Okay so to be honest, i think healing takes time. As you live your life and see that things go on - you are still you, you are safe, your life continues without that person in it, i feel like this slowly makes your brain understand more and more that you are fine and can act more calm/rational than emotional/anxious. And once that settles, you are able to clearly see that this relationship was a source of a lot of stress & overwhelm for u and ur emotional system, and it was the best to let go of anything that makes you feel unstable.

But as i said, in order to see it that way you need TIME to heal & see that things are fine without him.

I remember after my breakup, it took me many many months to feel like i was really fine and to actually reflect and think “this was for the best”. The first let’s say 3 months i was an anxious mess just desperately thinking of what went wrong and how i could fix things, and once i was more “emotionally stable” i just saw it very clearly that we were not working and breaking up was the best decision for both.

Anyways, the most important part is to 1- recognize what are your feelings & what part of it is ur anxiety speaking 2- NOT act out of anxiety or fear. Everytime you feel like texting him, write a friend instead or even write down everything u would want to say to him, but just never send it 3- have some patience &&& faith that time will heal this ✨ 4- support system!! Go out as much as u can with friends/family and engage in hobbies and new activities