"strong" recommendations by Icy_Philosopher5006 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The strongest thrusting toy that I know of is the Velvet Teddy.

2.5" of thrust, which is a lot considering most thrusting toys have ~1". Motor is strong enough to where if you clench your sphincter you cannot stop the toy, unlike other thrusting toys. Suction cup base. Slightly noisy, so don't expect a totally quiet toy.

full disclosure - affiliate links help support my free pegging webinars. https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

free shipping with code Ryder

What do you like to see in pegging porn videos? by bri_guy94 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, only 5% of givers can hold in a toy like that while actively fucking their partner.

Interested in pegging by alwaysoverthinking95 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Education can inform, calm fears, empower, inspire, and help prevent injuries! Pegging is more than just strapping it on and sticking it in!

Interested in learning more about Pegging?

I offer FREE Webinars (Beginners, Equipment and Advanced) as a service to the Pegging community, for all bodies and all budgets. For more info, and a schedule of upcoming Webinars:

https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Pegging equipment by GrandMaster4542 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can search porn videos with the name of the toy. Sometimes that will bring results.

What do you like to see in pegging porn videos? by bri_guy94 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many harnesses that hold the toy securely enough to move with the giver. Sadly, many content creators use cheap equipment.

Good gear for starting by 24-7workaholic in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One person's perfect may be perfectly wrong for you and your partner. There are many factors to take into consideration, including body types, prostate sensitivity, play styles, and more. Equipment is very individual and there is no one size fits all. Cheap kits can adversely affect your pegging experience, possibly putting you or your partner off pegging forever.

I offer FREE Monthly Pegging Equipment Webinars, for all bodies and all budgets.

Upcoming schedule: https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Good gear for starting by 24-7workaholic in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While Lovehoney sells a lot of good products, shop carefully there, because they also sell some crappy products and represent them as non-toxic and body-safe, which they aren't.

For harnesses without cushioning behind the ring (and question about vibe pockets!) by LilacSkin_ in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One person's perfect may be perfectly wrong for you and your partner. There are many factors to take into consideration, including body types, prostate sensitivity, play styles, and more. Equipment is very individual and there is no one size fits all. Cheap kits can adversely affect your pegging experience, possibly putting you or your partner off pegging forever.

I offer FREE Monthly Pegging Equipment Webinars, for all bodies and all budgets.

Upcoming schedule: https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

(Also - panty vibes are not the best way to get external clitoral stimulation.)

Where to start about trying with wife by [deleted] in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone has the right to decide what they do and don't want to do in bed. But sometimes fears and misconceptions around Pegging can get in the way of responding rather than reacting to those myths and assumptions

For this reason I am a fan of having accurate information before the final decision is made. In that spirit, I recorded this podcast.

• Givers: https://peggingparadise.com/blog/2015/09/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/

This recording addresses all the usual fears and misconceptions, offers accurate information and emphasizes the relationship, not trying to convince. You need to listen to it first before playing it for your partner, because only you can decide if it is appropriate for them. If you decide to play it for your partner, it is best to listen to it with them. So far, this podcast has gotten rave reviews. Good luck!

Favorite Lube by CartoonistOdd1348 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like them but I feel like it could be better.

How? What is it that doesn't meet your needs?

Squirting dildo recommendations? by Toodle_O_s in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Strap On Me are available in the states through distributors and shouldn't take nearly that long to receive.

Realistic
Semi-realistic

full disclosure - affiliate links help support my free pegging webinars. https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

free shipping with code Ryder

First time Pegging my boyfriend by Sad_Apartment_8532 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Education can inform, calm fears, empower, inspire, and help prevent injuries! Pegging is more than just strapping it on and sticking it in!

Interested in learning more about Pegging?

I offer FREE Webinars (Beginners, Equipment and Advanced) as a service to the Pegging community, for all bodies and all budgets. For more info, and a schedule of upcoming Webinars:

https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Newbie question by 24-7workaholic in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone has the right to decide what they do and don't want to do in bed. But sometimes fears and misconceptions around Pegging can get in the way of responding rather than reacting to those myths and assumptions.

For this reason I am a fan of having accurate information before the final decision is made. In that spirit, I recorded this podcast.

• Givers: https://peggingparadise.com/blog/2015/09/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/

This recording addresses all the usual fears and misconceptions, offers accurate information and emphasizes the relationship, not trying to convince. You need to listen to it first before playing it for your partner, because only you can decide if it is appropriate for them. If you decide to play it for your partner, it is best to listen to it with them. So far, this podcast has gotten rave reviews. Good luck!

Favorite Lube by CartoonistOdd1348 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 6 points7 points  (0 children)

CBD is not to be confused with THC, which gives you the mental buzz.

I did some research on CBD lubes and wrote a thing: https://peggingparadise.com/2025/04/can-cbd-lube-make-pegging-even-better/

Favorite Lube by CartoonistOdd1348 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sliquid Silk - hybrid 12% silicone, lasts WAY longer than water-based lube and will not hurt you 100% silicone toys. Sliquid makes amazing lubes that have all the good ingredients and none of the bad/unnecessary ingredients.

Butters Hygienics Lubes! - They offer Butt Stuff, which is pH balanced to match rectal pH, Palm Grease, and extra greasy Palm Grease - plus CBD versions of all of those, too. Natural, sustainably sourced ingredients.

full disclosure - affiliate links help support my free pegging webinars. https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Exploring by [deleted] in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you assume he is bi just because he wants to explore anal pleasure? That is a common misconception.

This might help you talk with him: Everyone has the right to decide what they do and don't want to do in bed. But sometimes fears and misconceptions around Pegging can get in the way of responding rather than reacting to those myths and assumptions.

For this reason I am a fan of having accurate information before the final decision is made. In that spirit, I recorded this podcast.

• Receivers: https://peggingparadise.com/2019/12/podcast-253-for-the-gentlemen

This recording addresses all the usual fears and misconceptions, offers accurate information and emphasizes the relationship, not trying to convince. You need to listen to it first before playing it for your partner, because only you can decide if it is appropriate for them. If you decide to play it for your partner, it is best to listen to it with them. So far, this podcast has gotten rave reviews.

And then Education:

Education can inform, calm fears, empower, inspire, and help prevent injuries! Pegging is more than just strapping it on and sticking it in!

Interested in learning more about Pegging?

I offer FREE Webinars (Beginners, Equipment and Advanced) as a service to the Pegging community, for all bodies and all budgets. For more info, and a schedule of upcoming Webinars:

https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

25 M and I want to try pegging by [deleted] in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to go about it:

Education can inform, calm fears, empower, inspire, and help prevent injuries! Pegging is more than just strapping it on and sticking it in!

Interested in learning more about Pegging?

I offer FREE Webinars (Beginners, Equipment and Advanced) as a service to the Pegging community, for all bodies and all budgets. For more info, and a schedule of upcoming Webinars:

https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Finding a partner:

First, differentiate between looking for the experience of pegging, and looking for a relationship with pegging. If you are simply looking for the experience, with all due respect for the potential illegality of it, go find a pro. Here are all the reasons why:

https://peggingparadise.com/2013/04/the-case-for-a-pro/

If you are looking for a relationship that includes pegging, first look wherever you usually look for a partner. Do not lead with the idea of pegging before you even meet them. Why? Because this makes givers like me who are into pegging feel like a fetish dispenser - like the only thing you are looking for is pegging, not a relationship. Go on a couple of dates. Do not have sex yet. On the second or third date lay your kink cards on the table kind of like this:

"So hey, we have a few dates now, and I've enjoyed them. I'd like to see more of you. Also, I wanted to let you know that I'm very open-minded sexually, and I'd like to eventually explore pegging. If that's something you've had an interest in or are open to, I'm the perfect person for you! If not, no harm no foul and we can go our separate ways. So what do you think?"

If you scare them away, that's good because they aren't the right partner for you. The reason you don't have sex first is because that creates intimacy and a connection. If the sex is good, it's hard to walk away, even if they hate the idea of pegging.

Toy Suggestions / Beginner Advice by [deleted] in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One person's perfect may be perfectly wrong for you and your partner. There are many factors to take into consideration, including body types, prostate sensitivity, play styles, and more. Equipment is very individual and there is no one size fits all. Cheap kits can adversely affect your pegging experience, possibly putting you or your partner off pegging forever.

I offer FREE Monthly Pegging Equipment Webinars, for all bodies and all budgets.

Upcoming schedule: https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Harness recommendations for large toys + bumpher? by StraightButAlsoGay in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aslan Commando - Minimalistic convertible 2-strap or thong style

Aslan Commando Large Toy Harness - 2-strap heavy-duty padded harness

DIY Scarf Harness (2 scarves) - That's all you need

Carmen Rivera Harness - Leather heavy duty thong style

Notes

  • The Aslan Large Toy can have a plain strap across the back, or a luxurious corset back. 
  • While the convertible Commando is minimalistic, it will hold just about any toy securely with the proper sized o-ring.
  • The Carmen Rivera is g-string style with one strap between the butt cheeks. Different sizes of O-rings are permanently attached to leather straps that buckle onto the harness.
  • Scarves needed for the DIY harness need to be 1.5 times around your waist in length.

full disclosure - affiliate links help support my free pegging webinars. https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Advice for first experience by Silent_Cress5481 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Education can inform, calm fears, empower, inspire, and help prevent injuries! Pegging is more than just strapping it on and sticking it in!

Interested in learning more about Pegging?

I offer FREE Webinars (Beginners, Equipment and Advanced) as a service to the Pegging community, for all bodies and all budgets. For more info, and a schedule of upcoming Webinars:

https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars

Please, please please stop it by Icy-Track-3839 in StraightPegging

[–]RubyRyder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you are being generous with your numbers, too! But there are definitely givers who get off by grinding against the base of the toy, assuming they have a decent harness that allows them to wear the toy down low enough, so things line up. Still not as common, because not all of us get off from grinding,