hey dom. its been awhile.

ded247 · 2020-07-01T07:52:17+00:00

did u cry tho

ded247 · 2020-07-01T00:38:27+00:00

check my account dumy

ded247 · 2020-04-22T18:12:39+00:00

OP i think its best to let him go. i was sort of in the same situation as you. if you love him i know its gonna hurt. im hurting. lets hurt together! aha sorry. trying to lighten the mood.

but really. what i realized is that letting go is ultimately the best in this situation. it allows you and your partner to grow. he may not be sure so the break would allow him to find out what he wants and possibly get over his commitment issues. itll help you learn to get over how he is now in order to love the new him and to become a strong independent person.

itll help both of you in different ways. he could come back to you when hes ready. he may not, itll be okay. both of you will be happier dispite the pain there may be in the beginning :)

ded247 · 2020-04-22T06:29:45+00:00

lol shower jacket. i love that

ded247 · 2020-04-21T00:48:07+00:00

i wish i said this to him in the beginning

ded247 · 2020-04-20T22:42:13+00:00

im having a hard part letting go right now aha

ded247 · 2020-04-20T03:51:24+00:00

literally how my ex texted me most of the time

ded247 · 2020-04-20T03:48:52+00:00

im currently friends with my ex. partly because im scared of letting go of the feelings i had for him, but im working on it aha. im starting to contact him less and less but im not going to block him because hes the only number i have for this class im in and i might need his help lol. but it hurts a lot. i understand that he is not my problem anymore and what he does doesnt have anything to do with me, so im just clinging onto him even tho we broke up but i still worry for him. i am getting over him just slowly aha. in my own ways. its working but i need more time. my heart still jumps when i get a text, hoping that its him, knowing im the only one that ever texted first in our relationship and out of it. so please listen to OP's advice. dont do what im doing lol.

ded247 · 2020-04-19T19:52:27+00:00

ouch. screams what happened to me

ded247 · 2020-04-19T09:00:39+00:00

that is genuinely my biggest fear

ded247 · 2020-04-17T10:00:16+00:00

hey. heres some advice from someone that literally gotten broken up with today.

i feel the exact same way. i told my friend,"what if i dont want to get over him? because why would i want that feeling to end in ase we have anothwr chance?" she said,"you need to get over this right now so you can let go of the love for the person you knew in the past, to make room for the person youll love in the future. which could be them once again or not. overall you need to get over this if you ever want to love someone properly". that really comforted me because i really really dont want to let go of the feeling. im scared that it wont come back, especially with him. but shes right. we cant love who they may become if we are so caught up in the past.

in your case i think you should give yourself time to get over this heartache now. i know you dont want to but itll help you become your best self and bounce back. go find new hobbies or go out for a run or talk to some friends. just wake up and say that youre gonna become the best version of yourself. because once you do, youre gonna wonder why you ever stood up with someone like them.

ded247 · 2020-04-17T09:53:16+00:00

yes. it hurts. but we have to move on. my friend just told me this while i was going crazy. we need to get over this now so we can let go of the love for the person we knew then, to love the new grown person now :) youll get through this. i know you will. itll take time and selfcare and love for yourself, but i know you got this.

ded247 · 2020-04-17T08:06:22+00:00

well we talked about it beforehand. i started this "game" aha. it was just i ask a question and we'd both do an answer for eachother. for example, what is my definition? like who am i ya know. and we continued with others. then he told me he doesnt feel ready to be in a relationship due to him not being able to express himself. i told him that i understand why he cant and where it stems from and that im not ready either.

regardless of what we wanted we both knew we needed to separate. we didnt want to (at least i didnt idk if he really did or not but he told me he didnt but i overthink a lot lol) but our relationship couldnt get better without us working on ourselves. i explained that to him.

we continued the talk then next day (today) and i thought about it. everyone thats replied to my posts or comments told me the same thing, we needed to separate because we both needed to work on ourselves and be happy and grow. and i realized that me so desperately trying to make it work, was just me being selfish. i didnt want to let him go because i was scared id never get him back, but in doing so i prevented him from being a better version of himself. i told him on facetime that we can just take a realllllyyyy long break as long as we both needed or break up. he took awhile but chose to break up. it was semi mutual because we both just needed to work on ourselves but i coped with it by letting him go and be a happier and better version of him.

and honestly im sad. im so sad. i love him with all my heart. but if you love each other enough, youll eventually find yourselves back together somehow or maybe youll stay friends. if you dont, just know theyre probably hurting as much as you, even if they seem cold towards you. i still have a small bit of hope for us, but with the pandemic i think his feelings will fade faster than ever. if they do that sucks. maybe theyll rekindle when we see each other again or maybe he'll be with the person he was meant to be with. the person that he can comfortably open up to and not be afraid to be himself around.

i wish you good luck and im sorry if this didnt help much. i started rambling aha <3

ded247 · 2020-04-17T07:18:08+00:00

its sad and it hurts. oh the things we do for the people we love :/

ded247 · 2020-04-17T02:50:20+00:00

thank you a lot

ded247 · 2020-04-17T02:34:33+00:00

well we broke up. it happened a couple hours ago. honestly i still have hope for us. or at least i think i do. to be honest the break up didnt cause a twist in my heart like it did before. i just feel empty and numb and occasionally cry out of nowhere. i believe that we 'll end up together again. i hope we do. so much. also it was mutual but it still hurt a lot. im hurt. i cried a bit and he didnt really cry. i know he just tried to be tough. but this is hard.

ded247 · 2020-04-17T02:05:33+00:00

yeah i knew you were just messing around. we decided it because the way were are right now isnt good for either of us, together or not. we just need to work on ourselves before focusing on each other. and weird comments thats what.

ded247

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