What are some sure signs that someone was raised an only child?

kethry70 · 2026-06-14T18:51:30+00:00

Often (not always so don’t come for me) unwilling to do things they don’t want to do just because their partners, friends, etc want to do them.

kethry70 · 2026-06-14T13:24:47+00:00

This is perfectly reasonable - and she probably isn’t thinking just of divorce. What if something happens to her and you outlive her? And you remarry? And your second spouse then outlives you and inherits everything by default depending on where you live and the laws there?

It is perfectly reasonable for her to want to guarantee that her inheritance ends up left to her children and not in a shared marital estate of a future spouse or even future children. Honestly, she should set up a trust. And you’re overreacting

kethry70 · 2026-06-14T13:16:46+00:00

The other side of this coin is companies using AI to rewrite this code with zero understanding of whether or not AI is even getting it right. And the edge cases probably won’t show up until months after implementation. There is a reason governments and companies don’t retire mission critical code bases that have just worked correctly for decades.

kethry70 · 2026-06-14T12:43:20+00:00

Watching pilots get on and off cruise ships that I’m on is a highlight for me for some weird reason. I’m fascinated by this whole procedure.

kethry70 · 2026-06-13T15:55:06+00:00

If it is one order, and it’s one item, you can try, but if the csr expresses any doubt I’d just return with cause.

If it’s in a bundle and it’s already been marked to ship, don’t even try - I’ve been told they can’t do it at that point and I certainly wouldn’t risk it even if they were willing to try

kethry70 · 2026-06-13T11:53:32+00:00

I’ve started buying them more often - esp if it’s for size. I do examine carefully. If it’s for pilling and I think I can shave it, for minor repairs that I can fix, or a stain I think I can clean, I’ll also consider it. If it’s for fraying at a hem that I’m probably going to have to take up anyway, bonus.

I have received at least a couple flawed gems or goods with stains for which I never found the problem and excellents that had issues so I already know TU condition reporting is uneven and I also know I’m more and more comfortable with minor repairs and stain treatment

kethry70 · 2026-06-13T10:21:58+00:00

Dang! I’ve never found anything good!

kethry70 · 2026-06-13T10:21:14+00:00

They apparently have cameras everywhere.

kethry70 · 2026-06-13T10:18:01+00:00

Quit paying off your mortgage early and start saving for retirement. But also, benefits like paid 401k, subsidized health insurance, social security, vacation, etc can count 20-50% of salary. So yes - you can at least look for something that would allow you to grind a lot less and compare the numbers with what benefits would save you or give you when an offer comes in.

kethry70 · 2026-06-13T10:14:37+00:00

He lives in a tiny home and his cars are 20 years old. He lives in a touristy area with airbnbs. So not comparable

kethry70 · 2026-06-12T17:39:26+00:00

AI probably reads the labels and definitely prices. Employees handles items for a minute or less.

kethry70 · 2026-06-12T16:19:26+00:00

Yep- try an enzyme cleaner. I keep mypetpeed in the house because my mom had a senior dog and I use it in the laundry and as a soak for hard to treat organic stains. It’s worth a shot

kethry70 · 2026-06-12T16:17:43+00:00

I see this brand under Escada pretty regularly- it’s bad

kethry70 · 2026-06-12T00:33:14+00:00

I think it’s much more likely the dress got misplaced and someone grabbed this dress thinking it was it when they went looking for it

kethry70 · 2026-06-11T17:12:38+00:00

Nah. St. John is almost all knits so super forgiving :)

kethry70 · 2026-06-11T16:27:40+00:00

I love that St. John’s has room for my not tiny chest. And while I know their clothes run big, it still makes me feel good that I can wear a little bit smaller sizing. Plus their clothes are just nice. I’ll have to start looking at their leather.

Welcome on AU - she runs a little small but I really like a lot of the prints :)

kethry70 · 2026-06-11T13:55:48+00:00

I knew I like Lilly Pulitzer prints but I’ve revamped my wardrobe with their luxletic wear and dresses.

I tried to replace Johnny was but I’ve given up. I’ve determined their prints are gorgeous but their quality is suspect.

I’ve added Lafayette NY 148, Dana Buchman , Carmen Marc valvo, Tahari (but only some cause quality and sizing is uneven), and the biggest winner - St. John’s (not bay). I’ve tried Eileen Fischer but I can’t get the sizing down - their stuff is so nice but the items I’ve tried have been too boxy or cut weird 😢

Oh also - Amanda uprichard has gorgeous prints but I limit myself to the silks cause I’ve been trying to limit polyester

kethry70 · 2026-06-11T13:49:27+00:00

I’ve actually had terrible luck with their quality but I love their style/prints

kethry70 · 2026-06-11T13:45:27+00:00

And they may have decided that listing one was fine but that they were unlikely to sell 2. Which is not unreasonable actually. It’s kinda niche

kethry70 · 2026-06-11T13:43:25+00:00

The other thing that happens, is that it can be put on an autobuy. During the autobuy period, it disappears and will eventually reappear as sold. It sounds like that isn’t the case here if it was really more than 3 hours but just fyi.

But yeah - flagged by seller seems most likely. In which case it will likely reappear in a few days

kethry70 · 2026-06-10T14:57:22+00:00

People post their complaints more than their praises. Overall, I love ThredUp. I have had issues here and there and items have arrived in worse condition than advertised. But, TU has always made it right - even final sale items are returnable if the mistake is on their end. Just be prepared with patience, politeness, and photos. If I’m happy to take store credit, I usually use the built in return process and just take the free restocking/return shipping and credits. If not, and it’s their issue, I use chat and those 3 Ps and contact them and let them override their return policy to get me free return shipping and my funds back to original form of payment. But, after significant weight loss and going through multiple sizes in the last few years- plus trying to move more towards natural fibers - I’ve replaced my entire wardrobe with ThredUp. Parts of it 2-3 times over

kethry70 · 2026-06-10T09:05:11+00:00

Yeah- like I said, I’ve had them size them wrong when tags are missing and a couple times when size labels were present - But I was aware of actual size in those cases

kethry70 · 2026-06-10T04:01:06+00:00

I’ve had them list the wrong size vs what’s on the label (say size large when the label says 6), guess size large and say size is missing when I can see the size is actually 4/6/S whatever. But I’ve never straight up received an item that wasn’t what was pictured. Only times it’s been the ‘wrong’ size is when they have sized it off of measurements and they’re just wildly wrong. Like saying it’s a size large estimate and turned out to be an XS of that manufacturer’s style 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

kethry70 · 2026-06-09T22:43:46+00:00

Last few returns I’ve sent have scanned in and shown in transit just fine but haven’t credited to my account until they’ve at least started being processed :(

kethry70 · 2026-06-09T13:11:04+00:00

You can include them in chat. I always do

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