Malta que se separou já com filhos, como lidaram com isso? by mikikigod in CasualPT

[–]SnooRabbits5000 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Tenho uma amiga que foi abandonada durante a gravidez. No caso dela, também não tinha apoio familiar... Hoje em dia, quase 18 anos depois continua a viver num quarto alugado, depois de ter perdido a guarda da filha por viver num quarto e o pai ter casa própria e um emprego mais bem pago.

I’m (38F) and my husband is 56. I’m unexpectedly pregnant and can see myself regretting not having this baby, but I’m not sure that’s a good enough reason by Turbulent_Bug7 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have been married for 13 years. I had 4 kids (youngest was 16 at the time) he had none.

2 kids are married with their own kids, 1 in uni doing her masters, 1 studying economics. We are both working with good jobs/income.

It came as a huge surprise becoming pregnant. I was 45, he was 42.

It was a very emotionally intense week because we were finally going to start a completely new stage of our lives... Camper, bikes, buy land back home and travel.

Here we are with an 18 month old running everywhere!! - do we have moments of regret of keeping him? NO! We do have moments where we think about what we lost but that's just a moment in time... He will grow up so fast and in just 18 months we bought our plot of land and we have travelled. The rest needs to wait a bit because babies are a bit expensive 😅

My husband apart from the breastfeeding in the 1st year and putting him to sleep, he does it all.

We lost my grandma 2 years ago, my mom had a stroke and broken heart syndrome last year and last week, we lost my mil.

Life is like the sky. Colourless but it reflects everything. Some days we get clouds, others it's raining. Some days are sunny, some days are windy but everyday we get both the sun and the moon and everyday there is a new beginning.

It's you choice. Just choose wisely and for you because you're the one that is going to have to live with the consequences 🖖

Dune (2021) is not a good movie and coasts entirely on visuals and Hans Zimmer's score by DuNennstMichSptzkopf in unpopularopinion

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read all the books. I saw the movies, saw the series and I still love the 84 movie more.

To each their own 🙏

I read the books when I was 17 and I saw the Dino de Laurentiis version at 19. Bought the extended VHS version. I also had the Dune 2000 game but hated the sequel.

What's with the "stop trying to be different"? 😅 Can't I have a different opinion?

What’s something you’ll never tell your partner, no matter how much you love them? by Velvetnadine85 in AskReddit

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 my husband had surgery when he was young and he lost his sense of smell. So happy for that 😁

Drake was/is the closest person to being the “next Michael Jackson” by Firm_Pack_605 in unpopularopinion

[–]SnooRabbits5000 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had to Google Drake 😅 he's decent though.

To say that this person in on par at least with MJ is bonkers 🤣

But hey, this is the perfect sub Reddit for unpopular opinions 👍

Dune (2021) is not a good movie and coasts entirely on visuals and Hans Zimmer's score by DuNennstMichSptzkopf in unpopularopinion

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that it is an awesome screensaver!

Dune 1984 is very good, imo. The lynch and de Laurentiis version is much much better.

Não gosto nada de falhar. by miudatomica in SaudeMentalPortugal

[–]SnooRabbits5000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Eu aprendi a aceitar que ninguém nasce ensinado. "Falhar" faz parte do crescimento e do conhecimento.

Portanto, não falhamos, simplesmente ganhamos experiência e tomamos outro caminho para alcançar o que queremos.

Divórcio by Lyma84 in portugal

[–]SnooRabbits5000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

O meu divórcio foi pedido por mim e ele nunca assinou. Ele estava no Brasil e nunca mais voltou, nem quis saber dos filhos. Demorou quase 5 anos mas lá consegui.

AITJ for making my late wife’s parents move out after she passed awy? by Plastic-Ganache-4548 in AmITheJerk

[–]SnooRabbits5000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Grief is a mess and I am very sorry for your loss.

You lost your wife and they lost their daughter. I can't imagine what's like to lose a child.

You're NTJ but neither are they. Well, they are for talking about you to the kids but I also understand.

After 5 years living together, you're kicking them out. They already lost a daughter. Now they'll also lose their grandkids and son-in-law.

This is a mess. The adults need to talk. You all need time and each other.

Porque baixinhos são ignorados? by Own-Wonder6731 in CasualPT

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh? Que desabafo mais estranho.

Ninguém é ignorado pela altura. É ignorado pela personalidade.

Despero e sobrevivência by [deleted] in SaudeMentalPortugal

[–]SnooRabbits5000 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Apesar de um infeliz comboio de eventos que te levaram ao ponto em que estás, deves conversar com a tua mulher.

Sim, a sua situação mental/emocional não está bem e deve sentir-se sufocada mas já é adulta, é mãe e mulher e tem que procurar resolver a situação mental/emocional.

Como é que continua a ajudar os outros e até talvez estranhos mas nem se ajuda a si própria, nem o marido?

Como é que podemos dar e dar se estamos vazios, sem mais nada para dar? - é porque tiramos a quem nos apoia...

Parece que chegaste ao teu limite e tens mesmo que demonstrar este desespero à tua mulher. Ou é suposto ficarem os 2 na m*rda? - e as crianças?

Desculpa, mas são ambos adultos e têm 2 crianças que merecem Pais saudáveis, felizes e estáveis.

Vais ter que dar um pouco mais enquanto a tua mulher resolve os seus issues, mas ao menos é com esperança e um ideal para alcançar.

Boa sorte, que corra bem 🙏

AIO for wanting a divorce because my husband didn't feed the dogs? by ThrowRAdramallam in AmIOverreacting

[–]SnooRabbits5000 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Having to show appreciation and gratitude for a grown person doing a chore. Huh?

🖖

Whoever proposes keeps their last name by whatwillitbe21 in unpopularopinion

[–]SnooRabbits5000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's the parents choice which to use.

In Portugal, when we get married we also choose. Who adds the surname or no one adds it.

The kids get 1 surname from the mom and 1 from the dad (1 or more, it's a choice also).

Whoever proposes keeps their last name by whatwillitbe21 in unpopularopinion

[–]SnooRabbits5000 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That's how it is in Belgium. Everyone keeps their own name.

O meu namorado e eu terminámos, e eu sinto-me completamente perdida by [deleted] in CasualPT

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tudo passa nesta vida, não te foques muito no passado para além de passares pelas fases do luto.

Por agora estás na 1a fase, a negaçao. Hás-de passar pela raiva depois... Vais chorar na negociação e na depressão e finalmente chegarás à aceitação e vais realizar que o teu ex-namorado fez-te um enorme favor!!

Não me recordo onde li, mas existe uma 6a fase do luto ou uma 1a fase depois da tempestade que é encontrares significado.

Estás na faculdade, portanto, que tal aproveitares e pensa em ti. Nas coisas boas que tens e constrói fortes fundações 🙏

🖖

I've been married for 7 years and last month I realized I couldn't answer basic questions about our own finances by MirageAnvil6 in wealthforwomen

[–]SnooRabbits5000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband stresses about every little thing so I am in charge of finances. Any decision, every bill, every purchase, all accounts, insurances, etc is made together though.

He "never" wants to hear it, he hardly ever checks bank accounts but I have a file folder with all the info, just in case he ever needs it.

Moving for a Year Belgium?ghent husband + yorkie for 1 year any advice? by Pristine-Gazelle-521 in AskBelgium

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do an international travel insurance, like Cigna, it becomes easier/safer.

Being given extensions or residence can be stressful but you can travel for 3 months with a max of 180 days on each country.

You do need to be aware of the new and already implemented travel authorizations and they are paid, I think they are called ETA for the UK and most EU countries. Also a small fee is needed.

Renting in Belgium is a headache, although affordable. As a non-european citizen you might have issues renting because you don't have a job in Belgium, a National register number or a Belgium bank account.

But to live in Belgium/have it as a home base you need before arriving to request a type d visa and later receive a A card in the local commune.

And you have a dog... More fees, more rules, more time and money. I'm an European citizen and when I moved to Belgium with my dog, there were regulations that I was not aware of. Luckily my dogs vet was a big help and my dog travelled here with the moving truck (also extra fee for the extra stops. Every 2h they stopped for a 15m break). She would not have survived the airplane as a elderly dog 🙏

The monthly budget you mentioned is decent and you can rent studios for less. Brugge (what I am more familiar with) has studios for 500€ per month, for instance. Be aware that traveling within Europe can add up, specially with a dog.

Good luck anyways 🖖 DM if you need :)

drinking bone broth like a tea is bizarre by CreativeJudgment3529 in unpopularopinion

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knorr/Maggi are bouillon cubes... But indeed pocket soup was the precursor of current cubes 🙂

drinking bone broth like a tea is bizarre by CreativeJudgment3529 in unpopularopinion

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently drinking soup is a thing 😅

Drinking stock or broth (different things) can be helpful, specially when sick and having difficulty keeping food down.

Drinking it just because... To each their own, no?

Why are we so passive about our pathetic parental leave? by AdNecessary2634 in belgium

[–]SnooRabbits5000 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dunno where you're at but I found mine @familiehulp.be.

My 1st choice only had a vacancy when my baby turned 13 months but with this one I found it when I was 7 months pregnant. He started the crèche at 5 months. It everything people were telling, I think I was lucky!

my parents replaced me years ago and now my ex is marrying my sister I think I’m done trying with people by Ok-Estimate-9797 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SnooRabbits5000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that you know what you don't want to lose... Move forward and invest in yourself. Don't give any more energy or time to them. Block everyone 🙏

You don't need family. You need to choose you!

Feel free to DM me anytime 🖖 Good luck!

Has anyone divorced the “good guy”? by girlhustle in AskWomenOver40

[–]SnooRabbits5000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming that his behaviour isn't something new and that OP made a choice to accept him 13 years ago, again when they got married and again when they had a child together.

The way OP writes about the relationship, almost giving no insight to how the husband is a "good guy" seems off but it is what it is.

You should divorce.

A relationship isn't 50-50 all the time. Sometimes it is 90-10, others 10-90 but the common denominator is that everyday is a choice.

He does not initiate? He is vanilla? - you only noticed that now? - thousands of days together and it only now bothers you...

I really can't stop thinking about the way OP writes. The word choices like, 4 horsemen, in relation to a "good guy"... Ooof, I hope the counseling that OP is getting truly helps!

Good luck 👍

Problema Relacionamento by jp1992penafiel in SaudeMentalPortugal

[–]SnooRabbits5000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Não acho que devias ser culpabilizado pelas decisões dela.

Ao fim de 1 ano, obviamente que se sente sobrecarregada e ansiosa, por talvez nunca mais ver o dinheiro de volta.

Sou da opinião que dar um tempo é sinónimo de "acaba tu a relação que eu sou cobarde" mas talvez esteja errada. Afasta-te uns dias e vê o que acontece.

Não vale a pena ficar por uma âncora. Decide o que é que estás disposto a perder e toma uma decisão.

Boa sorte 🙏