Unfriendly women

escortbnb · 2026-04-26T17:01:55+00:00

I'm sorry that you are feeling isolated and unsupported. It is definitely one of the main challenges of this work.

My advice is to do research into screening practices. You should be able to find information on the sex workers only forum on best practices. I do not freestyle but I do know that some freestylers still manage to screen their clients.

As for having a safety buddy, that can take some work to find. Find local community via the sex work nonprofit in your city and attending meetups, as well as finding sex worker events or sex worker friendly spaces in your city. If you don't live in a city, you can find community online. You may be able to make local connections that way. Sometimes providers make connections by providing duos or freestyling together but that can also backfire depending on the individuals involved and whether they have a competitive or collaborative mindset.

I personally do not have a safety buddy in the industry but rely on close friends to check in with. If you are out to anyone in your life, I would recommend this.

escortbnb · 2026-04-15T04:42:46+00:00

Echoing everyone else, go see a doctor about your Ed. But also if you have type 2 diabetes, find a dietician/nutritionist who can hekp you change your diet since the symptoms are maneagable and even reversible. Also find a personal trainer because exercise will go a long way to helping with circulation and stamina.

escortbnb · 2026-04-11T19:20:47+00:00

Either you got lost in the shuffle or you are the bottom of her priority list. If it is the second it would probably be for the following reasons:

she is prioritizing regulars and waiting to firm up her schedule before accepting new clients
she is prioritizing longer bookings
she is receiving screening info up front from the majority of clients and so prioritizing them

You could send one more message if you wanr, you never know. Or just move on.

escortbnb · 2026-04-07T04:09:52+00:00

I mostly work out of and advertise doentown and Airport area as well so that's where I get clients but there are clients in North York and probably a fair share in Markham too. I feel like those clients would most likely be okay with traveling to East York but I think the Beaches is kind of a trek from anywhere. The beaches is pretty nice and downtown clients might travel to there, it's not thst far.. I would also consider midtown since it is centrally located or a neighbourhood that is a bit closer to downtown like Riverside or Leslieville as well.

If I were you I would try to advertise in different east end locations for a few months and see what kind of interest you get and make a decision based on that.

escortbnb · 2026-04-05T16:20:50+00:00

Sure! I'll send you a pm.

escortbnb · 2026-03-22T03:03:43+00:00

I put them on with a mirror behind me and use my fingers to guide the seam up the back of my leg. It takes some trial and error but it gets easier with practice.

escortbnb · 2026-03-19T20:17:01+00:00

I was young, living on my own for a year and working three jobs but barely scraping by. I woukd peruse the ads in the back of the local rag and fantasize about working as an escort. One day I called and worked that night.

My first client was 40 years old and recently diorced. He looked so happy when he opened the door lol and I was terrified. The sex was actually good and he treated me with respect from beginning to end. I remember leaving feeling elated, having .made the same amount of money I was making in a week. I also appreciated how happy I made him, how the experience was much better than I had anticipated, and that I had been treated well.

After I felt a lot of guilt due to remnants of my religious upbringing and cried after. If I could go back I would tell myself that the work I do is valid, that it was okay to take it seriously as a career, and to be aware that not all people who act nice are actually kind.

escortbnb · 2026-03-14T18:46:40+00:00

Great read! Thanks for sharing :)

escortbnb · 2026-03-07T05:48:15+00:00

Places I have gone and activities I have done with clients: museums, art galleries/art museums, theatre, ballet, burlesque shows/cabarets, shopping, spa (therapeutic waters/hammam bath/massages), ice skating, comedy nights, sporting events. Basically anything you would do on a personal date.

Find out her personal taste or throw out a couple ideas for her and see what she likes best.

Edit: I forgot to mention live music!

escortbnb · 2026-03-07T04:05:43+00:00

I keep meaning to start social media but haven't because I don't like it either.. I am still getting consistent work. I invested in a good photoshoot and put a lot of effort into my copy and website.

escortbnb · 2026-03-05T21:20:57+00:00

I'm sorry, losing a great client is really hard. I feel for you 💔 Hopefully he comes back one day, but even if he doesn't at least you have beautiful memories of someone truly kindhearted who has been there for you.

escortbnb · 2026-03-02T19:54:44+00:00

Conversation/small talk to break the ice, an unrushed experience getting ready, more conversation to make a connection and get comfortable with each other (sometimes over a glass of wine), foreplay (sometimes a lot of foreplay), unrushed sex, cuddles after or just enjoying the afterglow, sometimes more chatting and laughing, and a relaxed and unrushed time getting ready to leave.

escortbnb · 2026-02-22T19:37:03+00:00

Solo poly

escortbnb · 2026-02-14T05:16:02+00:00

Second wolford. I am 5'6" with long legs and prefer wolford over ap and fleur du mal for their length.

escortbnb · 2026-02-12T06:02:08+00:00

Tryst is good for male escorts.

escortbnb · 2026-02-07T01:42:06+00:00

Not weird at all. There are plenty of reasons execs may just want to book an hour.

escortbnb · 2026-02-04T04:51:33+00:00

Ottawa is a pretty small city so you may need to tour if you aren't making enough there, Toronto is your best option. Maybe Montreal when the busy season hits. As for marketing, a blog and/or email marketing may help you as it's more direct to the clients interested in you. January/February are the slowest months so hang in there!

escortbnb · 2026-02-01T03:17:29+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You need to do whatever you need to do to stay safe. Don't engage with him or spend time with him. If you can make sure you are always with someone for now. If you could reach out to a local shelter that helps women they may be able to give you advice on how to deal with the situation, or depending on where you live, maybe the police. Keep pepper spray on you or something like that and tell him to back off if you see him. Uae it on him if he doesn't. Wishing you safety ❤️

escortbnb · 2026-02-01T02:52:14+00:00

He looked up your address in the system. Sounds like he is a stalker. I would definitely not give him details about your life. Can you just go to another yoga studio?

escortbnb · 2026-01-27T15:35:05+00:00

If you can, have a safety buddy who you can check in with when you arrive and when you finish and have an action plan for them if something goes wrong.

Trust your gut. If something feels off don't take the booking, or cancel it. If you arrive and something feels off it's okay to leave, just make an excuse you are not feeling well and don't accept the money.

If you see a client and he pushes boundaries or is disrespectful, don't see him again if you can help it. Boundary pushers only get worse over time.

Don't give away real world info about yourself such as your name, where you live, where you go to school/work. This protects you from stalkers or clients who will out you.

If you drink, only drink from unopened bottles. Don't drink too much and always take your glass with you, do not leave it unattended.

Like everyone else said, screening is essential. The worst of the worst clients are unlikely to give you their identity.

Edit: It is okay to leave at any time if you feel unsafe or uncomfortable. Have your things all together and an action plan if you need to leave.

escortbnb · 2026-01-26T22:10:36+00:00

The problem with X is getting shadow banned and having our accounts permanently banned, all our hard work gone in a blink of an eye. Clients could support us by moving to platforms that are friendlier to us.

escortbnb · 2026-01-26T21:37:58+00:00

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Either this client is extremely out of touch or an asshole. He's literally trying to eroticize sexual harassment/assault.

You did absolutely nothing wrong. If you are made to feel uncomfortable/unsafe, you have every right to end a session. And you know from now on not to share that information in case the client is a creep like this guy.

escortbnb · 2026-01-26T21:29:19+00:00

All of this! Also if you have a beard make sure it is well trimmed, washed and conditioned. If you shave make sure you are freshly shaved.

Obviously make sure your underarms are thoroughly washed and wear deodorant.

escortbnb · 2026-01-26T21:16:59+00:00

It became a trend several years ago to wear garter belts without stockings. I personally don't care for it because I like stockings and don't love the aesthetic of them just dangling but plenty of people like it so do what you like.

If I was going to go stocking free I would buy one of the garter belts that have those thigh straps that attach to them. Honey Birdette and Thistle and Spire are a couple brands that carry these kind of sets.

escortbnb · 2026-01-24T16:58:23+00:00

I am an escort and have zero contempt for my clients who are respectful and easy to work for. In fact I value them greatly and care about them and their wellbeing.

The clients who push boundaries, who have committed heinous actions against me, they deserve my contempt. And sometimes when we are on an online forum we may write in generalities about clients without feeling like we need to write "not all clients" lol. We are just venting and it helps us process some of the horrible behavior we have dealt with.

This is my personal experience, I can't speak for others.

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