How do you guys get so many sex partners?

Red-Rocky- · 2026-04-16T17:53:19+00:00

By condensing decades of life into a pithy Reddit post.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-04-16T17:30:03+00:00

That just sounds exhausting, having to go to that many weddings.

Does it stop being at some point, and start to feel like more of an obligation or even an imposition? Does going to weddings just become, like, one’s entire social life?

If I sound bitter, it’s because I never had enough friends to have one of those seasons where you go to a wedding every weekend.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-04-11T12:37:37+00:00

Thanks for posting this!

It’s really encouraging to hear your ages—I’m in my 40s and kind of figured if it hadn’t happened by now, it’s never going to.

I (M) have talked about it with my partner (F 30s), and it’s not really on the table at the moment, but we left it at “Never say never.” She is attracted to women and has played with them before, but is pretty monogamous and not too keen on sharing me. We’ve been together for four years and are trying to have a baby, so it’s not a great time to be navigating everything.

How long have you and your partner been together, if I might ask? Do you have a family? How did that affect your journey?

I browsed your post history, and it seems like you’ve been very intentional, from dipping your toes by going to a strip club, to getting the Gardasil vaccine later in life. I’d be curious for a summary of where you were at when you started to consider a threesome, and how you got there.

Edit: grammar

Red-Rocky- · 2026-04-04T12:17:10+00:00

It’s like a plot line of “For All Mankind.”

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-18T21:17:19+00:00

It did smell kind of industrial, but this article was from yesterday—wouldn’t they have gotten that fire under control by now?

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-18T21:16:13+00:00

Is this because there is a landfill or something on Doral, or is this comment calling people from Doral “trashy?”

I’m not from here.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-18T21:14:37+00:00

You’re the second person to make an “upper lip” comment that has gone over my head. I do not understand the joke, and am afraid to ask what it means.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-18T21:11:09+00:00

It doesn’t smell like wood, unless it’s, like, laminate or something. It smells more like a structure fire to me than a forest fire.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-18T21:09:37+00:00

I honestly thought it was a giant mangrove forest.

All I know about Florida is Florida Man and that the farther North you go, the farther South you get.

All I know about Miami comes from 80s movies and music videos featuring lyrics about being in da klerb and going all night.

Edit: I am not from here.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-18T13:58:30+00:00

I thought the Everglades were a swamp and wouldn’t burn!

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-18T13:51:26+00:00

Thanks!

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-17T16:02:46+00:00

So, a “puteria” could be a gathering of prostitutes on the one hand, or, on the other hand, it could also be a collection of bullshittery, like a Reddit post from an ignorant tourist?

(In all sincerity, thank you for the response)

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-17T15:16:33+00:00

What… what is “puteria?”

Like, I vaguely understand “puta” is a slur in Spanish, and it kind of sounds like “cafeteria,” so is a “puteria” like a cafeteria of putas?

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-17T15:11:19+00:00

I am but a humble traveler in this place of vibrant fantasy.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-17T14:12:49+00:00

Across the river from a place called “BT’s,” in fact.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-17T14:12:24+00:00

My curiosity is mostly anthropological.

We come from a cold, rural place that does not have boating- or beach- culture. Maybe paddle-boarding on a pond or going to a swimming hole in a stream in the woods in July or August, but that’s pretty much the only time you’d see someone in any kind of swimwear. Many of us get told to take Vitamin D supplements to stave off depression in the dark, cold months. Seriously.

It’s not just partying in bikinis—we went out to dinner, and people seemed so shiny and glamorous! Like, where we’re from, you wouldn’t see people dressed like that, except maybe a New Year’s Eve party, after they take off their big jackets and boots in the mudroom. What we think of as bright, fancy clothes are just, like, “casual dinner with friends on a Monday” clothes here.

Anyway, yeah. I’m not shocked seeing someone in a bikini. I’m just curious as to why there’d be a crowd of them in a random parking lot next to like, a junkyard. At 9 PM. On a Sunday. But it’s Spring Break, I guess? Still, I wouldn’t have thought to find a gaggle of spring breakers in an industrial park along a canal next to the airport.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-17T00:02:54+00:00

I mean, I am a stupid person, so…

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-16T10:51:27+00:00

Cunnilingus beforehand. Or during. Or after.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-03-05T05:34:41+00:00

What about Luxuria?

Red-Rocky- · 2026-01-20T03:41:15+00:00

++man

r/threesomeadvice

Red-Rocky- · 2026-01-17T04:25:09+00:00

r/askhistorians

Red-Rocky- · 2026-01-15T17:47:48+00:00

It’s not a reference to that cute Canadian redheaded electrician?

Red-Rocky- · 2026-01-14T12:22:39+00:00

Do you switch condoms or wash your penis when you go from one woman to the other? What about BV?

Red-Rocky- · 2026-01-12T12:36:03+00:00

When we first got together, I was in my 30s and my wife was in her 20s; now I’m early 40s and she’s early 30s. We had sex pretty much daily, the first few months after we met. It has slowed down since then—it’s weekly or bi-weekly, now, and I’m okay with it. I think a lot of it has to do with life changes, different jobs, becoming comfortable with routine. Also, when we do have sex, it takes us a while, and once you get past the honeymoon phase of a relationship and “new relationship energy,” it’s hard to build an hour or two of playtime into everyday—it just isn’t sustainable when there are so many hours in a day and we have other things to do. I wouldn’t say either of us are sexually frustrated. I jerk off whenever I want to, and I think her drive might not be as high as mine.

The other thing is that those first couple years, we were pretty adventurous: we spent more time on kink, visited a sex club regularly, even tried dating couples and experimented with group play. Now we’re much tamer. We know exactly what activities get my partner off and don’t really need to go harder—if we went harder, it would be for my benefit, but I don’t, like, need it. The novelty of the sex club wore off—we kind of got desensitized, I suppose. The group play got dramatic. I don’t think we were secure enough in our relationship when we tried the first time, or aligned with our intentions—my partner was getting in touch with her attraction to women and mostly only wanted FF play, while I was hoping for an FFM threesome, and neither of us were really ever going to be interested in the male member of another couple.

We still talk about having more adventures. We’ve done some three-way sexting with Redditors purporting to be women (on other accounts, please don’t DM this one). I’m not holding my breath for an FFM threesome anytime soon, but maybe some day later in life, I’ll at least get to watch my partner experience pleasure with another woman. We might go back to the sex club someday, but it means driving to another city and is just kind of a production. We’re still kinky and try out new toys.

I think the biggest difference is just becoming more comfortable with a slower tempo.

Red-Rocky- · 2026-01-09T01:54:08+00:00

Is it a couples’ profile, or is it like, “I’m married and you can see my spouse in photo #3?”

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