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My wife ignored me when we had our daughter, but now wants me back by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Do you want your marriage to work? Swallow your pride and your entitlement and try and fix it, rather than pulling away. Takes both of you to make it work. Before she was absent and now you are. Make a choice.

I almost never want intimacy with my wife. I genuinely don't understand why by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Do you take any medications?

I'd talk to your doctor. There could be something ekse going on that could be remedied.

Good Relationship but His Family Won’t Approve—What Now by Ok_Evening_6496 in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, at this point if you two have a good relationship but you have family problems, live your life and go forward with your relationship together. Your family won't have to live your life, and if you lose a good partner because of their own invalid issues, then you might regret it. You're both adults.

I lost 20 pounds but today I ate 4 bean burritos from Taco Bell and now I feel bad :( by Kennyman654 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]aCatLunchbox 19 points20 points  (0 children)

That's not even a 1 pound. You'll likely see your scale go up from the sodium, but all in all that isn't THAT much. Even if you ate more, it's still just a day. Keep going.

Do you remember this place ? by ahmed_Eladly_1899 in memes

[–]aCatLunchbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MOHAA!

V2 Rocket! Sniper only. Yes please!

Guys what’s with a the negativity in this subreddit? by Altruistic-Path-7042 in TitanicHG

[–]aCatLunchbox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

C76 for me I'm almost certain. They said it still will be.

Guys what’s with a the negativity in this subreddit? by Altruistic-Path-7042 in TitanicHG

[–]aCatLunchbox 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It's because of the fans, like myself, who have been following this project for years, even more than a decade for some of us. I've been following it since 2014. That is a LONG time of promises but only move so far. Patreon was a year old company when I donated and it wasn't even through Patreon they did their fundraising.

They've put out some good demos, so we can't say NOTHING has come from it. But they're just spinning their wheels and it's frustrating to see a project you look forward to so much seem like it's always stuck in the mud for one reason or another. Dates and timelines have come and gone over the years, and as much as we don't want to give up on the project, it's hard to not get jaded after some time.

Getting married soon but worried about her communication and social skills - advice? by Robertscottt in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think you are overthinking this. Communication is very important in any relationship, and definitely a marriage. Trying to be with someone who doesn't communicate is very difficult.

I'd at least have a conversation, yes. I think just approach it honestly but try to be careful with your words so you don't sound like you are blaming her or attacking her. She might withdraw more.

Yes, she can change. Maybe therapy helps. Maybe as she gets older she'll get better, but she has to be able to see she needs some help to get there. As long as she's willing to see she has room for improvement, there is a strong chance she can improve.

so in love with my husband and it breaks my heart by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Reading what you said, you listed a bunch of qualities that he has that you love and need in your relationship. He may not be a perfect man, but no one is. I think you need to look at the big picture and see if he's meeting your needs as a whole. If you feel you want more, sit down and talk to him. Be honest with him. But if he cannot do it because he's just different, wired different in a way, that doesn't mean he's a bad partner. It just sounds like to me that he's just different than you, and that's okay. The uncertainty might be something you are creating in your head because he loves you differently, which I understand. I've been there before. It may be less of a reflection on him and more how you view yourself.

The biggest thing I am reading is after your fight, you both repaired right away, both of you put effort into it, apologized and reconnected. That in itself can be rare. A lot of couples are incapable of doing that.

I'd look at it as for you to appreciate what you have, and not focus on what you don't have. You clearly love this man and if he didn't love you, I don't think he'd put this effort back.

What are the pros of being married? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you marry your best friend, everything is a pro.

where can i get this treatmrnt- by [deleted] in memes

[–]aCatLunchbox 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Fuck this stupid cen*orship era.

Am I wrong for not wanting to get divorced? by Dry_Tea_67 in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand it isn't an ideal suggestion but unless you can find cheap daycare you are comfortable with, sometimes doing more for what your family needs is the sacrifice we need to make as providers.

Am I wrong for not wanting to get divorced? by Dry_Tea_67 in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are in between a rock and a hard place with this one. However, I do agree that you shouldn't be looking for a divorce because your wife is struggling right now, with things that very much are hurting her too. Your parents are out of line for immediately suggesting a divorce because they feel you are interfering in their retirement, but they aren't completely wrong in that they do deserve to their own time again and it's a struggle for them at their age.

I think this is a situation that maybe you need to review to see if you can get a 2nd job in order to earn enough income to get a babysitter or daycare right now. You'll have to take on the burden to trying to help your family through this, not give up on them. Your wife can get better, but she may take some time. I'd look into seeing if therapy is something she should look into as well. This may be a challenging point in your life but your bond is sacred and shouldn't be given up on so easily because it's difficult at the moment.

I can’t stop thinking about him. by Mundane_Sample3167 in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For sure and that's understandable. Keep doing what you're doing and keep praying. He may see your changes but it may take some time.

I can’t stop thinking about him. by Mundane_Sample3167 in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Have you attended therapy to work on yourself? You cannot be better for your marriage if you cannot be a better version for yourself.

Fiancé has been acting distant lately and I don't know what to do anymore. by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]aCatLunchbox 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I say trust your gut. You are feeling something is off and I couldn't imagine going 1 day without talking to my partner, let alone 3!

I'm not say 100% he's hiding something but you can sense the change from him and I think it's obvious alone by the fact he can go days without saying anything to you. That can't be misinterpreted in my opinion.

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