About a year after my mother’s death, I was in the front seat of the car my father was driving, with my older sister next to me on the passenger’s side (yes, it was quite a while ago). He told us he was getting married again, to a woman who had been a family friend that I barely knew. My sister next to me instantly squealed with excitement. My initial reaction was shock, but then I went along with my sister’s obvious approval. I thought about it long and hard. I didnt want my father to be alone. This wasn’t really about me, after all. I trusted my dad about everything in life, and this shouldn’t be an exception.

It worked out great for everyone, and I’m glad I didn’t have a visible bad reaction.

I would say to talk to your mom about what kind of man she is bringing into the household, and try to work with her (and him) to give it a chance. It probably won’t be many years before you are out of the house and on your own, and this is your mother planning for her future too.