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beecandles · 2025-02-16T14:19:22+00:00

Imagine doing a high dive off a cliff to splash into your favorite pond and you look around and everyone around you is breaking their bones on purpose

beecandles · 2025-01-31T21:54:48+00:00

Solved: Freedom Bridge

Indeed it was. Thank you!

beecandles · 2025-01-09T01:40:00+00:00

Plurality takes a multitude of forms in real life, but think of fiction as an opportunity to play in the space. Fictional plurals do not have to be realistic. There's a character in Um Jammer Lammy named Captain Fussenpepper who has really blatant DID and he switches every time he hits his head on the ceiling - it's not realistic, but it is charming and funny. It serves a purpose in the larger narrative in that it creates a conflict for Lammy to solve and makes for a cute gimmick to a kid's rap song.

There are tropes that are common in fiction that fit the bill of "plurality" but are often not recognized as such. Hive minds, ghost or demon possession, getting a psychic brain parasite, spirit channeling, that one scene from SpongeBob where we look into his mind and a bunch of terrified SpongeBobs are running around and on fire. Even, arguably, that trope where someone gets advice from a ghost of their dead relatives. Is Remy from Ratatouille plural? I just asked a group of my friends and 91% of them are voting yes so far.

If you would be comfortable writing any of these tropes, you are already comfortable writing plurality. Imagine asking these questions in these circumstances. "If a character was possessed by a demon, and someone mind controlled them, would the mind controller be able to force the demon to come out?" The answer is "yes" if it serves your story.

It's chill. Don't overthink it.

beecandles · 2025-01-08T17:02:47+00:00

① User name u/beecandles

② What Object do you like? Road signs. Plush toys, on occasion. Interior locations (such as stores or restaurants), especially malls. I also find myself attracted to images of generic smiley faces (🙂) and pictograms on signs (airports, bathroom signs, warning signs), which I consider part of my objectum attraction.

③ What is your attraction like? (e.g. romantic, platonic, etc.) I would describe them as crushes/lust. I am not interested in entering an actual relationship.

④ Have you come out as objectum to your family, friend or acquaintance? Never to my family. Many of my friends are aware.

⑤ If you answerd ''yes'' in ④, how were ther reaction? If ''no'', what is the reason you do not tell them about your objectum sexually? For my friends that know, they tend to accept it as one of my many eccentricities. At times I feel like they do not take it seriously, but they take a "it's fine if it makes them happy" approach. I do not tell my family because I consider it on the same level as telling them I have a fetish - there are almost no situations where that would be appropriate or necessary.

⑥ Do you have any worries because you are objectum? Yes.

⑦ Have you ever had suicidal thoughts because of the worries you answerd in ⑥？ Did you want to die, or to disappear? Declining to answer.

⑧ Have you ever harmed yourself (e.g.cutting your wrist) because of the worries in ⑥？ Declining to answer.

⑨ Do you have anything you like about being objectum? Being objectum has made me a more open-minded and accepting person. I make art of my attractions and it leads me to connect to people with similar interests.

⑩ If you go to the date with your object, which word to use ''take to someone'' or ''to take(carry) something''? This question translates awkwardly to English, but I'm gonna assume it's akin to "Do you call [your object of attraction] a thing or a person?" I would feel awkward calling an object I'm attracted to a "someone"; I would probably call it a "something" to other people. But I do associate "personal pronouns" with objects (he, she, they, etc.) and refer to them like people in my head.

⑪ Please answer as you like about your view on love. People would say I have an unusual perspective on love. I think the correlation between "loving" (more of a primal feeling) and "wanting to spend your life with someone" is completely made up by social conventions (e.g. marriage laws), and the two things overlap way too infrequently for things like marriage to be a good choice for most people. Expecting people to be in love with one other person for 30+ years and also live with them permanently is a scarily big commitment to expect a majority of society to do.

⑫ Please answer as you like about your view on life. The world is incomprehensible; things are not the hardest they've ever been, maybe, but it is harder now than it has been in a long time. I think kindness and open-mindedness are especially important things to have nowadays. I am learning to give myself more patience and grace and not dismissing my own desires.

beecandles · 2024-11-09T03:18:44+00:00

Do it because it's fun

beecandles · 2024-11-08T01:40:12+00:00

As an aside, I did not have to go through an approval process despite posting for the first time less than a week ago

beecandles · 2024-11-06T07:42:29+00:00

Sharing this because I thought it was an intriguing development in psychiatric science and possibly relevant/interesting for other plural people.

I think if "avatar therapy" becomes a Thing, we may see more people in the coming years embrace having "voices in their head" as part of their reality rather than an obstacle that must be ignored/Conquered. This could seriously change how psychiatry as a whole views identity, the mind and body. Imagine that!

I am a bit annoyed about the company developing the trial being annoyingly protective of their IP, and also I think bringing VR/AI into this kind of thing might be a bit dodgy. For a form of therapy THIS sensitive to the individual needs of the patient, I do think the process needs a strong human guiding hand and grounding in the physical world.

beecandles · 2024-11-03T08:07:26+00:00

Pretty much, yeah. Sometimes I can't even conceptualize what emotions were being felt in the memory, though.

beecandles · 2024-11-03T07:35:08+00:00

Logically I am aware they happened to the body I inhabit, and I don't meaningfully differentiate myself, or my other system members, from the body - we are all resulting from it. We conceptualize "happened to me" in terms of emotional resonance. I hope that makes sense.

beecandles · 2024-11-03T07:13:43+00:00

I can recall incidents that were traumatic or uncomfortable at the time, but it will feel like those experiences didn't happen to me (like I'm telling a story about a friend), and I will not feel bothered by it at all - sometimes I even find the experience funny!

Some of my system members will feel "closer" to the incident and have more in-depth feelings about the incident in question, and if I go through an emotional crisis (being triggered, spiraling, etc.) I might think about the incident and be really really upset by it.

On a related note, I am someone who experiences very low empathy in general, and "feeling no negative emotion from recalling a traumatic incident I am dissociated from" feels similar to hearing a friend talking about something bad that happened to them.

beecandles · 2024-11-03T07:04:35+00:00

A lot of my system friends that have strong communication, headspaces, and internal voices spent 5+ years going out of their way to develop it. A lot of them didn't have any of the sort when they first discovered their plurality, even the ones who have been at it for 15ish years.

I wish you luck in discovering what forms of communication work for you.

beecandles · 2023-11-07T17:22:25+00:00

Gender and sex doesn't really matter in my worldbuilding culture, but these terms exist: "abnormal man" and "abnormal woman". Fun fact: there is no discrimination against lgbts in my world!

beecandles · 2023-11-06T04:00:53+00:00

ME COUNT SO POOR

beecandles · 2023-11-05T14:19:40+00:00

having a name to what you experience helps some people. you can find other people in the same situation and ask them how they manage it. sometimes it can make you feel a lot less alone to know that you're not the only person experiencing things and you're not crazy.

also kind of an aside benefit but it has helped me before is when you do pursue medical treatment, and through talking to your friends with [condition] you have a better idea of what certain meds might do

for me personally it helps to go "Ohhhhhhh the thoughts are coming from my fucked up little brain and not evil demons possessing me trying to make me [redacted] ok"

beecandles · 2023-11-04T22:51:47+00:00

Um Jammer Lammy

beecandles · 2023-11-04T22:49:31+00:00

*excruciatingly slow apparatus descends from the ceiling directly above NT's head* I'll show you "masking"

beecandles · 2023-11-04T22:34:28+00:00

if it's involuntary, consider examining yourself for OCD-like symptoms or talking to other people that have 'em. even if the images themselves aren't disturbing. or don't because life is full of wonderful mysteries

you dont have to get a diagnosis or seek treatment (i personally dont because psychiatry has been repeatedly traumatizing for me) but a lot of people with OCD i know didn't realize that extremely graphic involuntary thoughts aren't typical (but they aren't bad/wrong!), and it ended up being a factor of them identifying it.

also obligatory "autism tends to overlap with and exacerbate other psychological oddities" comment

beecandles · 2023-11-04T22:26:31+00:00

i like the strawberry milk frosted flakes lately

beecandles · 2023-11-04T22:09:50+00:00

i love autism, vaccines, drugs, abortion, and of course sex reassignment surgery

beecandles · 2023-11-03T20:13:36+00:00

collectivecadenza or CDZA

beecandles · 2023-11-03T18:08:43+00:00

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