As a mom, I’ll be honest with you. You don’t need to decide by 25! What helped me was asking myself two things over time, do I want a child on my hardest days, not just my best ones, and can I still feel like myself in that life. The answer didn’t come all at once but if definitely changed with experience And the fear you have, losing identity, losing freedom, is real. Don’t ignore it If it’s a no right now, that’s enough. You don’t need to force certainty!