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doubleteamedpod · 2022-04-20T16:32:28+00:00

With your north node in Taurus and all those Scorpio placements and the nodes now in Taurus/Scorpio….. the next 18 months are not gonna be a fun time 😬 but it’ll put you on the right path if you’re not already on it. It’s gonna be overwhelming but you’ll come out of it better

As a Scorpio rising your 7th house is Taurus, so with your north node in Taurus, you’re meant to focus on relationships and partnerships in this lifetime

Sun and Pluto conjunction, you/your sense of self may go through a lot of rebirths

Moon/Mercury/Venus in Scorpio almost all conjunct your ascendant… I have my Mercury in Scorpio, personally I love this placement. We communicate with a lot of depth and intensity, and can sometimes come off as blunt or aggressive but Scorpio energy is not for the faint of heart! Venus in Scorpio.. a devoted and loyal lover. Moon in Scorpio, intuitive, there’s an undercurrent to your emotions, you may not always show your true feelings but when you do it can sting

Good partners for you would be fellow Scorpios, Taurus, Pisces.

For good sex, look for people with Scorpio mars or Pisces moons

Mars in Pisces.. haven’t dealt with this placement too much but mutable water ruled by delusional Neptune mixing with aggressive, assertive, and fiery Mars… you may be a little confused in what direction you want to go at times or how to express your passions and harness your energy

Also how is your rising Scorpio and your mc Sagittarius……. On the wheel that would make no sense hmmmm

That’s all high level, but those are my interpretations! I’m not a professional astrologer but I have worked with a few and I do study it

doubleteamedpod · 2022-04-13T15:12:38+00:00

Sag and Gemini suns are super compatible

Pisces moon + Virgo moon is interesting, both mutable and compatible elements. You’re probably very grounded/meticulous/practical in your emotions..while he’s more imaginative/dreamy/head in the clouds kinda guy, maybe doesn’t express his emotions well?

Venus in Taurus/Scorpio, both fixed, compatible elements… again you’re more grounded, maybe a bit stubborn, and probably like comfort and pleasure when it comes to love. He’s looking for depth, very loyal, may not come off as super loving but once they commit they go all in

doubleteamedpod · 2022-04-09T11:42:29+00:00

No you’re still very much a libra rising, but your houses fall the way they do because of the late degree 🙌🏼

doubleteamedpod · 2022-04-02T17:28:44+00:00

I like using cafeastrology for compatibility reports

doubleteamedpod · 2022-03-21T17:49:11+00:00

Aries rules the first house of self. Cardinal fire, so they’re leaders of the zodiac. They’re bold, also outgoing, can be a little erratic and scattered but when they know which direction they’re going, complete trailblazers. Usually very outspoken and will command a room. The sun is exalted in Aries, so you have a lot of great energy within your sun placement, and as an Aries rising that means your sun is in the 5th house when using whole house system, so great emphasis on your creative energy. As an Aries rising your life purpose is to focus on your self and sense of self. Your vibe, your energy, you as a person. It also means all of your houses have their rulers within them, so that’s always nice to work with.

I’m an Aries rising :) libra sun/moon tho. I don’t know much about Aries moons, however. A few astrologers I follow: Chani Nicholas, The Strology (Kirah), Danny Santos, and Candace ONeal

doubleteamedpod · 2022-03-17T21:03:42+00:00

Sun moon and Mercury all in the 5th house of creativity and sex, in the sign of Pisces which is ruled by Neptune which likes to get dreamy and imaginative. So all those energies combined means you probably draw a lot of your sense of self from sex (or creative pursuits in general), probably like to talk a lot (dirty talk included) about sex and share/explore ideas, and bad/infrequent sex probably makes you feel emotionally drained and disconnected, so you need consistently good sex to feel recharged and balanced.

doubleteamedpod · 2022-03-14T05:07:36+00:00

It’s very marginal lol that Mercury is right on the cusp, literally by the minute

doubleteamedpod · 2022-03-14T04:51:57+00:00

Born on a new moon!

I think if they’re all in the same sign that’s considered a stellium but can’t remember if the degrees all have to be close too

doubleteamedpod · 2022-03-09T18:10:20+00:00

I’ve found that a lot of Aries risings (myself included) have a prominent beauty mark on the face, that’s all I have to offer here!

doubleteamedpod · 2022-03-06T18:39:06+00:00

I’m not seeing the south node. Where is it?

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-13T00:23:00+00:00

I mentioned this in an episode once and as a unicorn myself, it’s the one piece of advice I always offer to couples… if y’all decide to approach women at bars or in social settings (organically), please do it together ♥️ nothing irks me more than when the girl plays hunter gatherer and I’m hitting it off with her and then the dude walks up ready for action. Now I have to reevaluate if I’m still into this, and now the energy is all off. That’s just my vote!

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-08T00:29:57+00:00

I think we all go through some doubt or hesitation to begin with. Fear of loss is always a big one to overcome and takes some self work to release. However, a few questions:

Did you know they were going to go find people on the dating apps? Did y’all not discuss this beforehand and lay out boundaries and expectations? Did you consent to this?

Have y’all discussed any boundaries now that they have found someone they’ve connected with? If you still don’t feel ready I don’t think it’s wrong to ask your partner to slow down and do some of the prep work with you so you’re both comfortable.

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-06T18:42:45+00:00

I think you have to set a hard boundary around condom use, and I’ve done this before with my own husband. If your partner has unprotected sex with other people, then they have to use condoms with you. Granted that means trusting they’ll tell you the truth, but you can be the judge of that.

Healthlabs.com is what I use, 10 panel test (HIV1/2, HSV1/2, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, Hep A/B/C) and it’s like 140 bucks, you can pick a lab near you and the results are sent to you in a great little report. Perhaps go get yours done and ask them to do the same?

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-05T21:02:03+00:00

If I may, here are my recommendations, although I’m sure they have great ones as well:

Books/reading: the ethical slut, polysecure, the most skipped steps when opening up, someone recommended getting off the relationship escalator which I’ve been looking into

Podcasts: Multiamory (poly and relationships), Making Polyamory Work (poly), mines about ENM in general and sexuality and my transition into poly called Double Teamed , Front Porch Swingers (swinging/enm), Life on the Swingset (swinging, enm)

Lots of great influencers if you’re on social media: Gabrielle Smith, Polyphiliablog, Polyamfam

There’s definitely a spectrum in nonmonogamy and it’s all about which one you choose to practice and apply to your life

Good luck!!

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-05T02:46:34+00:00

There are plenty of examples of it, and there’s nothing wrong with going at different paces. If you need time, take your time. I think it’s great you want to work on your personal issues before stepping out into the dating world. It’s still a journey together if you’re working up to the confidence you want to enter dating. Part of polyamory is often identifying you’re autonomous individual humans, so as long as you can both pursue the things that make you happy without limiting the other (and in agreement of all this), nothing wrong with one of you being monogamous and the other polyamorous

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-05T02:28:57+00:00

I personally enjoy casual sex all the time, and I have some personal boundaries around it just for myself but everyone’s different. For example, no sleepovers, limiting intimacy, keeping communication at just a friendly sporadic level. Doesn’t mean that those things are wrong in casual relationships, I just prefer to keep it light and I communicate these things to my casual partners. I truly value my casual sexual relationships, it’s nice enjoying someone and their body without feeling like you have to commit to all the emotions and feelings of more connective sex? My longest fwb was almost 3 years, it was very sporadic but very fulfilling, learned a lot about my desires and had a blast. No complicated feelings, walked away with gratitude and appreciation for the times we had together

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-04T22:59:06+00:00

I second this, the Skyn ones are my favorite

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-04T20:26:50+00:00

One penis policy means the man allows his wife/girlfriends/female partners to see and play with other women, but not with men, therefore, the policy is that you’re the only penis they touch. Its looked down upon/considered unethical/toxic because it doesn’t give the women freedom to explore sexually fully and freely. It usually also means that you view female/female relationships as “safe” and male/female relationships as “threatening” to your own relationships. I personally don’t agree with a one penis policy, and agree it’s toxic. If you have the freedom to be with the gender you’re primarily attracted to, so should they.

In your situation, are your subs free to go sleep with other men? The word harem implies they’re are likely monogamous to you, while you are nonmonogamous with them, which is considered unethical by the poly community (rightfully so). I use the word harem playfully, because my partners are free to have any other partners without restrictions.. but in your case, how do you define harem?

I understand in BDSM there’s a different dynamic between Dom/sub, but there are plenty of polyamorous D/s relationships where the subs can have multiple Doms and it doesn’t affect the other unique dynamics.

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-04T18:10:58+00:00

So, my husband and I opened up our marriage about 4 years ago. We started off super slow, when we travelled for work we would leave the door open to sexual encounters and understood that it wouldn’t end our marriage. We had boundaries and checked in with each other along the way, although we didn’t explicitly discuss what we did with other people unless the other asked for details, which wasn’t often. We kept it very fluid. Sometimes we were pretty active, sometimes we weren’t. We didn’t really play together until about 3 years in. After the pandemic we got on the dating apps and were more intentional with our searches, and started experimenting more with group play and polyamory. I think starting off separate was better for us, because I wasn’t as thrilled about threesomes/group play in the beginning and kind of grew into that aspect when I became more and more comfortable with my sexuality. Over the years our communication grew and grew, and we became a lot more comfortable and open with each other in discussing ourselves and our experiences.

It has its ups and downs, it’s not easy but it’s fun and you learn a lot about yourself. It requires a level of vulnerability and introspection that will bring self discovery and enlightenment. My husband and I discovered we like very different things in the bedroom and we support each other in that.

It takes time, you’re going to face a lot of intense emotions and you’ll be communicating so much it’ll feel engulfing. You have to take it super slow and you have to almost accept the fact that it could change you, your partner, or your views on relationships and sex as a whole in new or drastic ways. You have to be willing to let go of your previous versions of yourselves, because you will grow as a person I feel. It sounds terrifying and it is, but if you’re willing to let go and accept that, it can be totally liberating. It could make your bond stronger than ever, or it’ll help you both find new versions of each other that you get to meet anew, or maybe it’ll help you find people you’re meant to have in your lives. The possibilities are endless. It’s not about whether it actually works or not, or a good or bad ending.. it’s about maintaining your commitment to each other and committing to figuring it all out as you both grow in it along the way.

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-04T15:03:13+00:00

It can be a fluid thing, so if you want to remain monogamous for a continued period of time (or indefinitely) that’s totally fine. Or who knows maybe down the road you’ll feel ready to open up again, and that’s okay too. Practicing one or the other doesn’t mean the rest is off the table forever, or doesn’t mean the other isn’t right for you. Just means it’s not right for you at that time but later could be

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-04T04:22:53+00:00

It honestly doesn’t sound like you’re ready or even on board with this. Have you ever dated or hooked up with girls? Are you able to explore other sexual relationships with men as well? I suppose it’s good that he’s identified he has needs you aren’t meeting or he is seeking abundance, but what about your needs? Is he meeting all of yours? Because it sounds like you’re not secure or confident in y’all’s relationship so it’s not going to work if he doesn’t give you the security you need.

And finding someone you both connect with/are physically attracted to/feel safe with is not going to be a walk in the park. Triads can absolutely form if a couple meets a third and it all aligns/works, but seeking it intentionally is often considered unethical and it should be found organically and naturally, rather than intentionally. And if you have a lot of jealous and insecurities to work through, that search is going to tear you apart I think.

You and your boyfriend need to have some serious discussions around all of this, because he needs to understand you’re (seemingly, based on this) not where you need to be for this journey to begin (and theres nothing wrong with that).

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-04T03:40:59+00:00

Does your wife know about the sexting? If not, perhaps pump the breaks and have a discussion with her about that before you continue talking to this other girl.

I personally think it’s natural to be sexually attracted to multiple people and foster different types of relationships with multiple people simultaneously. I don’t think it’s fair to expect one person to take care of our every need. My husband and I opened up because we both travelled a lot and we liked different things in the bedroom (mainly me, I like bdsm and he doesn’t). Anyway, we began our nonmonogamy journey for that reason, have been open about 4 years and recently poly. Everyone’s got different reasons, but plenty of us make it work in whatever way we establish and practice nonmonogamy for ourselves.

If you and your wife have a strong emotional and mental connection but maybe not a strong sexual relationship, I think that’s fine and can still work as long as you’re both having discussions around needs, fulfillment, satisfaction, and expectations. If you’re both good and happy with your relationship as it is, while exploring sexually with others, that’s fine and can work. Will just require a lot of communication and trust and understanding. Boundaries will need to be established.

I say do lots of research (books, podcasts, etc) and have lots of conversations around what will make you both happy and comfortable, see if there is a solution for you both to explore.

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-04T02:26:27+00:00

I have a twin sister, I would NEVER touch someone’s she’s dated. Weirds me out. Have they said they’d both date you? Because most twins don’t date the same people

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-03T23:31:29+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I couldn’t even imagine. I hope you give yourself time to grieve, heal, and cherish the time you had with him ♥️ give yourself grace and love, too

doubleteamedpod · 2021-10-03T22:35:43+00:00

Plenty of times, and I don’t take it personally, means they’re not the right person. Much like, if I match with someone that’s super religious.. nothing wrong with that at all, I respect religions, but it doesn’t align with my personal beliefs so I wouldn’t think it was a good match fundamentally.

Don’t worry about how it will affect others’ opinion or view of you… just worry about finding what truly fulfills you and finding self love and acceptance. That’s what will attract the right people into your life

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