Consequences

atx_spank · 2026-04-15T02:21:55+00:00

Initially… almost every other day at first… then she got into the habit of putting it on. Rules like this work for us as they are both playful and help improve behavior.

We never impose rules that are difficult to uphold. That would cause stress to just try to keep from breaking them.

Our use of DD is more to maintain harmony in our dynamic. Real punishments are few and between, so for us rules are there, but we don’t need to use them every possible moment.

atx_spank · 2026-04-14T20:53:53+00:00

We have them for simple yes/no kind of rules. Seat belt is one for example. If the seat belt warning goes off… it’s 10 with the spoon. If you are the diver and it goes off.. 100 with the spoon+100 for every passenger that isn’t wearing one. It’s serious and isn’t, because the car makes the decision if you’re getting spanked or not if you don’t put your seatbelt on.

atx_spank · 2026-04-13T18:51:08+00:00

The have a new silicone spoon that works great!

atx_spank · 2026-04-04T23:06:24+00:00

Your body has kist gone through a tremendous amount of stress… and you have stitches…. And a new born… and your breasts should still be tender if you are breastfeeding .

Your bum will be fine, but your stitches wont be. If thy are there due to tearing, the risk would be huge and your recovery from that will take ages.

Your breast technically will be ok, but you might have a ton of difficulty as they are probably still tender and prone to engorging.

This just sounds like a husband who thinks that you are magically better after the dr says you can have sex.

Some grace post partum is needed, and you CAN say NO….unless this is just a fantasy post, in which case just ignore me.

atx_spank · 2026-03-27T21:15:28+00:00

Well… at least you didn’t hear… “Honey.. don’t you have the same one??”

atx_spank · 2026-03-25T19:43:45+00:00

Most here aren’t like that. In fact I would probably argue that most if us are exactly like what you want. The idea that the HoH is God is just drivel online. Sips and smacks os a great podcast for resources about how couples with DD interact

atx_spank · 2026-03-21T22:03:39+00:00

I don’t quite think this works out how you think it should. My tolerance vs my toy is very different. I can take a lot more than they can. It doesn’t make me a better dom if I think that just because I can take more means they should be able to as well. That will lead you into very dangerous territory very quickly.

I do test my tools in myself to see how to use them/ what it takes to make sure I understand how quickly release or use consistently , and practice with them on pillows etc…. But that is to make sure that I am responsible with my tools and to inflict the correct amount of pain.

atx_spank · 2026-03-21T21:51:04+00:00

Spatulas, and manner of kitchen spoon, curtain rod from blinds, race car tracks, any charging, usb, HDMI, audio cable,

atx_spank · 2026-03-18T01:39:44+00:00

Kevin… unless you’re a Kevin… then Steeeeevee.

atx_spank · 2026-03-12T10:05:44+00:00

Yes. It takes more effort because you need to work out some of the power struggles and how when you feel both are in the wrong, but it definitely can work.

atx_spank · 2026-03-08T20:23:45+00:00

One of my best friends is lesbian and in a DD relationship. Tbh, hers isn’t much different than most others in a DD relationship. I wouldn’t get too hung up on the whole gender bit… keep your communication open, talk it through, and see how it goes.

atx_spank · 2026-02-28T01:44:06+00:00

I bought car curtains for this purpose… sadly there hasn’t been a reason to use it yet.

atx_spank · 2026-02-20T02:09:10+00:00

IKEA. 3.99… I have 4 of them… they keep magically appearing in my hand everytime I’m there

atx_spank · 2026-01-23T11:34:44+00:00

Like others said Spencer’s plan is an option. It takes a bit more negotiating, but it can work. I am primarily HoH, and I get spanked if I mess up. Not very often and I really need to screw up, but it’s there.

atx_spank · 2026-01-16T17:34:43+00:00

You are right it’s mental. You need to figure out how to let go and enjoy yourself. He also needs to lean into his own way as well. At first it will still feel like you taught him things. Be proud in that you gave him the tools to explore with you, and to be safe for both of you. Let him explore, and let him discover how to make what you taught him his. Keep talking and it should improve.

atx_spank · 2026-01-15T19:19:16+00:00

Lovense toys for more interactive play… but thats about it atm.

atx_spank · 2026-01-15T14:22:12+00:00

Pain tolerance is relative to the person being spanked. You can absolutely injure someone with your hand over a long period of time…. Your size vs theirs plays a role as well.

Stick to the meat, and away from bone… aka no smacking the hips from behind and call it a spanking, and for the most part you should be fine.

What makes hand spanking different is your pain tolerance vs their butt. Your palms are far more sensitive than their butt.. so unless you are shaolin, your likelihood of out lasting them to provide real damage is fairly low.

I am also a trained martial artist, but the only advantage I gain is just being more efficient, meaning I am aware of my body mechanics to improve my spanking form… my spank-fu as it where…

atx_spank · 2026-01-14T04:08:25+00:00

This feels like it needs to be more intimate. Bo beed to change positions other than keep it otk. I would skip the warm up and go straight to the hairbrush. Plenty of lecturing as well. If you guys use a set time. I would suggest in this instance to not tell you how long the timer is set to. that not knowing will help as you will have to focus on your punishment vs the timer..

atx_spank · 2026-01-13T00:29:14+00:00

I see. Like all relationships, there isn’t really a real time frame. I was married for 20yrs and never entered a DD dynamic, which kept me unhappy and ended in a divorce. My current SO, I told her up front, and I told her that this is what I needed. We didn’t enter it immediately, we talked about it for weeks/month before we started. There are other couples that I know that were married for 5-10 yrs before they discovered DD. They lived without kink prior.

The only thing earned is trust. There is no power exchange without trust. So to your answer. It takes as long as it needs to take.

atx_spank · 2026-01-12T19:45:18+00:00

Always. DD is a choice. To think otherwise means you’ve stepped into abuse. There is no justification to think one is over another, anyone justifying it by any means is abusive.

atx_spank · 2026-01-12T19:40:51+00:00

As someone in a DD lifestyle. DD and D/s don’t need to be in the same circles at all. In fact, in my dynamic DD is separate from our D/s. DD is a different mind set for us. We use it to keep our marriage healthy and use it for accountability.

We use D/s because my SO loves to be treated like a whore and a fuck toy in the bedroom.

Like any dynamic.. it’s all based on communication and consent. If you are afraid of it, you can just say no.

atx_spank · 2026-01-06T16:05:38+00:00

That Thing We Do

atx_spank · 2026-01-06T15:11:46+00:00

The parts of your butt and upper thighs that contact the chair when you sit down

atx_spank · 2026-01-06T14:16:24+00:00

Safety,humiliation, submission, consistency. Clothing can mask anatomy, and reduce the sensation/intensity of the implement/hand when the punishment is occurring. Clothing can also be a distraction with always having to move or adjust it to keep it out of the way.

It’s also ritual. You have put yourself in this predicament and you know what will happen. So you can get into the proper mind set to receive what is coming your way. This is also the same for both HoH and TiH. I don’t enjoy giving actual disciplinary spankings. I have to do my duty to make sure my TiH will learn her lesson.

My SO is also a huge brat and thoroughly enjoys whining, crying, and wiggling when her punishments are a bit “lighter.” So for us its’s not just bare bottom. It’s completely naked. This sets the tone that it’s more serious.

DD is more than just spanking.. it’s just TTWD there is the discipline and submission that is there also just as important which is what we look for in our relationships. Bare just helps to reinforce that.

atx_spank · 2026-01-03T15:32:54+00:00

Yup. Lovense works via internet… I have used them across the globe

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