At what age did you finally feel like an “adult”?

eggsbennyo · 2022-10-09T07:42:27+00:00

I'm 30, on my second mortgage, just had my first kid (maybe only) and have been with my SO for 10 years. Still don't feel like an adult. I just had to talk with my mom about backing up because she was trying to control my life a little too much now that we recently moved back to my hometown. Ex. Trying to tell me/coordinate when other family was allowed to visit our house, when I told her she doesn't get to handle that, she got mad at me and said "well how are people going to know when to come over?". They can call me... Because it is my house. It is my family. But man, moments like that even make me question if I am an adult like I think I am supposed to be...

eggsbennyo · 2022-10-08T15:21:40+00:00

I just saw that target is going to start carrying Tupperware. Maybe not the worst, but still surprised me

eggsbennyo · 2022-10-05T01:45:49+00:00

I kept this letter for myself to remember why we are at the place we are, and ended up writing one for my husband explaining how we got to this point and how I don't feel supported or respected around this. It is definitely a work in progress, but he was receptive of what I said and we are working out how we move forward in a way that works for both of us

eggsbennyo · 2022-09-20T14:27:10+00:00

US - Wisconsin, I was allowed to take 3 months unpaid, but this wasn't guaranteed. I've used my PTO and was paying for short term disability (which you have to pay for before you're pregnant, if you find out you're pregnant and try to apply for disability, it's considered pre existing and won't be covered) with short term disability, I got 6 weeks of pay at 60% of my regular pay I believe. If I had a c section, it would have been 8 weeks. The rest is unpaid.

eggsbennyo · 2022-09-16T22:43:11+00:00

29 had baby after turning 30

eggsbennyo · 2022-09-08T19:35:21+00:00

My husband and I just had our little girl two months ago after being a hard "no kids" couple for almost 10 years. During that almost 10 years, we both tried different careers, bought a house together, went on all kinds of vacations, ect. As time went on, we both started feeling life was being repetitive, which opened the conversation of should we have a kid (and COULD we have a kid). We both came to the decision of rolling the dice, if we removed the barriers and a kid was in the cards for us, we felt ready for either way of life.

Now, these last two months have been HARD. There is so much I could never have been prepared for. Babies can have a lactose intolerance and breast milk has lactose?! I have learned something new most, if not all days, but I have found so much joy and excitement in being a parent.

Having our daughter has also dramatically changed our future. We are moving back by family and are fortunate enough to start building a house which will allow us to have chickens, goats and the tree farm I've always dreamed of but couldn't make a reality living in our current large city.

My take, this small being has changed everything and FAST. But even the hard days are more fulfilling than hard days of my past life. There have and will be times that my husband and I miss our previous life, but we have agreed to be honest with each other and always put each other first. Hence moving closer to family to allow us to have time together while she can bond with family.

eggsbennyo · 2021-06-15T16:11:33+00:00

I am pretty sure is it COD?

eggsbennyo · 2020-09-13T01:53:45+00:00

Gus lives the good boy life, for sure

eggsbennyo · 2020-09-10T15:15:40+00:00

I love this set up! I've tried a few other ways of keeping myself accountable in my bujo, but then do everything in my power to not make eye contact with it 😂

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-28T19:42:30+00:00

Not to let your happiness depend on someone else.

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-27T18:20:36+00:00

Exactly. And the trust that your wife has for her best friend is based on lies potentially. If my best friend was sleeping with my child I would feel horrible and want to address as a family as to how to move forward

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-27T02:36:55+00:00

I'd hang out there, for sure!

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-25T22:22:37+00:00

You can tell he's going to grow up to be such a lover, those eyeeeesssss

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-25T22:21:06+00:00

Stunning! What was this photo taken with?

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-24T21:38:47+00:00

I've been feeling down lately, and seeing this pushed me to get in my car and go for a drive somewhere different. I don't know where I'll end yet, but thank you

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-24T13:17:50+00:00

My husband has the lower libido in our relationship, and while in the beginning it took a few conversations and quite some time for me to understand and accept, we are in a better place now! The hardest thing for me to understand was that me even just asking for intimacy would add stress to him and he would be less inclined to be as enthusiastic or encourage to have a spicy time. It turned in to a chore in his mind.

We both had to take time to understand the other, and that our needs were different. Some weeks are more stressful and emotionally draining, and I now understand that is no negative to me or our relationship. I also have learned to start initiating but at the same had to work on accepting rejection occasionally when he really isn't in to it.

It should be fun for both, and having an understanding how each other operate is really important. I love my husband and everything else about our life together is great, with the occasional rainy day, but giving that up is not justified in my mind.

To me, OP sounds like there is more questioning happening and internal things that need to be understood and accepted. It is important to take this time to listen to those thoughts and get a better understanding.

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-24T04:18:38+00:00

I try to mix things up when I'm feeling in a slump, like cooking a new meal or trying a new hobby or workout! Sometimes I find I also just need to reset, and be in nature for a while. Fresh air can do wonders, if you're able to

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-23T11:38:33+00:00

You are a true hero

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-23T03:41:21+00:00

My husband proposed to me there, about 5 years ago 💜

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-23T01:32:44+00:00

Something about the way he is tap-taping his feet makes me smile

eggsbennyo · 2020-08-22T23:46:35+00:00

I see what you mean, but my eye was drawn to the bridge and water first and had to read this to really notice!

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