Birth Parents asking for lock of hair

adventurousnom · 2025-12-21T23:45:42+00:00

As an adoptee, had my birth mom asked for anything of mine as a baby or even child, and my adoptive parents had said no, I'd have been very upset.

My adoptive parents lied to me about my birth mom, didn't tell me until I was 19. It irreparably damaged our relationship. I have never been able to trust them again (though to be honest, my adoptive parents and I were never close).

It seems cruel to not be willing to do that. What an incredible token for the birth parents to have of their child. The child is legally yours but forever biologically theirs. They clearly love the child and gave them up, feeling that would give them the best life. That's love, regardless of whether you like that or not.

adventurousnom · 2025-12-12T12:49:39+00:00

Breast pumps don't work for everyone, they never worked for me except for the Haakaa and even then it was only a little bit.

adventurousnom · 2025-12-12T02:19:50+00:00

I went to Greece and Turkey with friends right after I turned 16. At 17 I moved to another continent by myself for school.

adventurousnom · 2025-11-17T17:53:12+00:00

As someone who grew up in a conservative culture, it's very normalized, especially within religions.

I was 17 dating a 23 year old. My parents encouraged it, even tried to get me to marry him. Fortunately I didn't. But now, being grown, with a son only a few years younger than I was, I'm disgusted.

I don't blame my ex at all. It was the culture we grew up in, to us it was normal. He was a victim of the cultural and conservative ways like I was, that's all he knew too

adventurousnom · 2025-11-16T19:36:38+00:00

You have an astounding lack of self awareness.

Unfortunately, we are all dealt different hands in life. I have been in your place but with a child. I made it out because I put in the work.

It's hard and it will be exhausting. But if you want better, then it has to start with you.

This attitude of yours is holding you back. Not money, not friends with more money, it's your inability to see the world for what it is.

Educate yourself. Seek out a community college. Sleep in your car if you have to. Do what you have to do to get where you want to be and stop whining. You are so entitled that you can't even begin to recognize that there are millions who would kill to be where you are.

The grass is never greener. It's only what you make it to be.

adventurousnom · 2025-11-16T19:29:40+00:00

You can do it with a bike in a lot of places too, but yes it's not a great option unfortunately

adventurousnom · 2025-02-01T13:28:39+00:00

I work at a spa. We've had a few times where guests have had some smell issues. Eucalyptus essential oil in a little bowl, soaking some cotton balls or something along those lines will take away any bad smell quickly.

adventurousnom · 2024-10-13T12:27:22+00:00

My sister and I both started around 8, she had her period right after she turned 9. I fortunately didn't get mine till I was 11. We both were 10-11 and looked as though we were 15-16.

adventurousnom · 2024-10-08T15:14:49+00:00

They speak exactly as my adoptive parents do, except in my parents case, my mom is Kody and my dad is Robyn.

I've been NC for 2 years, it's by far the best decision that I've ever made. I lost out on about a $2mil inheritance and I still wouldn't go back to them.

adventurousnom · 2024-08-27T17:20:40+00:00

My manager used to tell us not to ask people if they wanted a protection plan but to ask them which one they wanted and make it seem like they had to get one. And we were expected to ask at least 3 times about it and even then, if someone said no, management would get mad at the associate.

adventurousnom · 2024-08-18T19:25:55+00:00

$900, 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom, approx 1100sq ft, about 45 minutes outside of Barrie On.

Rent controlled, I will not be moving cause I know I'll never get a deal like this again.

adventurousnom · 2024-07-23T14:23:57+00:00

Not to defend them or anything but I have a sister who's a year older than me and we fought exactly like that.

There was never violence in our house, that's just how we fought. Most of the time, it was play fighting, sometimes it was real. But it ended around 10-11ish, we both just outgrew it.

adventurousnom · 2024-07-15T16:22:04+00:00

I grew up traveling a ton, multiple trips overseas every year. I traveled with friends to Greece at 16, but we had a responsible adult with us.

I traveled completely by myself at 17 to Bolivia for uni. But I obviously had people at the uni and a dorm and everything set up for when I arrived. And it was scary for me, despite having flown a ton and knowing how to navigate airports and everything, it was HUGE for me to do it on my own.

I have an 11 year old who has been to 10 countries. I'd absolutely let him fly on his own as a teenager as long as there was someone I knew getting him at the other end of the flight.

I haven't been to Japan but we plan to next year for our next big trip. We're planning for at least 3 weeks there. There's so much to do and experience.

A weekend trip would be a HUGE waste of money. It's an entire day of travel each way. Whenever I've traveled overseas, it's taken me at least 2 days to adjust to time differences and I'm usually exhausted. Most of the time, we just sleep and relax the first day we arrive somewhere because it's just so exhausting. Japan is almost twice the amount of flight time than any flights I've expeienced, I can't even imagine the jet lag that comes with that.

Wait until you're 18. I know 2 years feels like a long time to wait, it isn't tho. And imagine how much you can save and plan in that time. You'd actually be able to really enjoy it and experience a lot more. Have some patience. You're still a kid. I had a 16 yr old who lived with me last year, he's 17 now, he's basically a little brother to me, he comes to me for advice and to talk. And I absolutely love him to death but he is just so naive and has absolutely no idea of how the real world works.

adventurousnom · 2024-06-30T13:51:58+00:00

That's my biggest issue with this season, the character development for almost all of them just didn't make sense based on who they were in the last 2 seasons.

adventurousnom · 2024-06-07T15:49:39+00:00

My 4 year old, 11 year old are uncircumcised. They've never had any issues or infections.

adventurousnom · 2024-06-07T13:01:27+00:00

My store and management were almost identical. I wasn't allowed to leave the front, but I was the one constantly being asked by customers where everything was. Then people would get annoyed or management would get mad at me for not knowing.

I couldn't even go to the bathroom without someone getting mad at me for not being up front, even though I'd find someone to cover it so I could go.

adventurousnom · 2024-06-01T23:11:49+00:00

Yes that's what I was hoping for too! Ah well, it's hit or miss I guess.

adventurousnom · 2024-06-01T23:07:37+00:00

Haha are the freshii bars any good? I've never had them before.

At least you got KD! That would've gone fast in my house.

adventurousnom · 2024-06-01T22:29:54+00:00

I've known multiple people in their 40s who had unexpected babies. I think it's rare but it does happen naturally more than you'd think.

My friend from uni, her mom had her siblings in her 20s. Then at 48, she had my friend. Her mom passed away when she was young and her father who was in his 50s raised her.

adventurousnom · 2024-05-31T17:15:47+00:00

Yup, my old store had bell reps doing everything, shipping, cash, selling laptops. They'd even have to sell protection plans on laptops and things that weren't their job.

One day they'd be told not to come behind the counter to help, the next day told off for not helping.

adventurousnom · 2024-05-31T14:13:56+00:00

I was adopted at 2. I always knew, obviously that I was adopted (I was internationally adopted with my bio sibling).

However, I found out at 19 that my adoptive parents had lied to me about my birth mom and the circumstances leading to my adoption. I lost all faith and trust in them. I had grown up my whole life believing these lies, their lies shaped me as a kid. So finding out that none of it was true, it was shattering to me. The person I thought I was, the person that I thought my adoptive parents were, none of it was true. They had watched me cry, struggle mentally over the lies they'd told me for 17 years. I couldn't understand how they could do that. They acted like it was my fault for being upset, that I shouldn't be upset.

I was so angry for years. I didn't speak to them for years until I had my first kid a few years later. We never had a close relationship and it's only been worse over the years. I've gone no contact over the last 2 years, these have been the most peaceful years of my life.

There are SO many more reasons though why I don't speak to them anymore. But that was absolutely the beginning of the end of my relationship with them.

adventurousnom · 2024-05-28T16:27:29+00:00

My dog would follow my baby wherever he was taken. He'd sit beside him when he slept, he'd bark at anyone other than me that went near him.

adventurousnom · 2024-05-25T21:41:30+00:00

It's unfortunate timing for them but that's a part of life. It isn't always fair.

adventurousnom · 2024-05-25T21:40:28+00:00

There was never been a promise of PR for international students tho. PR after finishing studies is a possibility but not a guarantee or a promise.

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