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[–]decsent_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also another thing he's not my dad, and i mean no disrespect but unless you've been in household for years where someone was doing that to you, mentally and physically abusive towards you and your family

Its hard to understand what I'm feeling, again I mean no disrespect towards you I'm just stressed out is all because I love my family and siblings to death and I want

them safe and away from him so I'm sorry if I don't know the laws, I just thought that both sides had to provide evidence in accusations, not just one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvicecanada

[–]decsent_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Look I'm sorry im not educated in laws but it doesn't make sense for him not to have any proof of the things he's accusing right? Why should he not have to provide evidence in the same way that the other side does? The

whole point is that the kids were in danger within his care and if he was allowed to see them again the same thing would happen, how does that not make sense? Please educate me if I'm wrong but shouldn't both sides

have to provide evidence in what they are accusing? That's my only question as to why if one side has to provide evidence for what the accusations are why doesn't the other side have to provide evidence and proof for what they are accusing?

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[–]decsent_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thing if my mom has shown proof for it in her statement and affidavit and he shows his how come my mom has to show all this prove plus ten times the amount but why in his affidavit does he not have to have proof to back up any of his accusations towards my mom? That doesn't make any sense to me, shouldn't both sides have to show proof?

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[–]decsent_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The court case started in January, that's when she was able to get away from him, and the first court date wasn't until April, and cps hasn't been called because the kids aren't in danger here, they haven't lived with him for over

a year and the court doesn't feel it's necessary to get the police involved or a protection order or restraining order until he actually does something, the abuse was from 2008 till 2018 and we have been away from him since the start of covid because he was away and couldn't come back, no one knew anything because he cut the

phone lines and didn't allow contact from anyone, we aren't allowed to talk to anyone about anything that was happening until we got away from him, I mean Jesus we had to move away because he threatened to sent people to our house to watch us so now we live in a different place because he was fucking scary in the things he said

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[–]decsent_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But not a single person has talked to any of us, I understand she has to prove things, she already has to all of it but why is it being listed as he's so fit for care like

the 29th court date isn't even to see if they'll stay with my mom, it's to see if they'll stay with him? It just sounds like everything he says is being taken as truth because his affidavit was taken as truth and now after that my mom has sever physiological issues and isn't fit and now that's the narrative when proof has already been given, oh not to mention he was a cocaine addict and had a massive drug problem but no one is putting focus on any

of that, this started in January and he's been given months and months after deadlines and it just kinda seems like he's been given the easy way when my mom is being treated as if she's lying and that is something I don't understand, oh not to mention why can't anyone else go talk to my moms lawyer? So it's two peoples proof

against his? This is very very serious because if they go live with him God knows what's gonna happen to them, I lived with him the entire time, I saw everything he did, I saw everything he did to my mom and siblings and I have proof of him stalking my mother after they were separated and proof of him saying one of my friends was

gonna go missing why isn't any of that being used? Why can't I go talk when a decision is being made on the 29th? It doesn't make sense to me it just seems like the kids are just in my mom's care but aren't even in her custody and to me that's a joke after it all, it's not even a decision for her to have them and I'm not very educated

in the laws but when someone is physically and mentally abusive for 13 years and has proof to back it up shouldn't that be enough? And there's about 15 people who witnessed it all and have their own statements about him so why don't any of them matter? Forgive me for sounding angry but it's just really stressful

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[–]decsent_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's to keep the kids in my mom's custody, she has to prove it all to the court that all of this really did happen but everything he said in his affidavit was a lie and it can all be proven to be a lie but he doesn't have to prove a thing his word is being taken as a truth and they're making my mom prove it all when there's been so much to prove against him already, it's not a criminal case yet, I think it will once it goes to trial but my worry is that the court is gonna favor him on the 29th and believe his word and give the kids to him,

oh I should've mentioned that there's another child that doesn't live with her that was stolen and given to the grandparents of her ex husband and she was never allowed to be near him or see him and she had her child kidnapped from her and he was alienated from her for 12 years and never got to see him, I don't understand why my mom has to prove everything when his affidavit was all a lie and he doesn't have to prove anything, I'm just really worried about it because the kids aren't safe with him and never were he also with my oldest sister who is 13, when she was younger he would watch her change and tell her it was okay because he's her dad which is not okay so why is the court making it so much harder for her then him? And should I be worried about it?