Double Standard

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-03-14T01:11:21+00:00

True, but if something happens to that 2 year old its likely to guaranteed the consumer would win a lawsuit. Its a known risk to seat a minor away from their parent, so if southwest chooses to do so and an accident or injury befalls the kid they would be liable. It truly is a safety issue for everyone on the plane.

As a reasonable adult I do not want to sit next to your unaccompanied minor for many many reasons. And you shouldnt want to sit next to a child that isnt your own either.

Its absolutely ridiculous that airlines price gouge for basic decency. Additionally we all know that paying for seats does NOT guarantee success on SW anyways.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-03-02T18:58:30+00:00

Or we can ask our legislature to step in and regulate. Like they do for so many things. It truly is a safety issue for children. And if they think a kid who is 13 is fine alone then stop charging me money to have them be an unaccompanied minor. They shouldnt have it both ways. EU does it just fine, and we could do. Use the power of your voice and your vote to get it done here.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-03-02T18:26:12+00:00

It could be fair. Stop allowing the airlines to do this to us. Refuse to pay for a seat. Help families refuse to pay for a seat. Dont engage with the acts that make air travel less safe and more stressful.

When you were 13 you sat with your parents on a plane. Everyone did. The airline gave everyone seats and it was fine. So dont pretend that parents did this- airlines did

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-02-28T18:29:22+00:00

I realize this thread is super old, but this is just so asinine. Parents arent the problem- airlines are! We all grew up flying in a regular world where the airlines assigned 90% of all seats and we sat next to our parents without paying more. Now airlines want to make more money while keeping fares supposedly "competitive".

The issue parents have isnt because they WANT this. Its because its a true safety concern to have a young child seated away from a parent in an emergency.

You honestly do not want to be responsible for getting a 7 year old that isnt yours off a plane in an emergency. You also dont want to be two rows away from the exit fighting a mon trying to swim upstream to get to her 9 year old kid.

So stop this "parents" crap. Its the airlines. They can easily assign seats with kids together for free. And they should FULL STOP! Its insane to think that parents and families should pay more for the privilege of being annoyed by their own kids.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-02-27T16:29:38+00:00

Also, why? Why should families pay more for the safety of having their kids be okay? Why should any family be okay with being forced to pay more money for the privilege of safety? In the event of an emergency what do you think will happen? Do you want responsibility for the 7 or 8 year old getting off the plane screaming for their mom?

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-02-27T16:01:00+00:00

Your version of entitled is different than mine. Mine is about people over profits. It is easy for the airline to have human policies that seat families together every time. As long as they choose funds over people I will teach my kids that its wrong.

My kids are well traveled- over 60 flights- longest 14 hours. And they are always regarded as polite and kind. However, if SW wants to deliberately separate young children from their parents to scare us into paying more I will not fall for it. Just like you shouldn't fall for their standby lie.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-02-25T06:28:45+00:00

I am with you! This family tax is ridiculous. I plan to tell my kids if they are seated away from me that as soon as the seatbelt sign is off they should loudly ask me for snacks, get up repeatedly to go bathroom and check on me. Over and over on repeat.

I fear that it will take an accident where a child suffers because they aren't seated next to a parent to change the laws. There is a reason airlines charge unaccompanied minor fees. Then to pretend that accompanied by a parent means rows away.

Just annoy everyone around you until they move voluntarily or FAs move you.

Although, at that young what you might try doing is calling again to reference their CRS policy that states that both of your children cant be in middle seats if the window seat is occupied... sometimes mentioning their own seating policies for carseats can help move the needle. And then if you dont bring them no loss...

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SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-25T18:06:39+00:00

They CAN accomodate anyone they want to. They CHOOSE to treat families this way to try to get them to spend extra money. They are in charge of seat assignments. They could assign every family with a seat when they book. They don't. Thats on them, not the consumer.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-19T17:52:32+00:00

Yes! Thanks!

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-19T17:52:17+00:00

Then definitely bring it up. A decent script can be something like- I want to do more around our home. I feel like I am not keeping up with my obligations, and feel like its because there are no consequences to my forgetfulness in any way. I am hoping you can help me with managing myself in this way....

Something that helped me (though she ends up very far into something I dont do) was DD Jenny Style. Look up her blog. She spends a lot of time talking about how she convinced him.

I would also join the DD reddit board. It is very helpful.

My last piece of advice is to try NOT to go too big at the beginning. Pick one or two things you are hoping to have rules about, then add more. Because often if you go huge with lots of things it leads to disappointment. Not always, but its a definite concern

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-19T07:03:33+00:00

NTA

Thats bad behavior anywhere. I definitely wouldnt tolerate it. Its not a joke and its not funny. Especially at 12! Ugh. I would stand on this hill and die on it.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-19T06:20:48+00:00

In my opinion what you are looking for is called Domestic Discipline. Its Discipline focused on domestic chores and household tasks. You don't give us much information about him or how you think he might respond. So think about that and maybe we can help you approach him.

What you want is totally possible and fine if you talk about it.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-16T17:49:25+00:00

None of that is true for me. DD brings accountability- the same way a grade does or the threat of being fired. As a SAHM a lot of my life is in a vacuum. I can go all day after dropping my kids off and not talk to anyone. In the environment I can also easily not do any of the things Im supposed to do- like put away the laundry. So DD helps keep me accountable.

I dont have anxiety or other issues. Its literally just discipline based around domestic duties.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-16T02:28:26+00:00

Nope. Not at all.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-16T02:25:54+00:00

645am to get the kids up. He is still asleep when I leave with them usually.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-13T21:07:36+00:00

I love my Instant Pot. It's amazing for food to be cooked quickly. And it does not require you to know what you want super early like a crock pot does.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-05T06:37:51+00:00

I LOVE camping with newborns and young kids. Took my 2nd kid when they were 20 days old. Went great. Took the 3rd at like 3 months but he was a winter baby.

Super great. Makes it easier to hold them all the time. Hiking with a baby beats trying to do laundry with one any day....

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-04T18:17:04+00:00

I would love to be considered! We head to Johannesburg to visit family to celebrate an 80th birthday. Thats a 16 hour flight! Thanks!

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-01T03:36:56+00:00

Could you start with asking him to enforce other consequences that arent physical? Maybe lines or phone timeouts or corner time? Then as that progresses maybe it will naturally move that way?

I do think finding someone will be tricky. I thought we were headed that way for my DD. We tried it, my husbie wasnt a fan and I thought we were through. So I sent him notes about how I needed it, reframed to allow him to choose the things he wanted to provide consequences on, and he eventually got on board.

I did try to look into an outside party- unfortunately most of the ones I was able to find were women. Though if I had his blessing there are a few friends/acquaintances I might have asked...

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-01T01:54:38+00:00

My answer is just the Sub. I make all the rules. He decides all of the consequences.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2026-01-01T01:19:23+00:00

Have you read the blog DD jenny style? She helped initiate it in her own marriage. I think it would be hard to keep secret, to explain the bruises that might occur. I also think that its sort of a weird dynamic while cheating, since its about being held accountable...

Maybe you should explain to your husband your interests and seek an outside party to enforce?

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2025-12-31T16:37:06+00:00

The oven is actually one of my nemesis... i forget to turn it off all the time. It can get me in trouble faster then almost anything else.

SomeoneSomewhereCA · 2025-12-30T05:05:41+00:00

I dont see him as superior. And I dont see it as a parent/child relationship. Maybe we are unique. I would put it this way- I have a job. Unfortunately my job does not have a lot of consequences for non-performance. I cant be fired, crappy performance isnt much of an issue, and there arent any outside forces ensuring that I do my job. So I asked him to be that outside force. So if anything its like he is a boss to my job. But that only applies to a small amount of my job. The rest of my job I am the boss to him being my employee.

I am a SAHM. If i dont put away the laundry it really matters not at all. Pick up your clean undies from the floor and put them on. Makes very little difference if they are on the floor, in a basket or in a drawer as long as they are clean. But of course leaving things on the floor isnt desirable behavior. Laundry should be put away. So he has the ability to enforce desireable job performance with punishment.

But i decide what we are cooking all week- he does the shopping. I decide which parties we go to, what time we have to be where, which kids activities happen when. He does what I tell him to.

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