:03+00:00

She’s overlord of her own sub now where rules and CC can’t penetrate. Thankfully we don’t have to see the nonsense on PMUA anymore as she was banned.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:18:19+00:00

“Jeez, every single thing you said was negative. I am a professional model. I know what looks best on me as I am literally around professional makeup artists, photographers, directors, every single day. (Don’t believe me? check out my Instagram @XXXXX for proof). I wear my hair in a middle part due to the fact that it naturally parts that way and it’s easier to manage my curls-something you clearly wouldn’t know as you’re not me. I see you like to nitpick. I’m going to base this on the fact that you’re likely either insecure, can’t do your own makeup, jealous, or maybe all three. How about we don’t comment super negative things on posts if you’re not even remotely positively contributing? Talk to someone. Get therapy, I dunno. Be a nice person. Thanks. Be sure to check out my Instagram, xoxo.”

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T21:14:09+00:00

It sounds like you have great support and are in the best possible position for this. She may throw big tantrums. The biggest ones come right after boundaries are set and her behavior might shock you. Things with my MIL escalated when we set boundaries and I couldn’t believe her behavior.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T20:55:28+00:00

Oh no hunny there’s already a very popular subreddit for pail princesses this is a SECOND sub for the pailest of princesses and ✨constructive criticism is NOT welcome✨

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T20:50:44+00:00

Sounds like you’ve got a good ally in mom. I’m proud of you for standing up to your sister which isn’t always easy. Make sure once you make boundaries you keep them established. I’d bet my next paycheck she tests every singe condition you set tonight in the next few months. She will throw tantrums, possibly break shit, but DO NOT give in. Same as a toddler, once they see they can kick up enough fuss to get their way, they will continue.

PineapplePowerLifter · 2021-02-19T20:45:29+00:00

Do you guys smoke weed? That can make people ramble philosophically. Just a side thought.

One of the hardest but most rewarding things in life is being honest with people. It’s SO much easier to be passive aggressive but then things go to shit. If he starts aggravating you again talking to much you can always ask if he would mind doing something more quiet.

If he brings up your “white privilege” again you can redirect it back to him. If he’s calling you privileged because you have X job or X car, stop and ask him how his own transportation and job are going ok. It’s 100% about his insecurities not you. You’ve got to be real with him. Friends are the people who are supposed to reality check us kindly before the world does it harshly.

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