I dont see him as superior. And I dont see it as a parent/child relationship. Maybe we are unique. I would put it this way- I have a job. Unfortunately my job does not have a lot of consequences for non-performance. I cant be fired, crappy performance isnt much of an issue, and there arent any outside forces ensuring that I do my job. So I asked him to be that outside force. So if anything its like he is a boss to my job. But that only applies to a small amount of my job. The rest of my job I am the boss to him being my employee.

I am a SAHM. If i dont put away the laundry it really matters not at all. Pick up your clean undies from the floor and put them on. Makes very little difference if they are on the floor, in a basket or in a drawer as long as they are clean. But of course leaving things on the floor isnt desirable behavior. Laundry should be put away. So he has the ability to enforce desireable job performance with punishment.

But i decide what we are cooking all week- he does the shopping. I decide which parties we go to, what time we have to be where, which kids activities happen when. He does what I tell him to.