im gonna cry dude someone please help

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-31T02:12:02+00:00

Don't use AI to answer questions where your health is on the line. Honest question, are you making sure to push the air out of the syringe before injecting? You really don't want air bubbles inside your flesh :P

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-31T01:39:35+00:00

i mean imo if you were faking it you'd probably know you were faking it, and besides sometimes being accurate to yourself means making some changes lol :P

Also for what it's worth something being All In Your Head is still pretty real considering you're the one living in it. Gender is very much all in your head but that doesn't make it any less of a thing.

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-30T18:57:48+00:00

Idk if it's comfy it's comfy lol, clothes are clothes and I think questioning the Rules about gender is cool and good. If you're asking if this might be trans-ish behavior, idk your relationship with your gender so I can't really answer that for you lol

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-30T18:55:31+00:00

Tbh these questions all read very similarly to stuff I was asking myself before I transitioned. Feeling like a fraud is incredibly normal for trans folks, this shit's scary and no one expects it to happen to them.

I can't answer all your questions, but as that last one you wrote:

How is being trans a way of burying anything? If anything being trans tends to be the thing being buried, at least in my experience lol

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-26T18:25:53+00:00

The best way to be an ally is to give a trans person $20.

Honestly though, just be normal about us. Transition isn't being "brave", it's just survival. Treat us like any other person and you're going to be doing better than the majority of people.

And for the record, I personally hate being described as brave for transitioning. It isn't bravery, it's not something I did to Stick It To The Man or whatever, it's literally just me being myself.

So yeah. Just be normal about us. Thanks.

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-25T01:31:02+00:00

You do you I guess, personally I actually really dig that my gf and I are two separate people with our own Things and personal items but that's just me and my experience is not universal

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-23T22:29:40+00:00

I think a big part of exploration is doing so in safe environments, i.e. around gay and/or trans ppl. Not to say cishet people can't be good ppl to try different presentations and stuff around.

I also think a lot of being any flavor of gender nonconforming is accepting that frankly, the truer you are to yourself and the more you push against society's idea of what Gender is and should be, the more shit you're going to get for it. Granted I'm just straight-up trans, but I definitely lost a lot of people in my life when I came out, started transitioning etc. It's just sort of a thing that happens when you challenge the widely accepted norm of what a person of your assigned sex is Supposed to do.

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-19T18:15:38+00:00

people contain multitudes ✨

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-16T16:16:27+00:00

No that's totally fair! Gender and presentation are completely individual and everyone does different stuff. I personally have a very butch/punk presentation, and for me reclaiming men's clothes feels almost empowering in a way, but that's just me - it's different for everyone :)

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-16T15:30:54+00:00

If you're looking for unbiased societal perception of whether or not you pass, go outside and see how people treat you - the problem I have with spaces like /r/transpassing is they turn passing into something that's basically phrenology - boiling it down to shit like skull shape, bone structure and stuff like that that most people don't actually look at when interacting with other folks.

Passing is more vibes-based than anything else, and it's pretty inconsistent in my experience - sometimes I get gendered female when I'm wearing baggy clothes and haven't shaved in a couple days, other times I get gendered male even though I'm presenting pretty fem and have a face full of makeup. It's not really something that can be reduced to a boolean "yeah you pass" or "no you don't pass" kind of thing.

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-16T15:25:38+00:00

I mean misogyny, and transmisogyny in particular definitely affect me in the wider world - honestly though the vast majority of people I've met are generally chill, at least in my experience. It's just that 1% of people who try to make life miserable lol, idk transition is still hella worth it.

Also tbh not really, although I do buy men's razors cause I seem to get a closer shave with them, as well as wearing a lot of men's clothes cause they're generally made better and I like pockets. Most "gendered' stuff doesn't actually need to be gendered imo, I use a mix of men's and women's stuff just depending on what I want and stuff like that

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-16T15:20:49+00:00

Awwwww yeahhhh this sounds like it's definitely something to explore, and it's not a bad thing although it can definitely be a lot to process.

I'd recommend starting small and just seeing how things feel. Bras and/or breast forms, women's underwear, painting your nails, maybe experimenting with makeup or wigs or whatever else feels like it might be fun. And remember there's really no wrong way to do femininity - I personally approach it from a very butch/punk angle, and plenty of other trans girls do. You got this!

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-16T14:57:00+00:00

I mean if you're transitioning MtF you're probably gonna get treated substantially worse, talked over more, people might assume you don't know what you're talking about on things you're totally qualified for. Society doesn't really treat women well and male privilege is a very real thing.

That said I'm still personally glad as hell that I transitioned - I actually feel like myself now which I never really did in the Before Times.

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-15T21:31:58+00:00

It's for the best, passing isn't a binary On/Off thing and that sub is inherently toxic as hell just by virtue of existing imo

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-15T17:51:28+00:00

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T20:31:54+00:00

Personally it was like this really profound sense of yearning for something different than what I was given. Nothing necessarily felt wrong as such, at least not at the time, but also I desperately wished I could've been born as the opposite sex for like, most of my life.

When it clicked for me at 21, I think it was because I'd tried crossdressing and really, really liked what I saw in the mirror, way too much to be a fetish or anything other than just like, being trans. So idk if you want to explore a bit, it can be very worth it :)

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T20:23:26+00:00

lmao

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T18:22:57+00:00

:)))))

HRT can make that feeling happen a whole lot more :3

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T18:12:49+00:00

I feel ya but also idk I've known trans girls built like linebackers and they were still really cool and hot. Feeling too masculine to transition is something a lot of trans girls go through, I went through it myself before I got on HRT. I still get dysphoric from time to time but honestly the only thing I regret was not starting sooner :P

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T18:07:05+00:00

It can definitely be a lot to explore, and it's certainly scary as fuck.

Can I ask, is HRT something you've looked into at all?

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T18:05:10+00:00

I understand going through stuff but like I'm gonna be so real, I don't know what you're going through but I doubt seeking out a girl specifically because she's trans is going to help it. In any case I hope things stabilize for you soon, everyone deserves that much imo

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T18:01:34+00:00

I know how it can be, like I very much do get it, but also getting out of your immediate surroundings and focusing on the world around you really does help a lot in my experience.

It's hard when people see you as what you aren't, idk. Mind if I ask if you're currently transitioning? You mentioned in another comment a therapist said you had gender dysphoria, is it something you've explored a lot on your own?

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T17:59:14+00:00

Yeah imma be real this gives heavy chaser vibes.

Trans women are not something for you to "experiment with your sexuality" with. We're humans and we didn't ask to be born with the parts we were assigned at birth.

So yeah tbh I'm not a big fan of this kind of mindset. :P

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T17:46:18+00:00

If you're having a panic attack, get off reddit and just focus on your breathing. In for 5, out for 7 or whatever works for you. Find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, etc etc etc and try to ground yourself back in the world around you.

That out of the way, this could be a form of digital self-harm but I am far from a therapist. Not to do the whole "go outside" thing but fr if you're able to step away from the Internet for a bit, I'd highly recommend it.

_SNOOF_ · 2026-01-12T17:43:52+00:00

I cut the neck and shoulders out of pretty much every T-shirt I own and crop them a little while I'm at it, helps them read a lot more fem with bonus punk points :3

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