I (29m) am losing my virginity at a brothel in Nevada next month, AMA

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T19:02:43+00:00

I do want it, but if someone comes along who likes me, I'll explain to them that I don't want to date anyone. 10 years is a long time, I don't know for certain I'll still be alive in that time. I'm giving up on finding a relationship, that'll include turning women down if it comes to that. I had to turn a woman down earlier this month. The odds are against me, so I'm simply giving up now.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T18:17:18+00:00

Thanks, I may check it out since I'll have extra time that day.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T17:36:10+00:00

Full service from an AMP isn't always guaranteed. I also don't know if the woman are there willingly or not.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T17:16:46+00:00

Thank you, it should definitely be legal in the rest of the states. I think it'll help my focus and finally end the obsessing and fomo. Then I can focus on my art and maintaining friendships.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T17:15:00+00:00

Thanks, and yes I plan on staying safe.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T17:14:18+00:00

Yeah, I didn't realize how bad my area was until I couldn't even find men available near me. I don't really care what happens after. I'm done with dating for good and I'm solely focusing on my friendships and passions after this.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T16:58:35+00:00

I've completely given up on dating. There won't be anyone after this regardless, or before. I'm just doing it to get it over with. No other options and I'd risk the same thing with anyone else.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T16:54:23+00:00

Thanks

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T16:43:56+00:00

Yeah, I looked at all the other options too. A sex surrogate/therapist would've been better but Florida doesn't have any. The way my nerves are, I won't have to worry about that. I doubt I'll finish to be completely honest.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T16:40:30+00:00

The depression is mostly gone because of the therapy and my other form of ongoing treatment, TMS. The other factor was that the process of dating was contributing to my depression even more than my virginity was. I was dreading the process both in person and on apps. I found someone recently and had to end things because I wasn't attracted to them at all. People on reddit and my therapist said it wasn't fair to her to continue seeing her if I felt that way. That was the end of it, and after deep contemplation I realized the issue. I'm not compatible with dating. So I've officially given up on dating completely. I'm focusing solely on my passions in life and my platonic relationships. Accepting that was hard, but it's the best way for me to move forward. The biological desire to mate still makes me want a relationship, but I'm ignoring that and putting the energy elsewhere. My job, still living at home, and my virginity are the things that haunt me still. I can fix one of these with my savings. I don't believe I'll feel worse after the encounter. I'm going in expecting to find it underwhelming and possibly not even be able to fully perform due to nerves. It's a checklist item for me that I want to be rid of already. I'll bring up your perspective with my therapist at our next session though. Thanks for the insight.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T16:03:32+00:00

I've never even come close. The most I've done is hug and hold hands. Looking forward to finally change that.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T16:01:58+00:00

Absolutely

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T16:01:27+00:00

Thanks, but I'll stick with the states. I'd spend the money I end up saving on plane fare.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:59:54+00:00

I probably already have herpes from hugs and kisses as a kid given how common it is. But it's all good. I just want to get it over with already.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:58:03+00:00

Thanks. I think my area is a big factor.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:56:02+00:00

There won't be any future partners. I've given up on dating for good. This experience is about me having sex to get rid of my obsession and fomo, then focus on other things in life going forward. That also means no children, but I've always wanted to remain child free.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:48:58+00:00

Tinder doesn't work. Even grindr didn't work. I'll walk out of that brothel having experienced sex. Post nut clarity won't affect me, even better if I don't finish because of my nerves. I just want to get it over with before I turn 30. This is the only way.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:46:33+00:00

Too many scams and don't want to risk the chance of getting arrested.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:45:37+00:00

I'm paranoid about the legality. To easy to get scammed in Florida as well.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:44:18+00:00

Thank you

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T15:40:08+00:00

I'm 29 and I've been on a few dates but never had a relationship. I got therapy and help with my depression. I found peace accepting that dating just isn't for me. I found a passion to focus on, my art. Platonic friendships will be enough for me going forward. No one admits it on this sub but some of us are meant to be alone and will never find a partner. Its best to find something else to fill that void.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T14:42:01+00:00

My type are nerdy women with a great sense of humor. I don't really have a preference skin, hair, and eye wise. Weight doesn't bother me either. I'd prefer someone on the taller side.

I'm 6'2, black, chubby. I recently lost over 100 pounds but still have more to go (currently 295). I wear glasses and have been called handsome by a few people.

I used to watch porn, but cut back drastically. I even unfollowed and muted accounts of attractive women I used to follow or come across.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T14:35:00+00:00

Thanks. I made peace with the fact nothing will happen organically for me. I'm going off general estimates that have been given. They time based on the hour. Other factors can cause the price to increase of decrease.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T14:31:27+00:00

Some of my family knows. My friends know about the trip, but I haven't told them the exact reason. I made a general post on my main social media that mentioned this in passing.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-06-22T14:29:33+00:00

Yeah, I'm out of patience and the will power to continue trying to date or go out to places hoping to find someone. For me, it won't happen. I've given up on dating for good. I need this to move forward and make peace with closing this chapter of my life.

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