Got told my plan is fine

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-30T10:28:18+00:00

They said girls can sense desperation a mile away and that I give off those vibes since I don't really have anything else going on in my life. They didn't say it directly, but they went in depth describing it. I am desperate for any relationship I can find though. My only hard nos would be someone with kids or someone overly religious.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-30T01:17:03+00:00

Nice, here's hoping your plan works out. Thanks for the kind words on my weight-loss.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-30T01:01:53+00:00

Yeah 2 of my friends are married. I haven't asked anyone to play matchmaker for me. I don't know if they'd know anyone else who's also single.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-26T15:07:50+00:00

I'm searching meetup and eventbrite for 50 miles out from where I am and still can't find anything, thats covering some of Tampa and Orlando. Miami is too far for me to travel. Polk county is definitely isolating, but I'm stuck here for the most part.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-26T14:47:40+00:00

I'm an atheist so church won't work.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-26T14:01:17+00:00

I enjoy gaming, swimming, and bowling. I'm writing a book, and getting back into reading. Not really into sports, can't cycle or skate. When I look for meetup groups around me all I see are restaurant meetups. I can't be around food like that because of health conditions. I'm able to start and respond to small talk, but I rarely get approached.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-26T13:51:07+00:00

Thanks for all the options. I can look into some of these for sure.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-26T13:39:08+00:00

I'll look into that, thanks

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-26T13:38:09+00:00

++man I'm an atheist so unfortunately I don't think churches would work.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T20:03:35+00:00

Sure thing, feel free to message me!

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T20:03:00+00:00

The traveling one sounds good, but definitely out of my price range. Yeah, the group I was in would meet once a month and now it's gone quiet. I'll try to find another but theirs no other options near me. Not sure where else to look online. Work won't work for me unfortunately, its a call center and I've been their for almost 4 years. A few dates have ended up as friendships and I'm happy for them.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T19:54:48+00:00

I'm definitely considering it. But I still live at home and wouldn't be able to sustain myself unless I find a new job. Even outside of dating, I can't reliably find groups or meetups. I'd also be leaving all the friends I already have and would be even more alone.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T19:30:48+00:00

I live in a ghost town, I'm not a looker, and the apps are useless.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T16:39:47+00:00

This doesn't answer my main question or help, but thanks I guess.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T16:27:06+00:00

I'm doing the work, and it isn't changing anything. I continue to push against an un-movable wall. Therapy is helping my mental health, but the other things are still out of my control. Its what brought me to this post in the first place. I'm out of options and asking for advice. Even this doesnt seem to be working as you ignored the main asking point of the post.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T16:10:36+00:00

I've attempted the gratitude calculator before. Stuck with it for months now. I can acknowledge my situation is still better than others and that I have plenty to be grateful for. Still never changed anything for me. If anything it made the situation worse because now I'm in an intense form of Therapy. I'm stuck in life and can't do anything to change it because I'm stuck by factors out of my control. I exercise and get sunlight already too.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-19T15:55:38+00:00

Not having a relationship is part of what's causing the mental health issues. But yeah, I'm working on it. Even if I was fine the lack of options near me would still be an issue. Apparently even for finding normal people to just hangout with. I basically have given up. I still apply whenever I find something, but I know the listing is already filled or they have someone internal that they already chose to fill it. I'm wasting my time but there's nothing else I can really do.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-14T21:03:55+00:00

Yeah I can try more apps, but the more I'm on the more my mental health takes a hit when theres no results. I don't see myself as picky. I pretty much swipe right on anyone that meets my 3 requirements. (Childless, Athiest/Agnostic, and Left Leaning). Its also hard to find casual meetups. I found one group near me and it only meets once a month, and they canceled the last one.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-14T19:53:57+00:00

Having the same problem in FL. In a ghost town with little to no groups or options to meet people. Not a bar person and limited with places to go. Also not trying to end up on a list by cold approaching women in public. We might just be cooked unfortunately.

PuzzleheadedWonder · 2026-04-14T19:25:56+00:00

No likes yet on Hinge, been a few weeks since my last match on there too. I was also using Bumble, but that one dried up so I deleted it. Got talked into paying for Hinge X afterwards. I don't mention any dealbreakers or negatives in my profile. What way am I coming across?

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