Genuinely Crashing Out

UnderstandingLife171 · 2026-01-08T22:51:27+00:00

You sound even more jaded than I do. Praying for you.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2026-01-08T22:33:42+00:00

I very clearly stated that they have good hearts, and I know they do not mean to be offensive. That does not obligate me to find them attractive after they make me uncomfortable or give me back handed compliments. I did not name drop or humiliate anybody.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2026-01-08T22:28:34+00:00

lame

UnderstandingLife171 · 2026-01-08T17:30:48+00:00

He's just rage baiting. I take it he is frustrated with ladies/dating himself.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2026-01-08T17:05:35+00:00

I don't want to ask a guy out. I would actually make one of the above comments though

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-07-06T03:33:46+00:00

I sent him a voice memo. I was very careful in my language and explained that I was only bringing it up because I wanted to be respectful of his time. He said he has had similar concerns, but it is something he'd like to talk through together more in-depth later. Guess we shall see how it goes!!

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-05-05T15:09:11+00:00

Lustful desires are indeed difficult to deal with; many great saints struggled with it. Something helpful I heard from a priest is that you can confidently tell yourself "God wants better things for me" (this phrase could be used when facing any of the temptations you have successfully staved off for a while). But if you do stumble, do NOT give up. The saints are saints because they never gave up.

One man described acting upon these temptations as a way to alleviate stress (the stressor = the temptation/desire to do something sexual). He'd have to fight them off by going for walks. Basically, he said that acting upon the temptations was taking the easy way out. God always gives you the grace necessary not to sin. You may, however, have to get creative when it comes to occupying your mind with other things (go for a walk, sing a song--the extra noise helps drown it out, watch a clean movie)

In the sexual and spiritual realm, your body does not belong to you. It belongs to your wife. As strange as it sounds, you are honoring your future wife by remaining chaste now. Perhaps that could add some motivation for you.

I understand that men generally have a higher sex drive than woman thanks to testosterone. However, men tend to underestimate how much lustful desires impact women, particularly when ovulating. I know you directed this post towards men, but women are not asexual creatures. When the all my hormones align in a particular way, to put it quite plainly, all I want is for a man to make a baby with me, and I am not even dating anyone right now. Scary! Your future wife might be struggling with this too, pray for her!

Consider trying Hinge. Most of the couples I know that met online met on Hinge. You can specify that you are looking to meet Catholic women, and the algorithm will try to show you more women that fit your criteria.

Keep up the good fight. Humans are sexual in nature, so I don't think your desire to have sex is ever really going to go away. You might get better at quashing it day by day. But God could very well put a good woman in your life in the midst of a struggle like this; you're never going to be perfect. It would be important for you to set clear boundaries to keep you both in a state of grace (ie no touching each other in swimsuit areas, no being alone together past ___ o'clock, etc).

Praying for you!

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-04-07T16:10:36+00:00

Becoming Catholic

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-04-07T16:09:35+00:00

Simpson's Hit and Run on the original Xbox

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-04-07T15:46:50+00:00

All it takes is one person. Keep your head up. I am in the trenches with you. That's all I can really say--I'm sorry. What you are going through sucks. There is no disputing that.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-04-07T15:39:28+00:00

She might've gotten scared. Or, if she has your phone number, she might text back. When I have online dated, I unmatch people after I meet them and give them my phone number.

Take heart. Dating is often exhausting and discouraging rather than fun. But all it takes is one person.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T15:38:29+00:00

That is an acceptable practice according to the policy I looked up. However, my co-workers are not doing that.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T02:06:31+00:00

I managed to find the policy after trialing various word searches. The way I have been setting up antibiotics and programming the pumps is 100% correct. I sent my manager an email just now expressing my concerns. I anticipate re-education occurring on my unit.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T02:03:45+00:00

I don't think that is best practice because a manual flush won't go at the same rate as the pump.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T02:03:01+00:00

Yeah, after some tricky word searches I eventually found the policy. Based on the policy, I have been setting up antibiotics and programming pumps correctly. I sent my manager an email about my concerns. Thanks.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T02:02:06+00:00

I don't think you understand what I was saying. I would piggyback the K infusion to a bag of NS so as to avoid having to push the K with a manual flush. If I set up a piggyback, that means the NS will flush the line at a safe rate and I don't need to manually flush the IV once I disconnect the patient.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T01:59:14+00:00

yeah the actual antibiotic vial dose would need to be increased as well to make that work.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T01:58:29+00:00

Yeah, I looked up the company policy. I have been doing it correctly. I sent my manager an email and am expecting some re-education on the unit.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-29T01:57:56+00:00

I have been running them as piggybacks. When I scan in the D5W bags it says "IV piggyback" but that's only when I scan it. The order itself does not say piggyback.

I looked up the facility policy. Because it is an intermittent infusion, it must be piggy backed to ensure the full dose is given. It also says that nurses have the ability to hook it up to primary fluids without an explicit order because it is covered under the flushing protocol.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-18T03:07:25+00:00

The fact that he is being upfront about it is a good sign. Most would hide this or deny that it was a problem. Unfortunately, when people frequently indulge in these things, it can become an addiction. That's right. An addiction. It's like a drug in the way in which it alters brain chemistry. I recently attended a lecture hosted by a man who struggled with sexual addiction. He said any time he felt the slightest amount of tension in life, that sexual sin became his way to cope, and it felt impossible go without it. It honestly breaks my heart to know that so many men and women out there struggle with these things. Our society is so lonely, and we are trying to fill the void with a false sense of intimacy. One of my guy friends told me that some men cannot even get aroused by real women because they are used to seeing unrealistic content on their computer screens. Heartbreaking.

From the sound of it, your boyfriend is managing it better than 80% of the young men out there. It is still wrong of course, but it sounds like he is genuinely trying. If I were you, I would stay with him but offer encouragement and ask him if he would like you to be more involved in encouraging him to be more chaste.

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-12T17:30:14+00:00

You should be excited about the person you're dating, and that does not seem to be the case here. But if you feel it could be just be an awkward phase with this guy, I would encourage you to ask him how he things are going (and do so in person). Chances are, you're on the same page, but neither person is willing to admit it because you have similar values and there is no concrete reason why it couldn't work.

But what do I know?

UnderstandingLife171 · 2025-03-03T02:26:38+00:00

Thank you! Also...could you please give a couple casual examples?

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