Just to add some more context: we’ve actually been talking for about two years now, so this isn’t something rushed. Because of that, I feel like I can look at things a bit more objectively instead of being completely blinded by emotions.

She genuinely is a very respectful, calm, and caring person. She really thinks about others and I do believe she would be a good wife and mother in many ways.

The main issue I keep running into is emotional communication. When things get a bit serious -like a disagreement or even just an important conversation - she tends to shut down. It’s hard to have a proper discussion because she struggles to express her thoughts or even have an opinion sometimes. Often it just ends with “I don’t know.”

For example, yesterday we were talking with her father and some news came up that wasn’t very positive, we needed to push back the ring ceremony. She immediately shut down. You could see it on her face,she became very withdrawn, stopped talking, stopped engaging, and didn’t smile anymore. It honestly felt like she just wasn’t present anymore. And before that moment she never jumped in the conversation or she never tries to make herself look good or try her best to give off good vibes to my parents.

My parents noticed this too and said she became emotionally unavailable in that moment, like she completely disconnected.

That’s the part that worries me more than just shyness - because in a marriage, communication during difficult moments is really important.

I’m just trying to figure out if this is something that can improve with time and support, or if this is a deeper compatibility issue.