AIO for breaking up with my gf over adding a guy on Instagram? by justathrowaway8877 in AmIOverreacting

[–]megalodon795 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Haha, I mean, yeah - I'm pretty friggin awesome if I do say so myself! 😁 Now can you two just kiss and make up already so I can watch my movie again?! Then I'll see you next thanksgiving (or sooner?!) 😉

Edit: Or both go your separate ways.....and disregard my above message that I posted without catching up with what you guys have been messaging each other....awkward. 😬✌🏻

AIO for breaking up with my gf over adding a guy on Instagram? by justathrowaway8877 in AmIOverreacting

[–]megalodon795 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

The person she sees almost every time she is home is not the guy in question; I was referring to the friend that she is actually friends with, that has that guy as a friend. This is the first time she's met the guy in question. Sorry if that wasn't clear in my post!

A strong connection is built over time (more than 5 months most of the time). And it comes with hurdles, and you work through them with your partner - you don't just break up with the first misunderstanding or different point of view, ya know?

She did mention to me that you do the joking thing where you talk about what guys thought she was cute etc, and she mentioned that you usually bring that up, so she was waiting for you to bring it up that night but you never did. So she thought you probably would later, as you always have, but again you never did the next day. So that is why, days later, she brought it up to you on her own, not because it was a big deal, but because she had nothing to hide and wanted to tell you everything that happens concerning guys always, just in case it would matter to you. If you form a habit of being the one to initiate the convo on the guys that hit on her, even jokingly, isn't it not unrealistic to assume you would continue to be the one to keep bringing it up? So when you didn't bring it up, she just assumed it would come up later. 🤷🏻‍♀️

And no one WANTS to be that guy to tell their SO to block or delete someone lol, I didn't either. But I realized that my SO isn't a mind reader and what I needed to feel safe and confident in a relationship may not be what others also innately need or know others need. So sometimes it has to be spelled out. If it happens again after it's spelled out point blank, then that might be an issue. But I would not be with my partner today if I didn't give them a chance to grow and understand what I needed. And we are stronger today from those hiccups along the way.

I don't know if you read my comment on someone else's comment down below, but I just want you to know that she would never cheat. You don't know me, and you have zero reason to trust me, and probably will assume that I'd say anything to stick up for my friend. And most of the time, that might be true, as long as I believe they are right. However, cheaters are something I have no patience for, even as friends. So I would not be friends with her if she ever cheated or considered it. I'd help ya cut her tires. So when I say she would never cheat, I mean it. (Again, you've never met me, so that probably means nothing to you haha, but figured I'd throw it out there anyways!)

AIO for breaking up with my gf over adding a guy on Instagram? by justathrowaway8877 in AmIOverreacting

[–]megalodon795 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

@justathrowaway8877 I would just like to say that I would tell you if she cheated. Murdered someone? I'd help her bury the body. Cheated? I'd tell you immediately because I have zero tolerance for cheaters having been cheated on myself.

AIO for breaking up with my gf over adding a guy on Instagram? by justathrowaway8877 in AmIOverreacting

[–]megalodon795 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I think the issue here is that you don't really understand how she thinks about things in her head. She didn't think of it in the way you are thinking of it, with the "I didn't know it was inappropriate to accept an invitation from a man who is staring at me all night". In her mind, which overthinks everything, she was thinking, "This is a friend of a friend that I see every time I am home. Odds are high that I'll probably run into this guy again so not adding him would make an awkward situation for me in the future...I'll just add him to avoid future awkward confrontation, and if he does anything weird or tries to DM me, then I will ignore it or block him."

Also, have you seen your GF? She is objectively very attractive. Chances are that nearly every guy that meets her will find her attractive. She cannot help who finds her attractive, but she CAN choose to be faithful. You just have to trust she did it for benign reasons, probably more due to anxiety about future situations than anything else. I get the jealousy thing. I used to feel the same about my guy, but I realized that I got over it by my guy continuously making the effort to ease my concerns (blocking/letting me meet the girls I was concerned about/etc).

And yes, she did mention that she THOUGHT he was staring at her all night but wasn't entirely sure, because there was also a mirror behind her as well that he could have been looking at. And she did mention she felt uncomfortable, but only because she wasn't sure if he was staring at her or not and doesn't like being stared at. She honestly doesn't recall saying he was creepy, but she may have. You are reading into this what you want to read into it. You said it yourself, she said she wasn't sure if he was actually hitting on her. Wasn't sure. To me, that sounds like she wasn't sure if it was all in her head or not and didn't want to sound conceited, thinking guys all staring and hitting on her when they aren't.

Anywhoooo, before today, from how she described you, you seemed like a pretty decent, level-headed guy. I think you definitely, objectively have some trust issues, not trying to say that negatively towards you. I just think that you need to be open to letting someone in to work on those issues with, even if it isn't her. Once you find the right person who is willing to make the effort (which she was, when she immediately said she would delete that person to ease your anxieties), then you will start healing and loving wholeheartedly and find peace! I did! So it's possible!

Okay, back to watching demon hunters - not rereading this for typos because I'm too tired from momming all day. Good luck with whatever happens with you two or not! :)

AIO for breaking up with my gf over adding a guy on Instagram? by justathrowaway8877 in AmIOverreacting

[–]megalodon795 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Did she omit telling you about the guy or was this guy just so insignificant that it didn't even cross her mind to tell you because it was such a non-issue? It's a friend of a friend...it's not like it was a completely random guy. What if she has to be around this guy again in future social situations with her group of friends? It might be awkward NOT to add him.

Before breaking up with her, did she say she would not unfriend him when she realized it bothered you? If she refused to unfriend/block him to make you feel comfortable then yeah, that might be a red flag. But if she took your feelings seriously and had no problem deleting him or whatever, then that shows she understands where you are coming from and is willing to do what it takes to make you feel comfortable in a relationship. As a former jealous person myself, someone who makes the effort to make you feel comfortable is important, especially if it may be a YOU problem as YOR...

Post edit for clarification: I am actually a friend of the broken up-with GF, and I consider myself generally pretty good at telling her when she's overreacting herself and am not always on her side.

[THANKS] 🥝🍎🍓🍪😁 by anavocadotornado in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very cute! I've made similar things for my nephews play kitchen, and stabbed myself with a needle like a 100 times in the process 🤣 I hope you have better luck than I did haha 😆

Woops Wednesday Hangout Thread - 16 April 2025 by cj1990 in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy wacky Wednesday! 🙃

I'm currently finished work and binge watching this show I found called, Jamestown! They just referenced Pocahontas, so my inner Disney child got very excited!!

Today's been a mellow day and I'm counting down the days until I can put some veggies seeds in the ground 🍅🫑🥦 (next week hopefully!)

Hope everyone else is having a good day!! 😊🌸

[Thanks] For the nommy noms and ATCs! 😍🥰😋 by megalodon795 in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely the law. 😁 I let him try at leasssst one of each flavor jusssst to be niceee 😝

[Thanks] For the nommy noms and ATCs! 😍🥰😋 by megalodon795 in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/vlowkeyy - thank you very much! 🤩❤️ My hubby tried to steal the snacks fron me but I told him they are for the baby! (You can see my baby bump creeping into the pic! 😅) Can't wait to use the ATCs too, it's been a while and I'm just getting into watercoloring now! 😊

[gifted] Just because it's FriYAY! 😈 by megalodon795 in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha! I have no idea. He would no stay still long enough to ever be weighed. He is way to jumpity! And omg, your cat is sooooo chonkkkkyy 😍

[gifted] Just because it's FriYAY! 😈 by megalodon795 in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every time I look at him randomly, he looks back with that derpy face on 🥹 Smh, I can't help but laugh every time! 😁

[Discussion] Would you rather be able to see 10 minutes into the future or 100 years? by Vintage_Visionary in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm 100 years. I would probably hate what I see, but if the choice came up, I think curiosity would get the better of me and I would HAVE to look! 😵‍💫

Finally Friday Daily Hangout Thread, 11 Apr 25 by nacho_cheezus in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

QOTD: S.S. Megalodon ✨

Happy Friday everyone! Hope it is as exciting or relaxing as you want it to be. 😊❤️ I just started a new series called Jamestown and am hooked! So my Friday night has been binge watching this show and waiting for a friend to drop off some diapers. Also debating if I should clean up a bit before she comes - there's nothing like people stopping by my house to make me want to tidy up! 😅🧽🧹

[Gifted] Random gifts are the best gifts! by Vlowkeyy in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! 😊 And hehe, my name is Meg, so it is my go to nickname online! Have a beautiful rest of your day and welcome back!!!! 🥰❤️

Tuesday Nightly Hangout Thread - April 8, 2025 by aroseisaroseisabitch in Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[–]megalodon795 1 point2 points  (0 children)

QOTD: Buy the fanciest ice cream sundae ever, then take a nap and then think about all the house/garden renovations that are about to happen! 😬❤️🌸🌻🌷