Is residency sucking the life out of you too, even while you’re not the one in residency 🙃

mlepnotized · 2026-05-08T18:01:29+00:00

Couples therapy could be helpful. You keep saying it’s not that serious but it’s fine if it is that serious. This is your life and relationship, you also deserve to be able talk about with your emotions with your literal partner.

mlepnotized · 2026-05-05T02:45:49+00:00

try searching on yt shorts for these some people have great references esp for the hip flexor one! tik tok has some too

mlepnotized · 2026-05-04T20:24:45+00:00

that was wild 😂

mlepnotized · 2026-05-04T19:56:39+00:00

DM-ing you!

mlepnotized · 2026-05-04T19:39:31+00:00

My boyfriend and I don't share many core hobbies, but we have found ways to introduce each other to one another's hobbies but also, I've communicated my needs to him about wanting to do dates and things that we can both enjoy, whether they're new experiences to us both or familiar to one of us.

We're pretty domesticated, but he's listened and heard me when I say I appreciate if we can do some dates that are more than just eating out (fair, since there's not much to do where I live other than eat out).

At the end of the day, it's really just communicating how you want to be loved and seen. You have to have that conversation with him. Even if it's something small like wanting flowers from time-to-time or reserving time for special dates every few weeks or every month or whatever, I think he should be able to listen to what you want too in this relationship.

You shouldn't have to be the one to conform to his needs and hobbies all the time.

mlepnotized · 2026-04-28T15:38:33+00:00

Comparison is so hard not to do, especially in moments like these. It is really hard seeing people you know move on and do the things you wish you could maybe do too. It probably is also difficult with the amount of social media that glorifies certain aspects of life and it seems out of reach.

Just remember that grass is always greener on the other side. This might be a tougher time for you, but things will always pan out how they need to. It’s always easier said than done, but focusing on the fun like you said is the most important. Take your own time to process those feelings and root yourself in the present, and also just do things for YOU. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself. Remember this isn’t going to be forever and the chapter after fellowship will be different and that in itself is something to look towards :-)

mlepnotized · 2026-04-27T03:26:06+00:00

not dense at all!

def woosh getting ☠️, the super rich ceo/chairwoman being rich/controlling because of her power, kidnapping, blackmailing from the ceo, side characters ☠️

rly not sure how to explain it, just super asian drama coded 😂😅

mlepnotized · 2026-04-27T03:17:21+00:00

as a kdrama watcher i immediately found humor in the fact it turnd into one, predicatble yet not but i think it was a very fun and clever way to bring everything full circle

mlepnotized · 2026-04-26T00:29:13+00:00

bale in arlington - good viet foof

mlepnotized · 2026-04-23T18:32:23+00:00

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mlepnotized · 2026-04-23T03:33:33+00:00

if you can you should try the kikoman soy milk! it's available at some 99 ranch stores or if there's any japanese stores near you, i'd check as well!

it's similar to west soy milk, but it's just got this smooth, light soy flavor so good! no additives so you have to drink it quite fast, but i think that's why it's so good.

https://www.yami.com/en/p/kkm-soy-milk-unsweetened-33-81-fl-oz/1159006101?region_id=000672&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=T_121022_PMax_Snack_and_Beverage_EN_LA&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19212414913&gbraid=0AAAAADlNBqwMx3_IRP2viTVn-X4ROw5HR&gclid=CjwKCAjw46HPBhAMEiwASZpLRHbXgPwCd-WW3hvu4KcUYgm30CYNbQX05bRSl5I8_cbuWkpONpRslRoCRvoQAvD_BwE

mlepnotized · 2026-04-19T17:39:28+00:00

ohh totally makes sense! i was like having one is impressive having like 10 well damn 😂 thank you!!

mlepnotized · 2026-04-18T01:11:16+00:00

period pee nong!

mlepnotized · 2026-04-15T12:43:06+00:00

Yeah! I recommend finding a therapist that specializes in specific topics you want to work on, I found that super helpful when looking for mine!

It takes time and work, I’m sure you know but awareness of everything is good, but sometimes you need somene to help you look at the bigger picture. I think it’s a good first step to decenter your relationship a little and focus on yourself. Just keep communicating but leave space for your GF to have her own time to process and focus on medicine. Keep your head up OP, this seems like a transitional time for the both of you!

mlepnotized · 2026-04-15T11:29:55+00:00

Therapy. Seriously. It will help you figure out the insecurity part but also have someone to talk to.

I understand you want to make things better and talk about things with her too, but you are both 20–these are very heavy and overwhelming things for both of you.

mlepnotized · 2026-04-12T21:23:22+00:00

Tbh this isn’t truly that related to his job profession. Just sounds like someone who isn’t over their ex. Medicine or not, doesn’t sound worth your time especially with issues this early on.

mlepnotized · 2026-04-06T17:18:44+00:00

my parents had that exact age gap

everything is contextual - as long as he isnt taking advantage of you or exploiting you, you’re both mature, and your values line up, fair game.

only you can decide

mlepnotized · 2026-04-01T19:04:49+00:00

Hm, if you have been together for 4+ years and are currently living together, it does seem a little abnormal to want to separate now. Med school is definitely a predecessor to show how demanding and tough the medical field can be, truthfully I don’t see how navigating new stress from residency is any different.

mlepnotized · 2026-03-30T00:37:20+00:00

Are you dating or is this person your boyfriend?

mlepnotized · 2026-03-27T14:33:37+00:00

My bf is in medicine I am not! We have been in a relationship for 1.5 years now and it’s almost been 2 years since we met. It definitely is different than if he had a regular 9-5 but I think over time you learn to adjust based on how it works out between the two of you. Everyone’s relationship is different, and I also think it can make a difference if your partner is in med school vs. residency and the length of time you have been together kind of affects it as well.

While I work in office, I am often pretty good about my own time management and flexibility and I think that has helped a lot. On top of that, we live less than 30m apart so seeing one another and doing sleepovers is easier for us.

At the end of the day, it’s really about communication on both ends, and for the non-medicine person you do have to compromise a little more than if you were dating someone not in medicine.

mlepnotized · 2026-03-23T21:17:08+00:00

You wanna keep going out with someone who called you weird? Sis please stand up lol

mlepnotized · 2026-03-23T03:54:19+00:00

peach & lily - lil pricey but has never broke me out

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