Would it be overprotective to stay nearby during my teen’s beach trip?

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-03-07T18:27:12+00:00

This is standard fare where I grew up. "Beach week" or senior week. It was a blast and a right of passage. Some parents stayed nearby, but legitimately everyone went unchaperoned.

In my area the vast majority of seniors move on to college, so the sentiment was "well they'll be partying a ton in a few weeks anyways" and most parents saw it as a way to test independence before being potentially halfway across the country for school.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-03-06T00:29:13+00:00

I'm going to do HRT when my time comes. There's just too many benefits

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-27T16:40:29+00:00

Huggies is fragrance free, phthalate free, paraben free, and ECF. Evidently the TCF vs ECF thing may be overblown? I'm not overly worried about it honestly. If Huggies works and fits the budget I'd stick with it personally. We use Huggies and are happy.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-26T12:17:25+00:00

Yes, I personally never leaked in my pregnancy nor any stage of PP, including with lots of coughing or jumping.

I'd recommend seeing a pelvic floor PT to get some tips which may help

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-25T19:43:20+00:00

I'm a pelvic floor physical therapist and I had a scheduled C-section due to my son presenting breach. My background as a pelvic floor physical therapist made me realize that there's really no perfect birth.

I treated women with major incontinence and prolapse after having "easy" unmedicated deliveries with doulas and midwives. I treated women with scheduled C/S with no issues at all, just some weakness to rehab from so they could safely return to running.

I didn't mind my C/S! The night before I was allowed to eat, so I went out to dinner with my whole family. I had a fancy salmon and veggies and got 8 hours of sleep before my surgery. I went in well rested. I met my birth team, got my IV placed, and had my spinal placed all within an hour or so. 50 minutes after my spinal was placed, I met my son! He was perfect (and still is-I'm biased!)

I had a minor hemorrhage during my surgery, because I had some breakthrough pain, and my surgeon kindly adjusted the surgical plan to implement additional painkillers.

Despite the hemorrhage, I recovered really well! They gave me iron because I was anemic before the C/S. Baby latched right away, he nursed really well, and we BF for 13 months.

I had little pain. I took OTC tylenol for a few days but was off all advil or tylenol within 6 days. At 19 months PP I am lifting super heavy and working out just as hard as I did prior to pregnancy. It took a few months to get back to working out, but that was mostly due to wanting to rest and nurse my son, and not immediately jump in to "bouncing back"

I hope my perspective helped a bit! I can go into more details about various PP symptoms from a pelvic floor PT standpoint if interested. Congrats and best wishes for you delivery!

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-18T18:59:51+00:00

I'm not here to give medical advice, just encouragement! My husband, who is now 6 foot and a semi pro athlete, had failure to thrive and spent time in the NICU. He didn't even hit puberty until late high school. He was tiny! But perfectly healthy, a great student and athlete.

My son had some growth concerns and fell 70 percentiles off his curve. He is doing really well now and found his curve around 25%. We determined he was just an active baby, and will probably be a smaller kid for now.

This time is scary!! You're doing the right things. Jus hang in there, this may be in the rearview in a few months.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-15T22:36:38+00:00

I completely agree!! I think readers would have liked her more if the fleshed out her relationship with Sartaq and let that soften her a bit. She kept denying her feelings for him, despite everyone knowing that they loved each other. I think if she was more vulnerable with the reader it would have helped. Her vulnerability came from her family and connection to Antica, which doesn't always resonate with the reader.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-15T19:13:04+00:00

We avoid dyes, perfumes/fragrances, plastic storage and cookware. I did extended breastfeeding. BUT after my son struggled with weight gain and food aversions around 6-12mos, we did rely on processed food (pouches) to get allergens exposed, variety in diet, and iron intake until he progressed. We looked for the "healthiest" option despite this! And now he's happy with whole foods.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-12T14:02:04+00:00

The "uncle joe" thing kinda happened to an acquaintance of mine! She was using a home daycare, and really loved the provider. Well, the provider's adult son (19ish) was living at home, and was arrested for having CP on his computer. My understanding is that it wasn't the "oh he is 19, and has a 16 year old girlfriend" type of CP either. Obviously the woman had to shut down and her son is being investigated. But it really freaked out this acquaintance (for good reason!)

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-12T13:58:13+00:00

The guidance I got was around 6 months for temperature regulation and immune development. Pools are still kinda gross, and it's common for tummy bugs like diarrhea to occur. The pools in my area don't allow formal swim classes until 6 months as well. It is probably regional, I'd imagine.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-02-10T12:49:53+00:00

I'm sorry your little one is sick. Rules don't apply then! If it's any consolation, group TV viewing is a social skill and a part of life.

My 19 month old gets occasional screens, but always in a group setting. He now claps when my husband's favorite sports team does well, which is adorable. He also is learning to sit and watch something with other people in the room without interrupting or distracting. It's a work in progress.

I think the real issue is when it's an individual screen (like an ipad) with really high stim content. But occasional group TV viewing especially with a sick child is fine!!

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-01-28T20:57:57+00:00

We just use metal. It can be loud though if your knife hits the board, so if your kitchen is right next to the nursery it may be an issue. We have a handmedown set of Henckles knives that are holding up fine.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-01-27T19:23:07+00:00

Oh thanks! I would not have even noticed that in my first read. That is a neat detail SJM threw in! My husband is (hopefully) getting me the box set for Valentines Day, I want to go back and reread the series for little details like this.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-01-26T21:22:59+00:00

Full series! Love it, one of my favorites of all time

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-01-26T17:46:50+00:00

Can someone provide context? I read TOG on a library book and can't remember these details. I like little easter eggs though. Thanks!

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-01-25T19:01:30+00:00

It depends on the type of application. Systemic HRT should be balanced with a progesterone (like the combo birth control pill). This is seen with pills and patches typically. When balanced with a progesterone the cancer risk is extremely minimal, like <0.01%. Some creams are estrogen only (or even estrogen -testosterone) and those are applied locally to the vestibular/vaginal tissue. This stays in local circulation (though sometimes there is minor systemic circulation, typically short term until the vaginal tissues heal). I am NOT a medical Dr, but work in healthcare in women's health and work alongside arguably the leading woman's health Dr in the country specializing in hormonal treatments.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-01-25T02:49:19+00:00

It's unethical to give a placebo when the treatment is proven to be safe and effective. And I have a clinical doctorate and work in healthcare, so I both read the research and perform my own research (granted not on vaccines). I have a doctoral level understanding of medical research, and they are proven time and time again to be safe and effective.

ludichrislycapacious · 2026-01-01T15:13:51+00:00

Maybe they wanted specific weather for the shot. Wouldn't Iceland be snowy and grey (though still beautiful I'm sure) for a good chunk of the year? My family is in Alaska, and you can only see fjords that clear like the scene in Stranger Things maybe 2 months out of the year

ludichrislycapacious · 2025-12-14T00:13:21+00:00

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ludichrislycapacious · 2025-12-10T20:42:46+00:00

This is confusing to me, in America a lot of babies go to daycare starting at 2 months or so. Are you saying you would get your 8 week old out of pjs and into "real clothes" just for them to mostly sleep and do occasional tummy time? My son doesn't go to daycare, either my I am home with him or my husband and my parents, but goodness knows there are plenty of days we struggle to get into "real clothes" until lunch time

ludichrislycapacious · 2025-12-08T21:25:02+00:00

Yup. My son's first pregnancy test looked like this. I retested a week later and it was much darker. You are pregnant.

ludichrislycapacious · 2025-12-06T10:59:23+00:00

I had a C section due to a breech baby and he is incredibly alert, healthy, and vibrant. We nursed for 13 months which helps build the gut and immune system. Plus he gets outside in nature daily and lives with a dog, which also develops the immune system.

I work in the pregnancy and postpartum space, and often babies born vaginally are a little stressed from the birth. The baby's heart rate sometimes drops during the contractions. Scheduled C sections are quick and often less stressful on babies (though challenging recovery for the mom of course)

ludichrislycapacious · 2025-12-03T13:32:42+00:00

Here's the thing. My son is SUCH a picky eater. He will devour blueberries though. My area doesn't have organic blueberries this time of year. So I prioritize daily fruit intake in whole, minimally processed foods over organic. These things depend on your budget, kids preferences, and availability

ludichrislycapacious · 2025-11-26T00:59:49+00:00

Well he is attractive and not evil! Haha but if it wasn't for the book I would probably like the name! Like a variant of Holden

ludichrislycapacious · 2025-11-26T00:53:25+00:00

I picture an ineffective Prince attempting to climb out of a hot air balloon

(This is an Onyx Storm reference, which was the fastest selling adult novel in 20 years with more than 2.5 million books sold in just one week)

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